I am having recurring dreams about my father, who departed this life a couple of years ago. I don't usually remember what leads up to the point in the dream where my dad shows up, though sometimes, it seems like I'm sleeping (in the dream) and I wake up and he is there. He is talking to me, but I either can't hear what he's saying, or can only barely hear a whisper and can't make out the words. I'm wondering if he is really visiting me. If so, why can't I hear him? It's so frustrating! If he's really visiting me, is there some way I can turn up the volume or something so I can hear what he's trying to say? Also, have you ever heard of something like this before? Thank you!
- Angie
Dreamchaser:
Yes, Angie, your father really is visiting you. It is SO much easier for spirits on the Otherside to contact us when we are sleeping than when we are awake.
When we are sleeping, our logical/human minds are shut down. We are not thinking and rationalizing. Our subconscious/soul is in charge. Therefore, beings from the Otherworld can communicate with us and we can actually accept these experiences as true contact.
I speak from personal experience when I say that I know how much we want to be able to reach out and touch our loved ones in some way after they pass over. When my father departed this life, I would beg him to come and talk to me. I am sure that sounds like an odd thing for a psychic to say, but we are human beings too.
It is not necessary at this time for your mind to remember what your father has been saying to you. Your soul knows and remembers everything. I know your logical human mind wants to remember, to grasp on to something concrete from your father, but your mortal mind is only a very small part of you.
There are four equal worlds. (I must emphasis EQUAL here.) They are the mental, emotional, spiritual, and (the one we humans usually deem the most important) the physical. I know it is incredibly frustrating for you to come so close to communication and then fall short, but if you get really quiet, meditate and balance in whatever way you need to balance, your soul will take over.
As he grows stronger in spirit form, and as you become more balanced and in touch with your spiritual side, your father will start to make more and more contact. You will also start to remember more of these encounters.
Remember, when we first get to the Otherside, we are used to being human. Sometimes it takes a while for us to remember how to be spiritual beings. We have angels and teachers over there who help us remember how to work on a spiritual level.
Your father is actually trying to learn how to contact you while you are awake. My father learned how to do it. I never actually saw him, but I could sense his presence. He communicated to me in the form of my own thoughts. It was like I "heard" his voice in my head. So keep the faith, Angie.
I suggest that as you are lying in bed at night, right before you go to sleep, just send out the following request:
"Spirit (or God/ Universe/ whatever term you use), please allow my father to visit me tonight, and please allow my human mind to remember our interaction very clearly. Thank you."
Then go to sleep and see what happens. Most importantly, remember that you have many experiences you don't consciously remember.
I wish you a busy night's sleep.
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Astrea:
Many people experience visits from their departed loved ones and have trouble communicating clearly with them. I hear about things like this nearly every day, and have had visits from my own loved ones in Spirit like what you describe.
Often while I have a feeling of understanding about what the person is trying to tell me, I haven't heard it in words. Other times, when I wake up, I'm completely in the dark about what this person wanted me to know.
It's wonderful that you're seeing your dad, and I know you must be really frustrated that you can't really hear him. "Turning up the volume" is going to take some practice; it's certainly possible, though it may not be the same as talking to a living, breathing person.
One thing you should know: This is not your imagination. He is actually visiting you and trying to tell you things.
Your dad may be whispering because he's tentative about talking to you. He may worry about how you will feel seeing him this way. Our loved ones in Spirit do not want to upset or bother us, so they are careful at first.
Also, this sort of communication is new to them too, and it takes some time to master the skills involved. Speaking out loud is difficult for some of them, and they may learn to use symbols, pictures or gestures to communicate with us. Your dad is still trying to find his own best way to communicate with you.
It's interesting that in your dream, you feel you're sleeping and he wakes you up. Perhaps he is trying to "wake you up" to something in your life that you need to be more aware of.
Pay attention to other details in these dreams too, such as the environment where you two "meet." Be aware of anything he's doing there, especially with his hands. Does he smoke? Is he playing with something?
I never saw my grandmother touch a deck of cards when she was living, but in my dreams, she is usually playing solitaire, and I've learned to see which cards she has face up to determine the meaning of those dreams. My grandfather gives me clues via the colors of the clothing he's wearing.
You have to ferret out the meanings of every little thing you can remember. Write them down, and you'll become an expert before too long.
Also, just because someone crosses over, that doesn't mean they'll instantly become a great communicator. If someone couldn't communicate with us on a soul level while they were living, they will probably have a hard time doing it from Spirit.
You'll both get better at understanding one another with time.
Look at this as a new relationship with your Dad. It's one you can enjoy forever, because death hasn't broken your strong loving bond.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.