I'm writing to see if you have any advice on how to deal with the frustrations of knowing the future, but not being able to get others to listen to you. I'm a professional psychic myself, and while my friends and clients all value my advice, my family just won't listen to me. While they admit that I am very accurate at predicting what will happen and what's really going on beneath the surface, in the moment, they just push forward into one painful experience after another. I know that they have their lessons to learn and their ego issues, and that I can't keep them from these learning experiences. What I'm wondering is how I can deal with the frustration of this personally. How do I sit back and bite my tongue and not say, "I told you so" when this happens over and over again? What do you do? Thanks so much!
- Angela
Dreamchaser:
Angela, your question had me chuckling, for I am a mother as well. I think all of us who use our gift in a professional capacity ask ourselves the same question. We all marvel about how many people pay us good money for our psychic advice, while the friends and family who get it for free just won't listen. The phrase "in one ear and out the other" comes to mind; it was probably invented by someone's mother.
You have to understand that to everyone in your family, you are just Mom. You are the woman who picks up the dirty clothes on the floor and then washes them. You are the woman who can make a sandwich with one hand and feed a baby that you are balancing on your hip with the other hand. You make the food, keep the house running, nag kids about doing homework or going to bed, kiss "boo-boos," nurse the sick, and barely have time to shower and change out of your flannel pajamas.
Let's face it, Angela: we do not look very "psychic" in our everyday lives. When you speak to your family members about their lives and what is going to happen, they don't hear the psychic/ knowing side of you. All they see is the "just Mom" persona they have always known so well.
You say you understand their need to live their own lives and learn their own lessons. That includes making bad decisions. Part of living is making our own choices and then learning right from wrong. Sometimes to learn about ourselves, our lives and our individual paths, we have to go through certain experiences. If someone ALWAYS has the right answer for us, it's sort of like cheating at the game of life.
I do a whole lot of sighing in my house, especially with my daughter, who never listens to me. I just exhale and try not to say anything to her. Then I sit back and relive my youth in my head. I can't point fingers at her for not listening to me when I still fail to listen to my OWN gut sometimes. The apple doesn't fall from the tree, so I have to allow her to make her own decisions, just like I was allowed to make MY own.
All you can do is what every other Mom does when her kids fall down. You dust them off, kiss their "boo-boos," bandage them up and send them on their way. As they grow, the "bandages" start becoming words to soothe a broken heart or troubled soul. You can use your psychic ability in that capacity. You are very good at calming others and helping them find healing, because you "just know" what to say.
I wish you acceptance of all that "family" can and will be.
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Astrea:
Oh, Angela! While psychic, you haven't grasped the basic concept that NO ONE listens to unsolicited advice. Trying to tell your close friends and family what is going to happen to them is a futile exercise. Sometimes it's like sitting on a mountain, watching train and car wrecks erupt all over the place below you. You're just going to have to get used to that or go crazy. People close to you aren't going to take your predictions seriously, no matter how often you are proven accurate.
Usually I can keep my big mouth shut and say, "I'm sorry, I'm too close to you to read for you, and what I get would be colored with my own feelings and opinions. I LOVE YOU TOO MUCH to read for you." Flattery sometimes gets people off your tail. It's worth a try, anyway!
I wish I could find a way to remain silent myself. Just recently I tried to tell a family member something that I had "heard" from beyond the veil, and was told I was NUTS! This person had badgered me for weeks for the information I gave her, and went I finally gave in and told her (against my better psychic judgment, I might add), it made her very angry. Now I'm not allowed to visit her home! As many times as this has happened to me, I was STILL flabbergasted that she would take what she INSISTED on knowing the way that she did. Silly me! Being psychic, I should have known better!
That's the most frustrating situation we psychics get into. People in our families ask and ask. Then if we deliver and they don't LIKE what they hear, they take it out on US! Because they don't want to believe it's true, they decide it's our personal opinion instead of trusting that we are tapping the same source of divine guidance for them as we do for strangers. There isn't any way to ALTER what we see and hear in the psychic realm - it comes as it comes. Family and friends are too fragile, and those relationships are too important. We can't win in that situation, even if the news is good!
Another factor here is the "no pay, no value" deal. People will value something based on what they have to pay or give for it. So if you give them advice for free, they will tend to disregard it.
Please join me in my New Year's resolution to NOT to read for anyone I'm personally close to. Let's refer those people to someone qualified, gifted and EXPENSIVE! That way, they can come to us for confirmation only, and feel they got their money's worth.
By keeping our mouths shut, we can keep the peace with family and friends!