I recently was told about twin flames, and I have some questions about them. Is it possible to create your twin flame out of the person you are with now? Also, is it possible to find your twin flame? I deeply long to find that kind of love, but I don't know where to look or how to go about it. Any guidance would be appreciated! Thank you!
Marta
Dreamchaser:
Words like "soul mate" and "twin soul" are thrown around so often in today's society. In order to answer your question, we must first define "twin soul."
Twin souls are supposedly the other half of one's soul. If you believe in twin souls, then you also believe that God/ Spirit/ the Universe - whatever term you prefer - split from one whole into many souls. In order to experience BEING and SELF, these souls divided into others who divided into others and it went on and on and is STILL going on with each birth. The final split would be when we become human beings, and the other half we split from would be our "twin soul."
It is said that we don't meet our soul twins until after we've learned essential lessons of love, loss and forgiveness through various relationships. Before we can come together with a twin flame, we must be whole within ourselves. When we reach the point where we don't look on the outside of ourselves for anything, then we're ready to FULLY share in a relationship that is intimate on all levels.
If we are not completely whole within ourselves, there is NO WAY that we could withstand the intensity of a twin flame relationship, for at that level of experience, our strengths and our weaknesses will be exposed and amplified. We can't put off any lessons we don't feel ready for. Unresolved issues are painfully opened to push us into further healing.
Ego will also be extinguished. Most relationships are based in the Ego: fear, superficial matters, and learned responses and patterns. When we are coming from a place of Ego, we cannot be coming from a place of Love. We cannot be in both at the same time. I always say that ego is like a light switch: It is either on or off, but not both.
So you now see that you can't make the person you are with into your twin flame. You also can't go seeking a twin flame. What you can do to bring your twin flame to you is to open up your heart completely. Do not hide behind walls worrying what others will think of the real you and what you may say or do, or worry about what society says is "right." Do what is right for you. Come from a place of love in your everyday life. Love attracts love.
In seeking love, we often "make do" with what we can find. We find someone "good enough" and then we try to change them into what we consider our perfect partner. However, our ideas about what is perfect come from a place of Ego. By just being in a place of Love and loving ourselves and being whole in ourselves, we will attract our twin soul.
Seeking wholeness in Spirit is the best way you can begin to bring this person into your life. When we are looking inside, we are ALLOWING things to happen on the outside because we are not attempting to force our will.
I wish you unconditional LOVE.
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Astrea:
I'm probably not the best psychic to ask this question, as I think all that "twin flame" and "soul mate" stuff is media driven. It's a bit of harmful nonsense that sells movies and boosts ratings. I believe in choices and consequences. With care, your "twin" soul can be anyone YOU CHOOSE him or her to be!
Every day I talk to people who say, "I KNOW that he is my soul mate!" or "Some psychic told me she is my twin flame." Talk like that makes Astrea feel SLEEPY.
Why are we so eager to surrender our control in relationships? Why do we want to blame the Universe for our choices? Why can't people take responsibility and look for a person they can get along with and love for the long haul? So many times I hear, "Why would GOD PUT HIM IN MY LIFE if he wasn't my SOUL MATE?" Like God has TIME to do that?
We DRAW people into our lives on our own! Sometimes they're good, sometimes we make mistakes, but we SELECT those people with our free will. This is how we LEARN about what we do and don't want in a permanent partner.
Love has been made so MYSTERIOUS by popular culture, especially in the U.S. and Europe. Thanks to the "soul mate" people, it controls us. We are now unable to choose who we will love because of our Destiny. HA! We've been taught that we are at the mercy of some OTHER POWER when it comes to selecting a mate.
If people have had PAST LIVES together, they may feel a strong draw towards each other, but hopefully one or both of them have learned how to behave better THIS time around! Incarnations are supposed to IMPROVE us, not repeat themselves over and over. Often people say, "I can't control whether I love her or not, I was told we had a past life together." If you can't control your emotions, no one can.
Some of the saddest people are the ones who say, "He lies, cheats on me, takes my money, and is selfish and cruel, but I LOVE HIM! I can't HELP IT!" While that person may be addicted to his DRAMA, she can ABSOLUTELY CHOOSE NOT to be in love with someone who would treat her that way! Why would she love someone who does all that? The fact is, she wouldn't! She could be addicted to his personality, or she could believe she DESERVES to be treated that way, but she doesn't LOVE him.
It's lovely to think that we have a "soul mate" or "twin flame" who is going to walk into our lives and understand everything we say, do and feel. People who elicit those responses in us ARE out there, but it still takes careful choices and lots of time to develop that kind of love and understanding. It isn't going to fall from the sky. Two people can create a wonderful, caring, giving relationship together when they're willing.
You can create what you want with another person! Welcome AUTHENTIC love into your life and you'll find it!
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.