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Double Vision Psychic Advice

psychic-advice-july-7Are Dream Encounters with Departed Friend Real or Imagined?

I used to dream of a dear male friend who passed away many years ago. I always talk to him, knowing he is there in spirit. Even now when I think of him, I see his kind smile and get a warm feeling. Are these dreams real? I feel I have a special connection with him. Before he died, I dreamed of spirits trying to awaken me all the time and talk to me. I did not like this. After he passed away, I had a dream of him coming and taking all the spirits away into what looked like a portal. I feel as if he is always there for me. Are these dreams real or my imagination?


I can assure you that the dreams and visions you are having of your friend are real. You are blessed that he can visit you so often. Based on your description of him taking away all the spirits who were bothering you, it sounds like he has assigned himself to the position of your special spirit guide and protector.

The fact that you have had previous dreams of spirits trying to wake you up and talk with you verifies that you are sensitive to perceiving entities. Long before your friend came to you, it seems other spirits were also seeking you out. This is common when a spirit discovers a sensitive person who may be able to help them communicate with this realm. Once they know they can be seen or heard, they will invite others. Even though you did not know these spirits in life, they were attracted to you because they sensed you would be able to perceive them.

Your friend’s spirit is always around you. I am certain that he sends you other signs of his presence as well. The more you pay attention to them, the more you will notice certain songs, sounds, smells or comments that other people make that bring him instantly to your mind.

Many of our beloved spirit guides and guardian angels will make their presence known during our dreams, for this is a time when we’re at peace and free from the distractions of the outside world. Though you do not mention any specific details about the dreams you have of him, you should start to pay close attention to them and record them, for these dreams may carry important messages he is trying to send to you. I recommend keeping a regular journal of the dreams to see if what occurs in them actually plays out in real life.

Although you know you will never see your friend again on the earth plane, you can rest assured that the connection between you two is strong enough to transcend the space between the earth and the spirit world, for loving bonds are soul-based and thus unaffected by physical death.

If you do not want to wait for your friend’s visits through dreams, you can invite him to a conversation via a guided meditation. Simply gather together a few white candles and some sage incense along with any objects or photos that remind you of him. Light the candles and incense and then focus your attention on him. You can talk out loud or talk with him silently in your mind. You can also trust that the responses you hear in your mind are directly from him.

Be sure to thank him for visiting and protecting you, and remind him what a blessing it is to have a friend who can defy time and space to connect with you in spirit form.


While I respect and understand your skepticism, I have to assure you that it’s not only possible for spirits to visit us in dreams, it’s actually one of the easiest ways for them to interact with us. This makes the sort of experiences you describe very common.

Just last night I was blessed with a number of dream visits from my departed father. In those dreams, I was excited to see him because I knew he had died and I hadn’t had a visit from him in quite some time. When I woke up in the morning, I wanted to spend more time with him, so I kept hitting the snooze button on my alarm clock and going back into the dream.

Each time I did this, we would find each other again in a setting similar, but not identical, to the place we had met in the last dream. It was as if we had to wander around a bit to relocate each other. We had deep conversations about how he finds me when I’m dreaming and whether or not I could set out to find him too. He made it clear to me that it was much easier for him to find and visit me than for me the do the same.

Although I woke up full of wonder at how involved and in- depth our conversations had been in these dreams, I still questioned if they were real. While I was still half asleep, I heard the sound of a phantom doorbell, which is the sound of a doorbell ringing that almost sounds physically real but not quite. I took this as a sign of confirmation from my father that these were indeed real visits.

I’ve explained all of this to illustrate a point: One rule of thumb for determining if a dream about a departed loved one is a real visit is whether you are aware in the dream that this person is dead. When we have dreams about spirits as and somehow know or acknowledge that they are not alive in this dimension anymore, we can be pretty sure we’re receiving a visit from them. You didn’t tell us much about what happened in the dreams, but you did mention that you knew that he was there in spirit. I therefore think it’s safe to assume that he has really been visiting you.

As for how and why this is happening, given your prior experiences with spirits, it sounds as if you are something of a natural medium. When spirits recognize someone who may be able to perceive them, they tend to gather around. I bet if you were to choose to develop your spiritual gifts, you would soon be able to communicate with spirits in a conscious, purposeful manner.

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On Dying and Coming Back

SmallCoverBy Robert Moss

I first died in this lifetime when I was three years old. My great aunt the opera singer saw this in the tea leaves but didn’t talk about it until long after. What she did not see was that – as a doctor at the hospital in Hobart, Tasmania told my parents – I “died and came back”. That is still the term I prefer to use of these experiences. I don’t remember much of what happened when I left my body at age three, only that it was very hard to live in a body in this world after I came back, and that I felt that my home reality was somewhere else.

At nine, I died again during emergency appendectomy in a Melbourne hospital. This time I seemed to live a whole life somewhere else, among a beautiful people who raised me as their own. I came back remembering that other life and that other world. It still wasn’t easy for me to live in the ordinary world, and I was nostalgic for that other world. The gift of these experiences, and my persisting illness (I had double pneumonia twelve times between the ages of three and eleven) was an inner life that was rich and prolific, and an ability to move between states of consciousness and reality at will.
 The first person who gave me a model for understanding what had happened to me was an Aboriginal boy. He told me, “When we get real sick, our spirit goes away. We go and live with the spirit people. When we get well, we come back.”

At age eleven, I had the vision of a great staff of burning bronze with a serpent wrapped around it that seemed to fill half the sky. Right after that, I came very near death for a third time, back in hospital with pneumonia. But this time, I came back healed, and was able to live a relatively normal life – except that in my mind, the dream world was my “normal”.

I had to be fairly quiet about these things, growing up in a conservative time in Australia, in a military family. But as I grew older, I was able to do more and more with the gifts of dreaming. My dreams of ancient cultures led me to my first job, as lecturer in ancient history at the Australian National University. My dreams of possible future events enabled me to avoid death on the road, quite literally, on three occasions.

In the mid-1980s, I left the fast-track life of a bestselling thriller writer and moved to a farm 130 miles north of New York City, thanks to a hawk and a white oak. I found myself drawn into trans-temporal dramas and the spirit world of a Native American people. I became deeply engaged in issues and dramas from the life of an 18th century Irishman, a major historical figure who knew the Mohawk very well. My engagement with him opened a link to a woman of his time, an extraordinary dream shaman, the Mother of the Wolf Clan of her people, who tried to influence him and most certainly succeeded in influencing me. She reminded me why dreaming is central to healing, and I cherish our continuing relationship across time. I learned what it means to be so deeply involved with a personality from another time that your lives turn together. I was eventually required to undergo death and rebirth in the mode of a shaman. I see now that, as with the years Jung recorded in his Red Book, all the important work of my subsequent life has flowed from this stormy period of spiritual emergence.

What happened to me in midlife was another experience of dying and coming back. I learned that when you change your life, your true friends are those who will support you through that change and your worst friends are those who try to keep you in the frame of past expectations.

Dreams showed me how to find my way in my new life as a dream author and dream teacher. Young children, especially my own daughters, became my most important mentors in ordinary life on what dreams require from a family or community. Time among children confirmed my understanding that dreams are for real, that there is magic in making things up, and that we change the world when we tell a better story about it.

I started teaching what I had learned, and learned through teaching. I found, as Emerson counseled, that “there is one direction is which space is open to us.” When I followed my calling, doors opened in astonishing ways. When I slipped back and away from my path, doors stayed resolutely closed. I am grateful for that.

I was now able to give people who were willing to share dreams and other experiences of the larger reality the confirmation and validation I had desperately needed as a lonely boy. I developed an original synthesis of contemporary dreamwork and primal shamanic methods for shifting consciousness and operating in the spirit worlds, and called this Active Dreaming. I found people everywhere were hungry for this. The more I gave them, the more happy and fulfilled I felt. I knew joy every time I saw more of spirit shining in someone’s eyes in one of my workshops.

Robert Moss is the author of The Boy Who Died and Came Back and numerous other books about dreaming, shamanism, and imagination. He is a novelist, poet, and independent scholar, and the creator of Active Dreaming, an original synthesis of dreamwork and shamanism. He leads creative and shamanic adventures all over the world. Visit him online at www.mossdreams.com.
Based on the book The Boy Who Died and Came Back ©2014 by Robert Moss. Printed with permission of New World Library, Novato, CA. www.newworldlibrary.com

Double Vision: Rarely have Pleasant Dreams….

DV dreams42-24127431I have often heard that when we’re dreaming, we go to a place where we can heal from the issues that face us in our waking lives. If this is so, I can’t understand why I am constantly plagued by unsettling dreams. They are not true nightmares, but are generally unpleasant experiences, where I am feeling frustrated or frightened, where I fail at something or lose the respect of someone I care about. I rarely have pleasant dreams. Why is this happening? What does it mean, and what can I do to change it? (I am a Taurus, born 5-2-71). – H.


H., I am so glad you asked these questions. Dreams are enigmas to most of us. I agree that when we sleep, our souls leave our bodies and go to where they need to go to do whatever work needs doing. Two things jumped out at me right away with your question. The first is that you obviously only remember the disturbing dreams. You have lots of happy, joyful dreams, but you do not remember them.

The second thing that stands out is that you allow yourself to FEEL in the dream world what you do not allow yourself to feel in THIS world. You are normally buttoned up pretty tightly for the outside world. You tend to give of yourself for others’ happiness.

When someone says something hurtful, you just keep moving. If someone is frustrating you, you find a way around the situation. You obviously need an outlet for your emotions and your feelings. When you sleep, you go and find that outlet.

It is actually a very good thing that you have these dreams and that you deal with these emotions in them. I do not think you should be trying to find a way to turn them off. I think you should be glad that you get to work out so many issues while you sleep. Imagine if you had to deal with ALL that stuff while you were awake. Can you imagine?

By being able to do all this soulwork in your sleep, your conscious mind and emotions get bypassed, and the lesson is learned on a soul level. By bypassing your emotions, you bypass the drama and trauma that comes along with the venting of frustration, anger or any emotion.

You also protect yourself from the emotions of inadequacy, loss, failure, fear, etc. If you could not work these issues out in your sleep, they would absolutely surface in your waking time. Are you sure you want to turn those dreams off?

Start keeping a pad and a pen by your bed. When you wake up from one of these dreams, I want you to write down all the pertinent information you can remember. Be sure to say enough that you will remember what you are talking about later. Let them all sit for a week or so, and then go back and look over what you wrote.

See if you can see a pattern or if the dreams make sense to you when you look back on them. If you can start to see the work they do, you will stop resenting them so much. You will also begin to see some patterns, and that will help you learn in your waking hours as well.

I understand that dreams can boggle our minds. I have some crazy ones myself. Do not fear the work your soul does when you are not looking. Your soul has your best interests at heart.

I wish you peace-full sleep!


We dream a million dreams for a million different reasons. It sounds like right now, you are probably experiencing a little more stress than normal in your life. The more frustrated you become about the dreams, the more they will haunt you. Doing a few little rituals to get into the “healing dream” frame of your subconscious before going to bed will help you get in touch with more PLEASANT dreams.

Begin a dream diary and write down ALL the parts of all the dreams that you can remember. You’ll begin to see a pattern develop, and this will help you understand what’s going on with you. A dream diary can come in handy in case you ever decide to call in some kind of professional help, too!

About an hour before you want to go to sleep, dim the lights around you so that you are EASING into slumber, not crashing into it. Sleep is a tricky process, and light impedes it.

A soft reading lamp or candlelight will relax you more as you get ready for a peaceful night. Of course, don’t forget to BLOW OUT THE CANDLE!

A glass of warm milk has natural relaxing properties, even if you have to drink the skim stuff. Milk is one of the “magic substances” that never lets me down.

There are relaxing teas if you can’t handle the thought of milk before bed. Make this a part of bedtime at least an hour before you nod off.

Play some soft music, and be sure and turn off the television. Stay away from stimulating reading; even Fairy Tales can cause unsettling dreams.

If you read before bed, choose happy subject matter. NEVER EVER, while you’re experiencing disturbing or negative dreams, take work to bed with you!

Lastly, write a paragraph in your dream diary about what you’re seeking before you go to sleep, such as healing, clarity, peace. Whatever it is you want from your dreams, write it down CONSCIOUSLY so that your subconscious has a chance to grasp it for a while before it actually has to go to work. You’ll be amazed after a while how you can control your dreams’ subject matter.

You’re having good, healing dreams too, but you aren’t able to remember them, because the unpleasant ones are making more of an impression on you than the pleasant ones. Many people have this going on. It seems to happen more often in the fall. The Earth is “dying,” and we are more focused on the negative.

It’s only natural, sometimes, that we would be more tuned in to darkness than to light. Cycles exist in every part of our lives. This is only ONE of those cycles. Exercise your natural abilities more, and your dreams will please you again.

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