by Ann Albers

There is life after death! I have no doubt after tuning in and talking to the spirits of those who have crossed over. When I first began to detect the presence of those spirits, I questioned my sanity. I would get a vague notion that there was someone in the room, much like you feel a person walking up from behind you. In time, I began to get a sense of whether or not the spirit was male or female and began to receive information about the type of relationship this soul had with my clients.

When I get a strong connection with someone in spirit, they put words, pictures, and whole sentences in my mind. They have shown me what it is like to die. They’ve gifted me beautiful visions of heaven. And they’ve given great insight into the nature of life as well.

We are souls before birth and after death. Your soul is your essence that exists with or without your body. The soul is the part of you that has never forgotten its connection with the Divine. When we die only the body dies. The soul is eternal and continues to exist in other realms.

The dying process is really amazing. So many spirits have taken me through it vicariously I can honestly say that there is nothing to fear. In the case of sudden deaths, such as accident or heart attack, there is often very little pain. The person feels a twinge or a jolt and then the spirit often separates prior to feeling any further discomfort. There is sometimes a slight vertigo or a lift-off feeling and then the person often wonders at the commotion around them because they don’t always realize that they have died!

Sometimes they come to this realization when they see their angels or loved ones in spirit around them. At other times, they are simply given a knowing. Still others have told me they realized they were dead only when they saw their body. They were amazed at how alive they looked and felt. The spirit might hang around the family or the body for a short time, typically less than three days before officially crossing over, as they call it.

Crossing over usually involves some wonderfully blissful experience of floating or traveling through a healing, warm light. Often this is described as a tunnel-experience, but some souls have shown me that they floated through colorful clouds, or passed in and out of rainbows. It seems to vary with the individual. Next the spirit finds him or herself in some version of heaven. This may be a beautiful place that they recognize from earth, a childhood home, a place they always longed to visit or somewhere else that is indescribably beautiful. For souls who were bedridden and died in their sleep, they often wake up in what I call a bed and breakfast hospital in heaven! They have shown me scenes of feather beds in rooms with windows overlooking beautiful vistas. This scenario allows them to become accustomed to the idea that they have passed in a very gentle and loving manner.

Once the soul realizes he or she is dead, they are often filled with awe and wonder at the experience of heaven. Far from being the harp and trumpet scenario of my upbringing, heaven seems to be a replica of an earthly paradise. In that realm, thought creates. You can build a whole house simply by holding the idea in your mind with focus. You can change your appearance to be any age, or anything at all, but most people choose to remain close to their favorite age here on earth. They tell me that you will recognize their spirit when you cross over, no matter what they look like!

Many souls decide to rest and enjoy the best heaven has to offer for years and years after they cross. Some souls decide to create jobs in heaven, such as greeting the newly deceased, taking care of pets or children who die before their owners, or perhaps praying for a certain group of people or a situation on earth. For example, one young man who passed early in life joined a group of young people in heaven who were sending positive energy and prayers to the Middle East to avert wars. Another young man who recovered in heaven after committing suicide told me that he is sponsoring a young man here on earth; that is, serving as a guide so this young man doesn’t have to create a disaster in his life too. I have been amazed at the creativity and diversity up there!

And where exactly is up there? Technically speaking, heaven is simply a different dimension of band of frequencies superimposed on our reality! Just like there are radio and television waves passing through you and your house at this moment, there are different frequencies or realities existing all at once. Thank goodness we are not receivers for all of them or it would get quite confusing! However, we can learn to tune into and work with our deceased loved ones.

Communicating with Your Loved Ones

If you have lost someone you love, realize that it may be more difficult for them to get your attention if you are still grieving and in pain. Turbulent emotions create psychic static, and although your loved ones are there, you might not be able to hear them. Wait until you feel peaceful and then try the following:

Create some quiet time for yourself every day. Listen to soothing music, meditate, or take a walk. Still your mind.

Sit down and shut your eyes once you are peaceful. Imagine your loved one sitting across from you. Mentally ask a question or simply ask them what they’d like to tell you today.

Wait. Trust the first thing that comes to mind, whether words, images, or just a quick thought. Do not edit and do not doubt. You will probably think you are making these things up until one day when you receive information you could not have known otherwise. Practice.

Be aware that some days you will have a clearer connection than others. On the days when you can’t connect, don’t assume your loved one isn’t there. Just as there are days when the traffic pollution is worse than others, there are days when the emotional pollution on the planet is worse than others. On these days, it requires greater stillness of mind to get a good connection.

Your loved ones want to help you after they pass on. You are not distracting them from enjoying their heavenly life by asking for their assistance. Time is different up there. They seem to have time to enjoy the afterlife and to help us as well. They are not judging you and they don’t spy on you, but they will definitely be a loving presence by your side.

You may perceive a change in their energy after some time. Eventually souls decide that they have enjoyed enough of an earthly paradise and they choose to go completely back to their spiritual essence. In that space, they know themselves to be connected to everyone and everything – a part of the Divine essence – and yet they still maintain their individuality. At this stage, they feel much like an angel when you perceive them: wise, loving, and unconditionally accepting of your choices.

Printed here with permission of the author. Ann Albers is a popular spiritual instructor, angel communicator, lecturer, and author. She is a traditional Reiki master and a modern mystic who delights in distilling ancient wisdom into practical, down-to-earth tools for modern living. For more on her wonderful work, visit her website,