My ex-boyfriend is in every dream I have. I can't seem to get him out of my dreams! I'll even dream that my current boyfriend and I live together, when suddenly I see my ex in the dream living with us too. What does this mean? Why is he in every dream I have? (I'm a Taurus.)
Dreamchaser:
Though you say your ex-boyfriend is in every dream you have, I don't believe that is really the case. Your ex isn't in every dream, he's just in the dreams you remember when you wake up. The fact that you only remember the dreams he is in, however, is quite telling.
To put it simply, you are not over your ex-boyfriend, and you don't want him out of your life. You aren't in love with your new boyfriend, nor are you ready to move on to a new relationship.
The fact that your ex-boyfriend is not only showing up in the dream where you and your new boyfriend live together, but your ex actually LIVES there with you two - well, do you really a need a psychic to explain that one? You still love him and he still lives with you inside your head and your heart. No matter where you go and no matter who you date, no matter where you live or who you live with, your ex-boyfriend is still there.
I'm not sure how this idea began, but a lot of people believe that we have to have a romantic relationship to feel happy or complete. That doesn't work, for we can be lonelier than ever while lying in bed next to someone.
Having someone in your life is not what you need to be happy, for happiness comes from the inside out. While things may bring us fleeting pleasure, nothing on the outside can make us truly happy for long. For example, if I was a miserable person and someone gave me a brand new car, I would feel happy for a little while. The car couldn't continue to make me happy, however, and sooner or later I'd be miserable again.
You have to find your own happiness. You have to be whole and complete before you even enter into a relationship, for whatever is broken inside of you will become a GLARING issue when you are involved.
I suggest you find a book, audio tape, or class to try to help you find a way to become happy inside of yourself. Iyanla Vanzant's books work really well for me. There are also some great teachings by Dr. Wayne Dyer and Marianne Williamson.
Find something that calls to you so you can start to heal yourself from the inside out, as obviously, the whole outside in thing is not working for you.
Please remember that you are human, and what you're going through is very common. There have been multitudes of stories, poems and songs written about this very problem for centuries. We all try to fill up a hurting hole with someone or something new, but it rarely works. You have to heal the hole - then you can go on to new love.
I wish you love and healing on all levels.
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Astrea:
The first thing to remember when you're dreaming of an ex is that people aren't necessarily people in dreams. Instead, people are often SYMBOLS of other things or issues in your life.
I often have a similar set of dreams, and I was very interested in ferreting out the answer for both of us, so I did some research on the subject and found various theories on what these dreams might mean.
It seems the most popular interpretation of your dream is that your current boyfriend may be missing some of the good qualities that your ex had, and you wish that he had those same qualities. I'm sorry, but for me, that's a hard one to swallow.
The second most popular answer is that you fear that your current boyfriend may turn into someone like your ex - into someone who (for whatever reason) you couldn't tolerate. That seems far more plausible to me, because I would NEVER want my current husband to resemble my ex in any way, and I sense you don't want that either.
The more metaphysical answers were vague, but one that made good sense was that your ex symbolizes not himself but OTHER things in your life that you long to change, such as your job, your schedule, or your marital status. He could also symbolize something from which you long to heal. This would be something other than your relationship with him, such as some traumatic experience from your childhood.
My best psychic advice is to examine what's going on in your life now and what's going on in your current relationships, not only with your boyfriend but with other people who have a big influence on you.
Your ex could symbolize something in your waking life that is bothering you, so your subconscious is gently trying to help you figure out what that is. This could take some time, so be patient while you examine all the possibilities. Some issues are buried so deeply in our subconscious that it takes a while to discover what they are and work through them.
Of course, if you want him to stop coming into your dreams immediately, without having to do any kind of in-depth soul searching, self-hypnosis or drug therapy, just place your shoes under the bed facing opposite directions from one another, and off to peaceful dreamland you will go.
Dealing with heavy duty emotional issues shouldn't make your dream life miserable. If you know there are issues to solve, try to work through them while you're awake - it's a lot easier than seeing your ex night after night in your dreams.
Once you get back to pleasant dreaming, I hope your dreams of love happiness all come true!
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.