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Tips for Making Everyday Moments Magickal, by Phoenix LeFae

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

Every moment of life is magickal, but our awareness and ability to hold that awareness is the challenge. The mundane aspects of life might trick us into believing that regular tasks lack magick. This feeling increases when we have to do things we don't want to do. There are ways to make everyday moments magickal—it just takes a little shift in perspective. That shift comes through the form of ritual. Ritual is the deeply reverent practice of casting a circle, calling the corners, and performing magickal arte, but ritual is also done in the small places of everyday life.

Daily practice and rituals don't have to look like sitting in silence; long, quiet meditations; or a special drawn-out process. So, how do you add simple practical rituals into your everyday moments without the pomp and drama of a fully fledged ritual? Good news, it's totally easy.

Daily Ritual
There are parts of daily life that can be ritualized with just a simple shift in focus and attention. By shifting your energy when you engage in these tasks, you bring more of your spirit and power into them. We all have daily tasks that must be done; why not add magick into these moments?

Bathing
We all bathe. Bathing happens on the regular. Long ritual baths are delightful. Filling a bathtub with roses and salts, lighting candles, and playing soft music makes a lovely ritual. But it takes a lot of time, set up, and clean up. It's not really ideal for daily life or daily ritual.

Rather than worrying about setting the time aside to take a ritual bath, turn your regular bathing routine into a ritual with your intention.

• Keep salt scrubs in your showers and do a cleansing salt scrub every time you wash.
• Take a moment, literally just a moment, to connect with the water. Let yourself feel the water pouring over you. Feel grateful for the presence of water in your life.
• After washing, step fully into the stream of water and let it cleanse your spirit. Notice if there is anything stuck in your energy field that needs to be released and let the water shift it, letting it flow down the drain.

Food
Making and eating food is a daily practice we all need to survive and it is the perfect time to implement rituals. Cook with intention, even if that is just putting a frozen dinner into the microwave. Singing words of gratitude over your plate before eating it will charge it with your gratitude and bring more blessings your way. Gratitude begets things to be grateful for. Make cooking and eating a ritual. This doesn't mean you have to be serious and eat in silence. There is a lot of joy and silliness that can be part of ritual, too.

• Add ingredients with intention, understand what the magickal correspondences of herbs and spices are. Include things that are in alignment with the goals you want to achieve.
• Say prayers over your food as you prepare it and before you eat it.
• Take a moment to honor the food. Whatever you eat had to give of itself for you to eat it, honor that sacrifice with your gratitude. Be grateful for the hands that picked that food, the truck drivers that drove it to your store, the people that work at the shop that help you, and the hands that cooked it.
• Add herbs or essences into the water that you drink throughout the day. Make each cup of water you drink a ritual and a prayer. Chant words of empowering or blessings over your cup before you take your first sip.

Cleaning
We all have to clean up. We wash dishes, do laundry, clean the cat box, and even scrub toilets. Engaging your magickal self when doing these mundane activities helps you to bring ritual into the everyday. This is even more important when doing chores you don't like. For example: I really dislike washing the dishes. When I do the dishes, I use this as a time of meditation. I focus on my breath, I go within, and let myself be with myself. Washing the dishes has become a meditative practice in my daily life. It is a way to bring ritual into the mundane.

Magickal Moments
Try setting aside small moments in your life to work as triggers for magickal moments as you move through the day. Ritual doesn't have to take hours; it can literally be thirty seconds of awareness and focus. If you have a busy or highly scheduled life, you may need to insert these moments into your daily calendar. There are lots of apps both for spiritual work and for scheduling that can help you with this process. Technology can totally aid in your daily spiritual work.

Touchstones A touchstone is like a secret hint you put out into the world to help you remember important things. For example, whenever I put a key into a lock, I take a deep breath. The key and lock is a touchstone for me to intentionally breathe.

Touchstones can look like anything and they serve as reminders for whatever you need. You might pause and say a prayer every time you see the color pink. Perhaps you speak the name of a beloved ancestor any time you find a penny on the ground. Maybe you stop and feel deep gratitude whenever you hear a phone ring. Let your imagination run wild.

These touchstone moments are small rituals that pepper your day with magick. You never know when you will come across one of your touchstones. It creates an opportunity for you to pay attention to the magick that is happening in your world all the time.

Adventuring
A big part of connecting into daily magick and ritual comes from connecting into your part of the world. Get out into your neighborhood. Go into wild spaces near you. Take walks around your block and let yourself feel the buzz and thrum of your hometown. Learn where the spirits of the land dwell and connect with them. What are the cycles and seasons of your living place like?

• Track the Cycles: Keep a ledger or journal of the cycles and seasons where you live. Watch what plants grow and when. Notice the changes in weather. See how the moon phases change how things feel or look where you live.
• Sit Spot: Pick a time to connect with the land around you every day. Maybe it's the early morning or late night. It could be after work or mid-day. The time doesn't matter, it's the commitment that does. Go outside, or look outside your window, every day at the same time. Just notice what is going on out there is in the world.

Ritual and magick are a part of our everyday lives, we just have to be willing to see how they are intwined with everything we do. Yes, we have mundane things to do, clean toilets, pay bills, put gas in our cars. These things may not feel like rituals or magick, but they truly are, if we allow them to be.

We can easily bring more magick into our daily lives through the ritual of living. The big rituals are profound and moving, but it is truly the art of finding ritual and magick in our day to day that brings us into connection with all of the mystery that life holds.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2021. All rights reserved.

Some years ago, I was briefly involved with a guy I truly believed was my soul mate. At that time in my life, I was very responsible. For example, I always paid my bills as soon as they arrived. Then I broke up with my boyfriend and it was extremely painful; he kept me strung along thinking we might reconcile yet never offered me the the love and understanding I needed in order to patch things up. He made noises about his being a coward and avoiding things, including talking with me about our issues. I was emotionally tortured for years as I it took me a long time to realize we would never reconcile and I had to give up on thinking the two of us were meant to be. I am over him now though I still desperately wish I had not experienced the agony of that heartbreak. My issue now is this: after we broke up and I was devastated, I seemed to change a lot. I became far less responsible, often paying bills late or not at all, which of course damaged my previously perfect credit. It was like I was avoiding the bills, avoiding responsibility, and avoiding facing things. It was sort of like I had taken on my ex-boyfriend's character flaws. Does that sound crazy? Does that sort of thing happen? Or was there just something about the breakup that changed who I am? Is it a coincidence that it made me more like him? I can't explain why I started being less responsible, yet I did, and at times I feel powerless to force myself to be the way I was before. Even though I'm over the guy now, I haven't morphed back into the person I was before. Do you have any wisdom for me?

O.

Susyn:

This phenomenon is more common than you might imagine. When someone bonds with another on a deep level and then loses them through a break up, divorce or death, they can subconsciously take on the traits and behaviors of the missing person.

Metaphysically, we feel loss on many levels: emotionally, spiritually, physically and intellectually. Heartbreak can manifest in many ways. Where you were once responsible, there is a part of you that feels this is no longer important. In fact, when we lose a loved one, many things can seem to lose their former importance.

Even though you have come to terms with the breakup and believe that you are over him, your subconscious is attempting to find ways to stay connected. By mirroring his irresponsible behavior, you may be subconsciously trying to hold on to him.

When we put our heart and soul into a relationship, we freely give our energy to another person. If the other person doesn't reciprocate, we can feel like some part of ourselves has been stolen. When we then hang on to the past, it's usually because we are trying to reclaim the energy we once gave away so freely.

As a Capricorn, you feel deeply and give freely. There is another trait important to Capricorns that you once possessed but have now lost, and that is extraordinary responsibility. Until you can restore that part of your life, this situation will haunt you.

It's time to make a new commitment to yourself. Being truly happy means doing the right thing for you. Getting your finances in order, taking an inventory of your bills, and making a plan to regain your sense of balance may seem difficult, but it must be done eventually.

You will be amazed at how quickly your joy and self-esteem return once you begin to address the behaviors that aren't really a part of who you are or who you want to become. If you find it impossible to make a start, ask a trusted friend to help you, or look for a support group for getting out of debt.

As you concentrate on eliminating the uncharacteristic behaviors that have arisen since your breakup, your subconscious attachment to the past will start to dissolve. Once you reclaim who you really are, you will find it easier to move toward a bright and promising future with someone else.

*****

Oceania:

When we explore what's behind our emotional pain, we inevitably uncover hidden treasures. You have not yet morphed back to your old self because you have not yet discovered those gifts or lessons! I suspect they have to do with Anger and Commitment. It's certainly time to commit to yourself in a way this man couldn't.

The fact that you were emotionally tortured for years over someone with whom you were briefly involved leads me to look beyond your ex to explain your personal metamorphosis. To feel so attached to someone so quickly - to the point of calling them a soul mate - suggests that the dynamic between you felt familiar.

As a child, you probably coped with your parents' shortcomings by hoping they would change. That's a valid coping mechanism for children, but once we reach adulthood, it's more useful to see reality clearly and recognize people's limitations. While it felt devastating when he gave just enough to keep you hopeful yet never followed through with what you needed, it's important to note that you volunteered for this torture.

I'm reminded of a phenomenon called learned helplessness, which occurs when someone is repeatedly subjected to pain they can't escape, or when they have no control over their circumstances for an extended period of time. When the situation finally improves, the person doesn't take advantage of their new freedom to create positive change because they have learned to be helpless.

In a recent television interview, Diane Sawyer asked kidnapping victim Jaycee Dugard why she didn't leave her situation when escape became an ongoing possibility. Jaycee answered: It wasn't an option. On a smaller scale, you remained in an unfulfilling relationship when you could have walked out the door.

Your ex strung you along, misled you, and withheld love and understanding. You say you took on his character flaws when you avoided your responsibilities and stopped paying your bills on time. From what you wrote, it's easy to see that this man was not good partner material, yet it seems like you are punishing YOURSELF for the demise of the relationship by messing up things that are truly important to you.

Depression is sometimes called anger turned inward. Redirect your anger towards firmly maintaining wise boundaries so that you no longer allow hurtful treatment from anyone, including yourself. Turn self-destruction into self-preservation! You are not helpless. Reclaim your life one step at a time. Become the person you hoped your ex would be by exercising steadfast, loving commitment to creating the life you want to live.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.