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Dreams: What Are They Trying to Tell Us?

what-dreams-tell-us-3by Maria Shaw

(Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal.)

What is your subconscious trying to tell you? One good way to find out is through your dreams. When we sleep, our subconscious doesn’t need to battle with our conscious mind. Our emotional side is not challenged by our logic, so it’s easy for our subconscious to break through barriers. But it isn’t always easy to understand what it is trying to tell us. The subconscious relays messages in the form of dream symbols, or sometimes even bizarre dreams in which we are participants or observers. Think of a dream as a private movie screening of a film in which you play the leading role, or perhaps just sit in the front row of the theater.

Dreaming is one of the best ways for the subconscious mind to get your attention. Many people get psychic impressions from their dreams. Others may only dream when being forewarned about a situation. Some people think they never dream. They do, but probably can’t remember. In some dreams, our friends and family members may make an appearance. Even loved ones who have passed on can show up from time to time to say hello.

Prophetic and Recurring Dreams
There are two distinctly different types of psychic dreams: prophetic and recurring.

Prophetic dreams are those that give us a glimpse into the future. These dreams you will want to keep record of and attempt to interpret.

My friend Mona had a dream that I was in Italy and being followed by a handsome, young Italian man. She told me she dreamed of me going into a store while this man was watching me. She didn’t feel good about this guy, and described him as creepy. Her details were pretty vivid: I was all alone, it was during the day, and I was definitely in Italy.

Weeks later, my friend Julie asked me to go to Italy with her on a business trip. I was very excited and had completely forgotten about Mona’s dream. While Julie was busy with her meetings all day in Milan, I was sightseeing by myself. I went into a huge department store to shop and that’s where I noticed this older Italian man staring at me. I felt uncomfortable and went into another department. He followed. I casually walked into another department to see if I could lose him. He was right behind me. Then I got on the escalator and went downstairs. He made his way to the escalator, too. Off I went into another department. He was there! I made a bee-line for the front door of the store, pushed my way through a crowd of people, got on the subway and lost him. My friend’s dream was pretty accurate. But her description of this “stalker” was off. He wasn’t handsome at all!

This is a good example of a prophetic dream. If someone dreams about you, ask them for details. It may be nothing. Perhaps it’s something silly, but it could be important.

Recurring dreams are ones you have repeatedly. The same theme or series of events is always played out in this type of dream. If you experience a recurring dream, there’s probably a psychological or emotional reason for it. Your subconscious mind is telling you that there is an issue, fear, or worry you need to examine within yourself.

Other Types of Dreams
Here are a few other dream categories:

    • Precognitive Dreams: These are psychic dreams that can foretell the future. Make special note if you have a dream that feels precognitive. Even if the details are a little off, they may be close enough to alert you to upcoming events.
  • Warning Dreams: These dreams alert us to possible danger or problems ahead. These dreams help us by giving us prior knowledge so we can be prepared or a crisis our even stop it from happening.

My friend Char had a warning dream that scared her. She dreamed of a school that had yellow police tape all around it—the kind you see at crime scenes. She said it worried her because it was very real, and she was shaken when she awoke from the dream. She described small children running out of the building and dozens of police cars circling the school. She was frustrated because she didn’t know exactly where the school was. She felt helpless without more information. She wanted to be able to warn someone, but didn’t know who. About two days later and twenty miles from where Char lives, a first grader shot another classmate. The little girl died. The tragedy made national news headlines. The events that occurred later had been revealed first in Char’s warning dream. It could be considered a prophetic dream, too.

  • Factual Dreams: We have lots of these! They don’t last long, and we’re more apt to get bits and pieces of information than tangible knowledge. However, they can be very helpful. For example, you could dream of being interviewed for a new position or of talking with a friend about something that is actually happening in your life.
  • Inspiration Dreams: If you are going through a personal crisis, perhaps having a difficult time at work or worrying about something, an inspiration dream offers a solution. It can give you insight to handle a situation. These dreams leave you with good feelings when you wake up.
  • Visitation Dreams: Sometimes, deceased loved ones want to visit us, and the best way for them to connect with us is through our dreams. When we’re asleep, our subconscious is open to receiving messages from the other side. But how do you know if you are just dreaming of a departed family member or experiencing an actual visitation?A dream is something you’ll remember when you first wake up. It fades over a few hours and eventually you’ll have little or no memory of it. A visitation is an actual visit from the soul or spirit of someone. It seems like a dream, but you will remember it vividly. It stays with you all day, or sometimes for weeks and months afterwards—maybe even forever. During holidays and around anniversaries and birthdays, loved ones seem to make more visitations. It’s as if they want to share these special days with you. If you have lost someone dear, know that you can still connect with them. Ask them to come to you in a dream. Many times, deceased family and friends come to us when we’re involved in a major crisis to offer support and guidance.

Dream Journals
Many people are keeping dream journals these days. A dream journal doesn’t have to be anything expensive or even fancy. A spiral notebook will work. Keep the journal next to your bed along with a pen. If you don’t have time to write when you wake up, keep a tape recorder handy so when you wake up you can record what you remember.

Date the journal and write everything down that you can recall. Write it in sequence, or in bits and pieces—whatever is easiest. Colors, numbers, faces, places, people, discussions, times, and seasons of the year are all meaningful. Specific details are important. Throughout the day, if you think of anything else, write that information down too. No information is insignificant, though some bits may turn out to be more important than others.

Dreams are made up of many elements. There’s always a main theme in every dream. Pick the one thing that stands out in your mind as being the most important, and analyze that first. I tell my clients that they are the very best interpreters of their own dreams.

Ask yourself first: What does the dream mean to you? Then look up meanings for individual symbols in a dream interpretation book, if you have one. If your dream is full of detail, this means it is very important. If you only remember fragments and it fades quickly, it’s probably not as important. It may not have much meaning unless it is linked to another dream you’ve had in the past.

Article originally published in The Llewellyn Journal. Copyright Llewellyn Worldwide, 2004. All rights reserved.

Double Vision: Still Dreaming of Junior High Boyfriend

psychic-advice-july-14Still Dreaming of Junior High Boyfriend 23 Years Later

The other night, I had an amazing dream about a boy I was crazy about when I was in junior high school. We moved away after that, but I never forgot about him. Then I had this dream, which felt so real. We were talking and then making love. I awoke with the dream so vivid in my mind. He lives about six hours away from me now. I found his name, address and phone number on the internet, so while I know how to get in touch with him, I would feel totally foolish doing so. What would I say? I’m really puzzled by this dream and can’t understand why I feel so close to him, especially after so much time. I’ve been married and divorced during the 23 years since we were together, but never really found “the one.” I’m wondering if maybe I did find him long ago, and this dream is trying to tell me that. Maybe I was drawn to him then because we have a strong past life connection; maybe he’s my soul mate, and I was too young to realize it then. What do you think I should I do now? My birthdate is January 20, 1965. Thanks!


First, we get more than one soul mate. We have a whole pack of souls that we move from life to life with; I call them our soul family. They come in all forms: Lovers, enemies, and anything in between. Since you feel such a strong connection from way back in junior high school, I’m sure this man is a member of your soul family.

Second, when we sleep, our souls go wherever they most need to go to fix today and prepare for tomorrow. Often there are things going on under the surface that our logical minds just can’t understand.

Because we can’t understand them consciously, our souls must fix those issues on their own. Sometimes these issues aren’t current, but arise from stored memories.

I feel this is the reason you dreamed about this man from so many years ago. I’m sure that you are working through some soul issue regarding love in general.

In your memories, you two had this fabulous, unconditional romance. It was exciting and fun and wonderful. It was also in junior high school.

This is not about him, but about some general love issues you are working on. You don’t need to seek him out and try to start a grown-up relationship with him. That was not the meaning of the dream.

In the dream, he was this perfect man that you have not yet found in this life. These days, you are not even sure this sort of love really exists; that is the issue that is trying to get resolved via this dream.

If you want to contact him as an old friend, feel free. I’m sure he would get a huge kick out of hearing from you again. Please be prepared for him to have a family and a very busy life, for I don’t feel that he is the one you are supposed to wind up with.

As for you not knowing what to say to him, try something like, “Hi, (whatever his name is), this is Marianne from junior high. Do you remember me?” Once he says he does, you can tell him you never forgot him and wanted to see what became of him and what he is doing with his life. It’s just that simple.

I wish you true love.


You and your junior high boyfriend were probably together in at least one other incarnation. It does seem to be true that you were put together again too soon in this one.

Now that you’re grown up, divorced and on your own, things have changed, and you’re ready to see him again and explore your connection from an adult perspective. If you have the correct number for him, by all means, call him up!

The dream you had is a sign that you should reconnect with him. Even if he’s married to someone else right now (and I don’t think that he is), you should still call and talk to him. If nothing else, this will lead you to closure so you can move on.

Of course, there might be a more important reason for this dream than a need for closure. He might need your help. He might be depressed or feeling disconnected from life. He has often thought of you throughout the years too, and the period when the two of you were together was one of the happiest times in his life.

Since this is the one and only time you’ve had that dream, it’s logical to assume that there is a good reason it struck such a chord with you, and that you need to get in touch with each other again.

Like you, he has some unresolved feelings about your relationship. You may be the one person who could help him break free from depression. If he’s struggling with low self-esteem, you may be able to give him a boost. Heck, he might need a kidney, and you could be the perfect donor! Whatever the reason, you have been sent that dream so that you will contact him and find out what’s going on with him.

Sometimes reconnecting with old loves can be painful and can lead to disappointment or disillusionment. I feel strongly that this isn’t so in your case. When I look at your cards, I get that contacting him is the right action for you to take, and you’re taking it at the right time!

Don’t wait any longer! Satisfy your curiosity and his by calling him and speaking with him. Ask him if you’ve been on his mind lately. His response might surprise you.

Good luck!

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Double Vision Psychic Advice

psychic-advice-july-7Are Dream Encounters with Departed Friend Real or Imagined?

I used to dream of a dear male friend who passed away many years ago. I always talk to him, knowing he is there in spirit. Even now when I think of him, I see his kind smile and get a warm feeling. Are these dreams real? I feel I have a special connection with him. Before he died, I dreamed of spirits trying to awaken me all the time and talk to me. I did not like this. After he passed away, I had a dream of him coming and taking all the spirits away into what looked like a portal. I feel as if he is always there for me. Are these dreams real or my imagination?


I can assure you that the dreams and visions you are having of your friend are real. You are blessed that he can visit you so often. Based on your description of him taking away all the spirits who were bothering you, it sounds like he has assigned himself to the position of your special spirit guide and protector.

The fact that you have had previous dreams of spirits trying to wake you up and talk with you verifies that you are sensitive to perceiving entities. Long before your friend came to you, it seems other spirits were also seeking you out. This is common when a spirit discovers a sensitive person who may be able to help them communicate with this realm. Once they know they can be seen or heard, they will invite others. Even though you did not know these spirits in life, they were attracted to you because they sensed you would be able to perceive them.

Your friend’s spirit is always around you. I am certain that he sends you other signs of his presence as well. The more you pay attention to them, the more you will notice certain songs, sounds, smells or comments that other people make that bring him instantly to your mind.

Many of our beloved spirit guides and guardian angels will make their presence known during our dreams, for this is a time when we’re at peace and free from the distractions of the outside world. Though you do not mention any specific details about the dreams you have of him, you should start to pay close attention to them and record them, for these dreams may carry important messages he is trying to send to you. I recommend keeping a regular journal of the dreams to see if what occurs in them actually plays out in real life.

Although you know you will never see your friend again on the earth plane, you can rest assured that the connection between you two is strong enough to transcend the space between the earth and the spirit world, for loving bonds are soul-based and thus unaffected by physical death.

If you do not want to wait for your friend’s visits through dreams, you can invite him to a conversation via a guided meditation. Simply gather together a few white candles and some sage incense along with any objects or photos that remind you of him. Light the candles and incense and then focus your attention on him. You can talk out loud or talk with him silently in your mind. You can also trust that the responses you hear in your mind are directly from him.

Be sure to thank him for visiting and protecting you, and remind him what a blessing it is to have a friend who can defy time and space to connect with you in spirit form.


While I respect and understand your skepticism, I have to assure you that it’s not only possible for spirits to visit us in dreams, it’s actually one of the easiest ways for them to interact with us. This makes the sort of experiences you describe very common.

Just last night I was blessed with a number of dream visits from my departed father. In those dreams, I was excited to see him because I knew he had died and I hadn’t had a visit from him in quite some time. When I woke up in the morning, I wanted to spend more time with him, so I kept hitting the snooze button on my alarm clock and going back into the dream.

Each time I did this, we would find each other again in a setting similar, but not identical, to the place we had met in the last dream. It was as if we had to wander around a bit to relocate each other. We had deep conversations about how he finds me when I’m dreaming and whether or not I could set out to find him too. He made it clear to me that it was much easier for him to find and visit me than for me the do the same.

Although I woke up full of wonder at how involved and in- depth our conversations had been in these dreams, I still questioned if they were real. While I was still half asleep, I heard the sound of a phantom doorbell, which is the sound of a doorbell ringing that almost sounds physically real but not quite. I took this as a sign of confirmation from my father that these were indeed real visits.

I’ve explained all of this to illustrate a point: One rule of thumb for determining if a dream about a departed loved one is a real visit is whether you are aware in the dream that this person is dead. When we have dreams about spirits as and somehow know or acknowledge that they are not alive in this dimension anymore, we can be pretty sure we’re receiving a visit from them. You didn’t tell us much about what happened in the dreams, but you did mention that you knew that he was there in spirit. I therefore think it’s safe to assume that he has really been visiting you.

As for how and why this is happening, given your prior experiences with spirits, it sounds as if you are something of a natural medium. When spirits recognize someone who may be able to perceive them, they tend to gather around. I bet if you were to choose to develop your spiritual gifts, you would soon be able to communicate with spirits in a conscious, purposeful manner.

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