I had a rather strange, disturbing dream that I'm hoping you can help me interpret. In the dream, my late grandfather came to me. He didn't say anything; in fact, he didn't even greet me. He just looked at me with a worried look on his face and he seemed a bit lonely. I miss him so much, for he was more than my grandfather - he was also my best friend. What do you make of this dream, and what can I do to determine its significance? Thank you!
Hiwot
Astrea:
Many times when we dream about our loved ones living or on the Spirit Plane, they don't speak to us verbally, for much communication in dreams occurs telepathically. Depending on how long your grandfather has been departed, he may not speak to you for many dreams, and when he does, you may hear him differently than you did when he was living.
My grandfather never speaks to me in dreams but we understand each other. This is after many years of practice on my part. He is still the same as he's always been: He was pretty quiet when he was alive too, though he did talk to us and teach us things.
You're smart to pay attention to your grandfather's facial expressions because that's how he's teaching you to understand him. The only thing he is worried about is that you don't hear him yet. The next time you dream of him, try to tell him in words that you can't understand what he's trying to tell you.
You'll dream of him again. Over time, you may experience waves when you dream of him often or know he is there, and periods when he doesn't seem to be around as much. You might devote a dream journal to just the dreams you have of him. Then you may begin to recognize the other dreams he is sending you to show you things about other family members and important events in your life.
Even though he is no longer physically present, you can forever call on him for help. If he can't talk to you one way, he'll find another way in time. The two of you were too close when he was living to let that bond be broken now.
Perhaps he looks sad and lonely because he is still figuring things out too. I find that it takes at least a year for newly departed spirits to feel entirely comfortable coming back to us, for they don't want to upset us.
First they don't want to frighten us, and then they worry that we may think we're about to join them. I'm sure he's sad because he sees how sad YOU are and he doesn't want you to keep grieving.
We miss our loved ones who can't pick up the phone or drive over to see us any longer, but they're all still there. Mine swear to me that they don't ever see me do anything bad or embarrassing, so don't worry about anything like that!
I'm happy that he loves you enough to come to you. It takes a lot of energy from the spirit world to be present with us, just like it takes a lot of energy for us to miss them the way we do. The more you understand how alike the living and the departed are, the easier it will be for you to continue to communicate with your best friend.
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Susyn:
Dreams can carry powerful messages, especially when they involve our loved ones who have crossed over to the other side. In fact, dreams are one of the most effective ways spirits can visit us to let us know that they are okay and remind us that they are watching over us. You don't mention how long ago your grandfather passed away, but the basic message of the dream is clear: He loves you and misses you.
These types of dreams can be unsettling if we feel that our loved ones seem worried or sad. It's possible that because he was your best friend, he knows you better than most. Perhaps if you journal about this dream and review the things that are going on in your life currently, you may be able to identify areas of concern or directions in which you are moving that may not be in your best interests.
Even though your grandfather didn't appear to speak to you in this dream, the emotions you feel about it are sending a strong message that he is concerned for your well-being. Because it can be difficult to try to manifest another dream about him (dreams seem to have minds of their own), you may want to engage in some guided meditation to see if you can learn more.
Sit quietly in a place where you can meditate and call in his spirit. Light some white candles, burn sage or musk incense, and if you like, play some of his favorite music in the background. You might also want to place a photograph of him in front of you or hold one of his possessions. Together, these actions will align your intention to talk specifically with him.
Next, just begin to converse with him in your head or out loud. Ask him why he looked so worried in your dream and if he is lonely. Tell him how much you miss him. Then sit in the silence and wait.
Oftentimes our loved ones on the other side will let us know they are near by way of a sensation of touch, a favorite aroma, or ideally messages that come into our minds that we can identify as being from them.
If your meditation doesn't seem to answer your questions, you might consider consulting a psychic. Most reputable psychics possess keen dream interpretation abilities, and some may be able to channel your loved ones on the other side.
Your sense that your grandfather seemed sad or lonely in the dream is probably accurate. When our loved ones cross over, they miss us as much as we miss them. If your overall interpretation is that he is also worried about you, employing one of the above methods should clarify his concerns and reveal how you can allay them.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.