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Advice: Connect with Departed Loved Ones in Dreams

throughfogDear Kajama:
In a recent email reply to me, you stated that there are many things that I can do to both remember my dreams and to consciously manifest the dream experiences I desire. (I very much want to connect with a departed loved one via my dreams, but I doubt that I dream at all since I can never remember my dreams.) Can you please elaborate and help me understand how I can work with my dreams so that I can be successful in connecting with my beloved angel Sam? I desperately want to dream of him so that I can be with him one more time. Thanks for all of your help.

Dear Del:

There is a definite correlation between our ability to remember and work with our dreams and our ability to manifest other psychic experiences like connecting with departed loved ones. In fact, a great way to begin to develop psychically is by working with your dreams. Since you also want to visit with a loved one in your dreams, then learning how to work with your dreams in a general way is where we should start.

While many people believe that they don’t dream because they can’t remember dreaming, everyone does dream. What you need to do is build a stronger bridge between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind, for this is at the heart of remembering and working with your dreams and also psychic feats like tuning in to your intuition and learning how to connect with spirits.

I will give you my number one most powerful tip for remembering your dreams in detail first: allow yourself to wake up and fall asleep many times every morning. If you allow yourself to linger in that hazy state of mind somewhere between being asleep and dreaming and being wide awake, you will begin to remember all sorts of dreams. If you can’t sleep in because you must be somewhere at a certain time, then set your alarm for 90 minutes before you have to get up and hit the snooze button over and over. This one practice alone should get things really rolling for you, but here are some other tips for remembering your dreams:

  • Don’t drink alcohol before bed.
  • Record your dreams by writing down everything you can remember of them and their overall feeling as soon as you wake up. If you wake up at 2 a.m. remembering a dream, jot down a couple of key words to help you remember it in the morning. When you wake up in the morning, review those scribbles and write down the rest. If you can’t remember dreaming in the morning, then write down your mood when you awaken and anything else that comes to mind. Try stream of consciousness journaling.
  • Most of us only remember the last dream we had, so to remember more dreams, you can also try programming yourself to wake up periodically throughout the night. As the average sleep cycle is around 90 minutes, you might set an alarm to wake you up every hour and a half or so, at least during the second half of the night when your need for deep sleep has been met and you’ll be spending more time in REM.
  • When you awaken in the morning, don’t open your eyes or change position. Being in the same position you were in when you were dreaming aids dream recall.
  • Read about dreams, especially at night before you’re going to sleep. I highly recommend books by my favorite author on dreams, Robert Moss. He also teaches wonderful workshops around the world.
  • Tell the Universe what you want, and work with the law of attraction to manifest it.

There are of course some very powerful ways to both build that bridge between your subconscious and conscious minds and to foster your aim of connecting with a loved one in Spirit. One is regular meditation, and the other is learning how to astral travel. There are vast and wonderful books written on both of these subjects, so I won’t go into details here. I do, however, want to recommend the books of Bruce Moen, who travels into the dimension of the afterlife to connect with departed loved ones and help lost spirits. You can learn how to astral travel and find the one you’re looking for yourself.

I was pondering this column as I was falling asleep last night, and I realized that I hadn’t been visited in my dreams by my father in some months now. I then awoke around 2 a.m. and realized I had just had a wonderful dream. In the dream, I was invited/allowed to ride this special train with my father. I couldn’t really see him, but I could feel him all around me. There was music playing throughout the train, and it was the music of my beautiful memories of him. I rode this train for a long time, much of that time, crying tears of love and joy as I listened to the music of those beautiful memories. I remember knowing that I was allowed to ride this train for as long as I desired, so I rode and rode that train, listening and crying and reliving those memories. When I awoke, I had this deeply satisfied feeling, like my desire for more time with my Dad had at last been satisfied. I also repeated to myself, Dad, train, music every time I awoke throughout the night so I would be sure to remember this important dream in the morning.

Finally, I’m working on a system to teach people both how to connect with their loved ones in dreams and in a trance state. Given that I’m quite a perfectionist, it’s proving to be quite a challenge. Stay tuned; I will get it done one day!

– Kajama hearticontiny

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Amazing Story Contest for the Week of January 20, 2014

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lavenderosesby Yvonne

My husband passed away in early November of this year after a brief illness. He was my best friend and soulmate. During the last ten days of his life, we were staying at a beautiful hospice. We had many visitors and several bouquets of lovely yellow roses, which were a family emblem.

During one of his moments of clarity, I asked him if he would let me know if he was okay after he passed over, and he said he would. We have both had a very strong spiritual connection over our 27 years together, and I truly believed.

The day after he died, I was feeling so desolate. My son, daughter-in-law and granddaughter had been with me for part of the day, and then I had left the house for a while. When I came back, sitting on the table was a beautiful bouquet of lavender roses and white snapdragons. My daughter had brought them in when I was out. The tag said that they were from a childhood friend of my son’s who could not attend the celebration of my husband’s life but wanted to show that he cared. He had said to my son, I hope she likes purple roses.

My tears flowed and a beautiful feeling of love and peace came over me. None of them could have known that the special love roses that my husband and I gave to each other over the years were lavender. For me, this was a loving message from my husband through my son’s friend to indeed let me know that he was okay.

Yvonne has won a free chat or email reading with Cindy Attar. Cindy’s gifts include mediumship; she can connect with departed loved ones and deliver messages from them. To learn more about her work and schedule a reading with her today, visit cindyattar.com.

angelachristineborderedNext week’s winner  of the Amazing Story Contest will win a free psychic reading with Angela Christine. Angela is an ordained minister (high priestess) through Our Lady of Enchantment Seminary of Wicca in Clearlake, CA. She has been reading auras and chakras for 21 years. Angela is also a credentialed Spiritual Wellness Advisor through Universal Class and has a Bachelor’s in English and a Bachelor’s in Environmental Studies. Her main area of focus is YOU and the highest potential you can achieve through spiritual work. For more information, visit integrativespirithealing.com.

If you’re hoping for a free psychic reading, this is a great way to win one: just share an amazing personal spiritual experience with us. Each week, we’ll pick the best story and the author of it will win a free psychic reading from the reader offering one that week. Stories should be true, amazing, and be either about you or someone you personally know. Winners will be notified by email, and winning stories will be posted here each Monday.

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Heaven’s Ledger

heavensledgerby Sara Wiseman

What if everything you might consider as your life’s purpose was nothing? What if all your accomplishments, when you arrived for your reckoning in heaven, nirvana, beyond the veil, wherever you believe you are going…what if these were taken out and examined and found to be nothing – no longer shiny and bright but drab and shabby, as if collected and carted in an old grocery bag?

What if they were looked at – all your pretty things – and then discarded to float away on the breeze, the bright white tail of one particularly favorite accomplishment sent flapping, pale and gentle as a kite rising. Everything taken out and looked at and discarded, until, when you reached the bottom of the bag, there was nothing left.


Nothing counted enough to be considered your finest accomplishment. Nothing counted enough to be considered your finest achievement. Your whole illustrious, successful, important, rewarded life, was determined a wash. Nothing counted. You arrived with nothing.

And still they let you in.

There may or may not be a pearly gate to heaven’s door, guarded by St. Peter. There may or may not be a time of reckoning, with points tallied up and sins examined under a celestial microscope. It is your choice to believe in this version of the afterlife or not – for really, what does anyone know?

Few have crossed the line and returned to tell. And what they do tell – of white tunnels, bright light and angels – doesn’t seem to cover a ledger in the clouds for naughty or nice.

When you lift off from the idea of right or wrong, good or bad…when you take the punitive moralistic views out of the equation, and focus instead on heart’s opening into compassion, into connection, into love…this becomes the true measure of our lives.

Not what job we had, but how much we cared for others. Not how much money we made, but how much we loved. Not how many trips we took, but how much we enjoyed.

If you were to look at your life this way, outside of the usual bucket list of achievements and experiences, how does your life measure? How much has your heart opened, thus far? How much more would you like it to open into gratitude, for what you have experienced thus far? Start today by simply asking for this opening into thanks.

Excerpted from Living a Life of Gratitude: Your Journey to Grace, Healing & Joy (Llewellyn), by Sara Wiseman. Printed here with permission.
Spiritual teacher and intuitive Sara Wiseman is the author of six insightful books on spirituality and intuition, including Living a Life of Gratitude and Becoming Your Best Self. She hosts the popular radio show Ask Sara, and is a top contributor to DailyOM, Vivid Life and others. She has released four healing music CDs with her band, Martyrs of Sound. Visit her online at sarawiseman.com.