My family and I recently moved from the house we lived in for six years into another house. While I very much love this new house, I'm finding it difficult to feel really comfortable here. I'm happy that we have moved, but for some reason, it just doesn't feel like home to me. Is there something I can do to create that sense of home, or do we just have to wait until we're more settled in?
- Mandy
Dreamchaser:
This "discomfort" in your new home has a few causes. First, you really did love the house you just moved from. You may not have loved the structure, but you loved all that happened in it. It was full of happy memories. The house you live in now is a great house for your structural needs, but it is empty of those treasured family memories.
Also, your new house is "haunted." Every house you enter has spirits in it, but that is because you can sense energies that most other people can't see or feel. Actually, ALL places are haunted; we just may not know it. Every place on earth holds the energy of whatever was there before. So in moving to a new place, you are now sensing NEW energies that are unfamiliar to you, which you may not yet have made peace with.
These energies are not negative, they are just new. I suggest when the house is empty at some point, or when everyone else is in bed, you make yourself comfortable in the middle of the living room. Lie on the floor or sit on a floor pillow or whatever you want to do.
I want you to then ask God/ Universe/ Spirit - whatever name you prefer - to protect you and only allow Love and Light in your house and around your family. Then just allow yourself to get very quiet and FEEL the energy of the house and the land that the house is built on. Allow yourself to get acquainted with the energies of the beings that inhabit your house with you. They are more than anxious to "introduce" themselves to you.
As you do this, you will actually feel changes in vibration, temperature, your mood, your thoughts, etc. Once you "meet" them, then you will feel more at home and comfortable around them.
Another thing you should do to make the house feel like home is to let IT help you decorate it. A lot of the things you had in your old house that looked great there don't look so great in the new house. They don't feel right. Spend a little money here and there, and see what "calls out to you" when you are out in stores. The house has its own vibe and needs its own energies to shine through.
I know this sounds a little silly, but try it. Walk from room to room and look at the walls and the furniture and the layout and see what comes to you. For example, while I never liked brown in the past, when I moved into my current house, I felt the urge to decorate it in browns, and it now has a warm, happy feeling.
I wish you and yours a warm, love-filled home.
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Astrea:
It's normal to feel out of place in a new place, for it takes a while to become comfortable. The noises it makes are different, the wind sounds different when it touches the roof, and the sun comes through the windows at a different slant. It's normal to miss the memories of our prior home too, but it's time you moved on in your heart so you can really LOVE your new place.
Try this simple rite of purification to bring peace and love into your new home. If you honor the Goddesses, be sure to include Hestia, Brigid and Freya. Set aside a whole weekend for this ritual.
Take off all your jewelry before you start, even your wedding ring, and place the important pieces you wear daily on a white plate, then place the plate on your altar. Also, wear something white as you do this ritual.
Sprinkle the floors with salt and rosemary, and while you do this, visualize all negativity and discord that could ever enter your new house being swept away. Burn several scented white candles to purify the air and encourage peace and contentment. Place rose quartz crystals in the south windows to invite more love into your home. Think about all the love, contentment and peace now filling your life here. That evening, vacuum up the salt and rosemary, and burn the bag in a fire-safe container outside. As the smoke rises, ask the Goddesses to bless your house and your family as you live and work there.
Sunday morning, it's time to bless your yard. Invite the magical beings of Earth and Air into your life by decorating a small wooden birdhouse with the astrological Sun signs of each member of your family. You can add birds, stars, spirals, or whatever else you like. Hang ribbons of red, green and gold in sets of three from the new Spirit House. Let the Garden Spirits know that their new home is ready by waving a stick of burning incense over the roof and all around the sides of the house. Make sure some of the fragrant smoke enters the house too.
With these two easy rituals, you can count on all the GOOD Spirits who have dwelt with you in your OTHER home to feel welcome in your new house. Home is where you and your family are, and if this house is what you wanted, this house is going to feel like home in time.
Give yourself PERMISSION to stop grieving for your old home. The memories you'll make in this new house will be just as vibrant and happy as the ones in your old house. Blessings and benevolence will be yours.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.