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by Michelle Arbeau

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Imagine changing the course of your life simply by using the right words. Like Dorothy in The Wizard of OZ, who ended up safely back in Kansas by saying the magic words, "There's no place like home," you are shaping your destiny every single day through the energy of the words you speak. The words you use on a regular basis, whether thought, spoken, or written, are constantly creating your reality.

Think about some of the positive (and negative) people you know. Have you noticed that happy, successful people tend to have a positive vocabulary? Positive people exude positive energy and like all things in existence, words carry their own energetic pattern that can affect our own.

A study done in 2005 by Robert Schrauf, titled "Negative Words Dominate Language," revealed that regardless of age or nationality, each group in the study produced the same results: Fifty percent of the words we use are negative, thirty percent are positive, and twenty percent are neutral. That's a staggering statistic—but the good news is that we have the ability to change it.¹

The latest in quantum physics has revealed that at the base of an atom isn't solid matter but frozen light particles (energy). This brings scientific clout to what the metaphysical community has believed for centuries: The basis of the universe and everything in it is energy. Words are no different, and also have their own energetic signature. The words we think, speak, and write carry an energetic pattern that can interact with our own personal energetic pattern in both positive and negative ways (depending on the words and how they are used). There are many ways to measure energy, but one of the best ways, in my opinion, is through numbers. Numbers are the language of the universe; all things can be sorted, measured or counted using numbers. In fact, all numbers in existence are created using the numbers one through nine (and also zero, which is a symbol rather than a number).

Language is a gift, as no other species can speak words in a conscious manner the way that humans can. Through this conscious awareness, we are able to shape our destiny through the powerful energy of words. The key to how and what we create is in the feelings we put behind those words.

It has been said by many great spiritual teachers of past and present that there are just two emotions, from which all other emotions are derived: fear and love. Do you know which one of these two base emotions is the dominant force in your life? The answer can be found by examining the words you use.

The words you use everyday have an undertone of either love or fear (positive or negative). Examining the words you use on a daily basis will help you understand which of the base emotional patterns you're creating with.

The word love (when assigned numerical values) adds to 18 and reduces to the base number 9 (1+8=9). The 9 represents both the beginning and the end of a cycle, is the highest change pattern, and is considered the selfless humanitarian energy (as an example, the sum of the birth dates of both Gandhi and Mother Teresa is 9). Phrases such as, "Love is all there is" or, "Love conquers all" certainly ring true.

The word fear, on the other hand, vibrates to an energetic frequency of 3, the number of imagination and memory. Fears and phobias originate in the mind; we can imagine all sorts of irrational thoughts. In the negative, 3 is self-doubting and self-critical. Phrases such as, "Your mind is running away with you" or, "It's all in your imagination" support the energetic meaning of the word fear.

Now that you understand the energetic definitions of the words "love" and "fear," how do you identify with which one you create?

Grab a piece of paper and make a list of the top twenty words you use most often. Categorize them into two columns based on what you feel is their base energy: Love or Fear. Since many of us speak more negative words than positive words, it may seem at first that your list is a little lopsided.

If you do have more words in the Fear category, it's definitely time to pick new words. Negative words are like energetic junk food, and can have a strong negative influence on what you're creating in your life moment by moment.

Start changing out your negative words for a positive version by setting a goal of one word per week. Use the new word in sentences (written and spoken) as often as possible, and put it on sticky notes where it's visible to you throughout the day. These are just a couple of suggestions, but feel free to create your own strategy. It's important to find a method that works for you so that you'll stick with it. Don't expect overnight changes, but do expect over time to see your life shift into positivity with the more you think, speak, and write in the positive.

The challenge is to change your driving force from a place of fear to love—and you can start by changing your vocabulary. Words, like our mind, are tools to help us manifest what we want in life. Our feelings are the energetic momentum behind those tools, guiding the energy in a positive or negative direction. The bottom line is that the people, places, and things with which you interact should make you feel good. If they don't, that's your cue to change them.

To go more in-depth with your list and to discover the precise energetic definition of your word list, pick up a copy of The Energy of Words: Use the Vibration of Language to Manifest the Life You Desire. In it you'll find a word conversion chart to calculate a word's numerical pattern, strategies for changing your language patterns, how to create personalized affirmations that actually work, a glossary of the top positive and negative words, and many more tools to help you successfully modify your language patterns.

¹ Schrauf, Robert W. and Julia Sanchez (2004), "The Preponderance of Negative Emotion Words Across Generations and Across Cultures," Journal of Multilingual and Multicultural Development, 25:(2–3), 266–284.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2013. All rights reserved.

I was adopted. I think my birth date is 6/20/1961. Unfortunately, I don't know the time. For many years (before receiving my amended birth certificate), we celebrated my birthday on June 21. When the birth certificate arrived, we learned that I had actually been born on June 20. I recently became interested in astrology, and I've become very frustrated in not knowing exactly when I was born. Does one day make a difference? I now understand that both June 20 and June 21 are on the Cancer cusp. It seems like Gemini and Cancer are total opposites, so I really don't know what to think! Any wisdom you can send my way would be appreciated!

Mel

Susyn:

You pose an interesting question. Astrology is a wonderful tool for self-discovery. Since you were adopted, you may find it even more fascinating.

You might be able to discover the exact time of your birth by contacting the hospital or courthouse where you were born. They should have a more detailed record of your birth, including the time.

If that's not available, a professional astrologer can help you determine the approximate time of your birth through a process called rectification. This involves reviewing certain events in your life, learning more about how you respond to life situations, and examining your overall nature.

It's helpful to have an approximate time of birth to extract the most information from your astrological chart. This assures that the planets are correctly placed in your chart and determines your ascendant or rising sign. This is a point in the chart that determines how you respond to the outside world as well as your physical features. It determines the start of the first house in a chart, which embodies the personal aspects of your life.

Being born on a cusp usually generates a combination of the sun sign traits on either side of that cusp. Thus everyone born from June 20 to 30 will carry both Gemini and Cancer traits. This is valid for all the signs. For instance, if you are an Aries born in March or a Libra born in September, you will operate under the combined influence of your sign and the sign preceding yours.

Geminis and Cancers are indeed very different. Which tendencies you inherit from each sign will depend on other factors in your chart. You may find it difficult to meld the intellectual prowess of a Gemini with the emotional depth of a Cancer, but once you do, you'll have the advantage of being able to clearly determine both your thoughts and your feelings regarding any situation.

You may find it helpful to list the characteristics of Geminis and Cancers. Review these lists and underline all traits that apply to you. From this exercise, you'll see you carry a combination of both and have the potential to develop the others. For instance, if you have many ideas you would like to share (a Gemini quality), but are too shy to do so (a Cancer trait), you can adopt a manner of personal expression that works for you such as blogging, or get involved in a group in order to overcome your shyness.

I encourage you to continue your study of astrology, for the more you learn, the more you will come to know and understand both yourself and others on a deeper level.

*****

Mata:

It's important to point out that you are only talking about your sun sign, which is just a small portion of your chart. From the day of your birth you can determine your sun sign, but to cast a full chart, you will need the exact time and place of your birth as well.

There is a method called time rectification through which an astrologer works backwards to try to determine the exact date and time of birth. To begin this process, an astrologer would ask you about the timing of all sorts of major life events such as getting married, having a child, traumatic experiences, serious illnesses, the loss of loved ones to death, big victories, etc.

By examining the timing of these life-changing events, an experienced and knowledgeable astrologer may be able to determine your exact birth date and time. This is a lot of work, of course, so you would be wise to choose someone of unquestionable skill and experience before you invest in having this done.

However, you've mentioned that you now have a birth certificate. In light of this, it would be wise to revise your former assumptions about your birthday and use this information as the basis of determining your sun sign.

Perhaps your birth mother didn't officially report your birth until a day after you were born because she needed time to think over the huge decision of giving you up for adoption. Perhaps she just wanted to have one day with you before she delivered you into the arms of your adoptive mother. I can think of many reasons why you may actually have been born a day earlier than your adoptive parents believed.

Of course, astrology is just one of many great tools for studying your nature and the plans your soul may have for this lifetime. Since astrology is so dependent on knowing the exact time of birth, it may not be the best tool for you.

You may find numerology or some other spiritual practice a better fit. In numerology, you only need your date of birth and your name to begin a full analysis. Numerology also takes into account things like name changes, so if your birth name and your adoptive names are different, you can work with that information to explore both your deeper nature and the higher purpose behind being adopted.

It also may be possible to be hypnotically regressed back to the time of your birth, and in this way access detailed information about the date, time and other circumstances. A gifted hypnotherapist can also regress you to the period before you were born to get information about your soul's plans for this life.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.