Category: Advice Columns

Double Vision: Looking for a Spiritual Way to Turn Life Around

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I have been unemployed for three years. I left a good paying job with decent benefits because I was treated horribly for over 13 years, and I couldn't take the mental abuse anymore. Now I can't find a new job because my reference is saying bad things about my work ethic. This has led to health problems like kidney stones in February and a car accident in May. What can I do to get all this negativity out of my life? I am beyond stressed out! I feel hopeless and helpless, and overwhelmed with medical bills, legal fees, and regular living expenses. My husband is becoming very aggravated with me. I feel like I have a spell on me. Please help! I have been having vivid dreams, and I even think I had a premonition about the car accident. Is Spirit trying to help me through the dreams?

- Donna

Dreamchaser:

I would like for you to re-read your question, please. As you tell it, you are being picked on by everyone (including the Universe) because you feel like you have a spell on you. There is not one area in your life that is going right, and now your husband is upset as well.

Is this how you look at your life? Is this how you talk to everyone around you? Are these the stories you tell over and over? Is this the tone of the emotional state you are in every day? If so, it's no wonder your life is crap!

As everyone here knows, I am a huge fan of the movie and book entitled The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, which explores the Law of Attraction and how to get what we want by focusing on it. That is a very simplified description - the important thing is that this really does work!

I tried it and it worked for me. I was an incredibly angry, negative person for a very long time. I blamed everyone else for my troubles. I saw myself as a complete and total victim of everyone and everything.

I had no money; I had no love; I felt sick a lot of the time, and I had no future. When I realized that everything in my life was a result of my own thinking, everything changed for the better.

You think negatively all the time. You not only worry about your problems, you worry about things that haven't happened yet, or that might happen some day. You also focus on the past and how you feel wronged. You focus on bad health, pain, suffering, sorrow and despair. Now you are focusing on your marriage and how it may fall apart.

Hear this, please: you are creating more and more misfortune in your life by focusing on nothing but all the bad things that happen to you. The good news is if you change your focus, you will change your life.

I know it works, for I personally have experimented with this process and my life is drastically different now. I also have friends and clients who have said the same thing.

The only way your life is going to change is if you take control of your thoughts, feelings and habits.

Spirit can't help you unless you ask for help. Spirit is not giving you omens and warnings; Spirit is throwing you a lifeline and begging you to PLEASE change on an inner level, which will empower you to change your outer experiences.

You have the power: it's is as simple as changing the way you think, and The Secret will show you how to do that.

You CAN have a good and happy life, Donna. I wish you healing on all levels.

*****

Astrea:

It can be really difficult to get back to a normal feeling life after such an awful accident. To have the people at your old job insult you by telling other businesses not to hire you would naturally create even more stress.

Sometimes husbands aren't great at understanding our need to talk things out, which of course means even MORE frustration for you.

You ARE under a spell, Donna, and you put it there yourself by adopting the belief or attitude that everyone is against you. I know it may seem like that right now, but the truth is that other people don't have time to make you the center of their universe.

I don't mean to sound harsh: I'm only trying to point out that the others you speak of are too selfish to go to great lengths to try to make you miserable, for they have more important things to do.

Negative people get negative outcomes. What you need to focus on is how, for every job those people caused you NOT to get, the Universe will open another pathway for you and close one for them. For every unkind word they say about you, three will be said about them.

Choose to stop being part of the negative karma others have around them. Release all of that and be free. If you can stop being angry and feeling like everything and everyone is against you, that won't be your experience anymore.

Instead of trying to hurt you, every person, animal and entity in your Harmony is trying to help you, and not just through your dreams. You have people working for you in every part of your life to counteract all the negativity you've been experiencing. Your Angels are always with you; they are keeping you going and keeping you alive.

The only person who is stuck in a negative rut is YOU, and you're keeping yourself there with this why me? attitude.

You wrote that you had a premonition about your accident, yet it still happened. When you have strong intuitions or premonitions, you have to listen to them and DO something about them instead of passively accepting that this must be your fate.

The next time you have a premonition about a life-changing event, say it out loud to someone - ANYONE. Then say out loud that you refuse to become a victim. Speaking out loud about the bad stuff we intuitively sense often prevents it from happening. It's a mystery to me how that particular tactic wards off disaster, but it works.

While you truly have my sympathy for all you've been through, I know you could be doing more to change your life by thinking less about what's being done to you and becoming more proactive about creating what you want.

If you choose to think positive thoughts, your life will become abundant with positive experiences. If you allow yourself to think negative thoughts, then negativity will come your way time and time again.

Banish the negativity and begin to live in happiness again. You can do it, but only if you really want to.

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.

Double Vision: Drawing out Fairies

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I have always been enchanted by the idea of fairies. Then the other day, I saw someone on television talking about how she has fairies in her garden, and all the wonderful experiences she has with them, and it made me want fairies too! Do you believe in fairies? If you do, is there some way I can invite them into my life? Can I learn to see them and have real experiences with them? I hope you can help me!

- Margaret

Dreamchaser:

If you want to attract fairies, leave them some food offerings. This will give the fairies something they want and encourage them to trust you. You might start with small cakes, candies, ginger, cookies, etc.

Do not look for the offering to disappear, however, because the fairies will not physically eat what you leave them. Fairies are capable of taking the energy from an offering, but they won't consume it entirely.

In a few days, the offering may still be there, but it will look a bit plastic or waxy. Of course, if an animal comes along and eats the offering, this is a good thing - don't shoo it away, for it may be the fairy in animal form, coming for its gift from you.

You can also plant a garden for the fairies, for they love gardens. You might want to plant bluebells and roses in your garden. Also, fairies and animals both love water, so you create a small pool in the middle of your garden. Just dig a small hole and line it, and then place rocks around the edge. You can refill the water each time you water your plants and flowers.

Fairies are wild by nature, so let a small section of your garden go totally natural and get lush with weeds. This will be a lovely place for those untamed fairies.

You can also set aside a corner, dresser, table, etc., for a fairy altar. On this altar, you can place your offerings in a basket. You can also place flowers, dirt and water there. Make it pretty but keep it warm and simple.

Fairies can be very helpful in magickal work, as they certainly are not ignorant when it comes to such matters. If you can get them to trust you, they can be a great help in your rituals and spells. Of course they will only assist in the ones that do not affect someone else's free will, like love spells often try to do, and in spells that do not harm others. Be sure to thank the fairies when you're done, and remember to give them an offering.

Fairies tend to travel in bands instead of alone. These are called Trouping Fairies, and they are the most common fairies of all. You may also occasionally encounter a solitary fairy, but these tend to be mean-spirited.

Some fairies can be seen traveling in large bands, playing music and riding their horses. These are called Raids. They are most often encountered during the holidays (Pagan and Christian alike), for they are especially active around those times.

If you look at the bottom of trees, you will often see arched openings in the trunks. These are called Fairy Doors. It is said that the fairies enter their homes in the trees through these doors. Try leaving an offering by these doors if you find them in or near your yard.

I wish you joyful fairy encounters!

*****

Astrea:

In my family, we have always accepted fairies as a fact of life. The Victorian notion of fairies is a romanticized version of the Sidhe, a fairy race said to have the power to confuse humankind.

Depending on the time of year, there are many different rituals for attracting and seeing fairies. Fairies most often appear at night in the weeks around Midsummer, but they could inhabit any woods around your home at any time during the growing season.

The big pagan ritual days are good times for seeing Fairies. Full Moon nights in Spring and Summer are good for calling them into your yard or home too.

Rubbing fern seed on your eyelids will "open" your eyes to seeing fairies. The fern seed should be gathered at midnight on Midsummer, but I've bought it at the feed store and it works almost as well.

When trying to see fairies, you must absolutely keep your mind off the mundane, everyday world. Light thoughts will draw light beings to you.

For your yard, build a "fairy ring" of stones in a circle, so they'll have a place to come and dance in the moonlight. Fill your thoughts with the beauty of natural things like plants, trees, and small sweet animals. Dance around with the fairies when you see them.

Fairies usually hibernate during the winter, but if you invite them into your home before the first day of fall, they'll move in and work magic for you all winter long. To let them know they're welcome, set up four candles in the Four Directions: green for north, red for south, blue for west, and yellow for east. Place a crystal or a brightly colored stone or marble beside each candle.

Walk in a counter-clockwise, circular motion to each candle, and sprinkle some finely ground ginger as you go. (Sprinkle just a tiny bit - don't make a mess. Fairies are little and can see even the smallest bit of any substance.)

Say this as you go: "Welcome You Fairies and Nature Spirits, I bid you enter, Kind and Good. Welcome all who wish me well."

Fairies LOVE sugar and milk. I leave a bowl for mine in my garden every Sunday night. They are very fond of cake and sweet treats of any kind. Around here, they get lots of food, love and respect.

Whenever children spill some liquid they're drinking during a picnic or when they're playing outside, NEVER scold them. Instead say, "Leave it for the fairies!" Red Chief tells me that fairies find any liquid that has touched a child's lips especially tempting and sweet!

Fairies love a giving spirit, so leave them small gifts of food regularly in your garden, on your doorstep, or any outside place you might want a fairy ring.

Now you know how to draw fairies near - let us know when you see them!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.

Double Vision: Freaky Astral Experience

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Often when I'm sleeping, I experience sleep paralysis. (I feel my soul trying to lift out of my body to astral travel, and when I try to wake up, I feel paralyzed. I've yet to achieve conscious projection, though I've tried many times.) I have to say the Lord's Prayer to fully wake up. A few nights ago this was happening, and when I opened my eyes, I saw this flash in the corner of the bedroom, and I heard a voice say, "He is coming." It went through me with this horrible laugh. I told my sister about it, and she said that people tend to hallucinate when they wake up fast. This is not the first strange experience I've had like this. Do you think I was hallucinating? If not, what do you think this was? Thanks!

Brittany

Dreamchaser:

While some people may call what you were doing "hallucinating," that is definitely not what you were doing.

You write that you were aware of being paralyzed; that would indicate that your body is not properly aligned with your conscious mind and your soul. A part of you is on the Otherside, and that is the part that is experiencing things in the Other World. These are most definitely not hallucinations - they are actual experiences.

The voice and laughter you heard did not come from something evil that was out to hurt you. I feel you were actually picking up a passing conversation.

If you are driving in your car with your windows down and the radio off, and you pull up to a corner where people are standing and talking, you will be able to hear bits of their conversation. As soon as you take off, they will fade out. If you go to another corner where the lights are really bright, for a few seconds you will see bright lights.

Something similar was happening as you were going back into your body. You were hearing bits and pieces of conversations, and seeing lights and shadows on your way back. The man with the laughter was not there FOR you, and he was not trying to scare you.

We need to remember that not everything on the Otherside is pretty. Some things are ugly, loud, move really fast, and can scare the heck out of us. Our "human" sides see or hear things and equate them with scary things from THIS world. I often wonder if our horror book and film writers have brought visions back of things they saw on the Other Side, and then just amped them up for greater entertainment value. (That, however, is another column).

I do not believe you are asleep when you feel your soul take off. I think you have always been an astral traveler, so you are used to experiencing this at a conscious level. Trust me, Brittany, not very many people can say that they feel their souls leave their bodies while they are sleeping.

You are in fact not asleep - you are in a state of consciousness between being awake and being asleep. Since your soul has always done this, this is normal for you. Other people have to read books or take classes and work hard to accomplish conscious astral travel.

If you are scared, you can always ask your guides and other helpful beings from the Otherworld to protect you when you are sleeping. You can just say out loud, "I ask for protection while I sleep. Please allow my body to rest peacefully. I ask this in the name of the One God." That should do it.

Of course, you can use your own terminology if you don't like mine - just be sure to ask in the name of the One God.

I wish you peace-full sleep.

*****

Astrea:

It doesn't sound like you were hallucinating; instead, it sounds like you were seeing and hearing what I would call a "Trouble Spirit."

Many times we see or hear things when we first wake up that are not real. However, when two or more of your five (six?) senses are engaged at the same time, most likely there is something or someone there with you that is not of the flesh.

Whether this is happening or not, it's a good idea to do a ritual to rid yourself of any negative energy around you, especially if you're planning to engage in nightly astral travel or otherwise open yourself to spirit entities. Psychic states are VULNERABLE states, and you must protect yourself at all times.

I hear tale after tale of awful things that happen to people who aren't exercising the proper protection before embarking on psychic journeys. Spiritual explorers must be careful not to invite negative entities into their lives, psyches, or homes.

One of the simplest ways to keep unwanted sprits banished from your home is by burning sage. This remedy comes from Native American tradition. It drives away unhappy and scary spirits, but it allows happy ones to stay with you.

If you experience this kind of "visit" often as you're waking or falling asleep, you can also keep a bell or whistle beside your bed, or anything that will make a loud, high-pitched noise. Evil spirits don't like loud, high, discordant sounds.

You can also put a broomstick over your bedroom door and a bottle of rum or vinegar at your back door. That practice comes from voodoo, and I can just about guarantee it will work. There is not an evil spirit or entity that would dare venture past those.

You might also appeal to St. Uncumber, who is well known throughout most of Europe for helping people get rid of unwanted boyfriends and girlfriends. St. Uncumber was a celibate princess who prayed that her arranged fiance wouldn't want to marry her. She woke the next day with a FULL BEARD, which I bet did the trick!

Place a white plate of oats on your altar or at the back door (the oats were to draw a horse to carry the unwanted one away). Then pray in your own way that St. Uncumber will disencumber you from the unwanted entity. Visualize the entity happy, well and handsome. (This also works for unwanted boyfriends or girlfriends, if you can sneak a few oats into their shoe.)

As a last resort, you can call in a professional exorcist, but I don't usually recommend that because evil spirits LOVE attention, so this can sometimes make things worse. You can also wear a St. Michael medal to bed at night, and hang St. Benedict over the head of your bed.

Happy traveling!

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.