Lately I have been having constant trigger thoughts of my ex-boyfriend. (He is alive, not deceased.) We broke up months ago and have had no contact since, so I'm wondering why he is suddenly on my mind all the time. Recently I actually felt his presence like a comforting mist around me. What does this mean, and why do you think it is happening? Thanks!
Lee
Astrea:
When I sense someone intruding on my life like that, I locate that person so we can have a talk. When someone keeps coming up in dreams or popping into my mind, I just call that person.
Sometimes the person may take a while to find, and at first, they may have mixed feelings about hearing from me directly. They're never sorry, however, and more importantly, I am never sorry that I followed up on something my intuition was begging me to do.
Until you've spoken with him, he'll continue to haunt
you when you're sleeping and awake, and I'm sure that gets annoying after a while. It may take you some time to track him down. You might begin by going through contacts who might know where he is. If you can't get a telephone number, write a snail mail note to his parents and ask them to send it on to him.
When you reach him, tell him that he's been on your mind way too much, and you are certain there is something going on. With any luck, he'll tell you right away what's happening with him.
If you have to coax things out over several conversations, so what? Some people are skeptical or afraid of this kind of telepathy. Be gentle but tell the truth about why you felt compelled to contact him again: you were worried. People appreciate our concern more than you might think.
There is also the chance that he misses you and has come to his senses and very much wants to be close to you again. Perhaps he needs your friendship, and you can be friends now instead of just exes. Maybe the two of you can reach for a relationship that isn't as toxic as the one that caused you to lose contact in the first place. Perhaps you just need to forgive one another for past hurts.
Much unhappiness can be prevented if we listen to our intuition in relationships. Even if your parting was angry or sad, people who keep popping into your head usually need your help or advice because they are facing a hard decision or a life-changing event.
It may not have anything to do with you other than the fact that he needs some support right now. If you're brave enough to confront the problem together, you'll both grow from this experience.
From time to time, everyone gets those nagging feelings that someone from their past is trying to reach out to them. It never hurts to pay attention and honor your feelings and intuitions. The worst that can happen is getting your feelings hurt, and while that can be awful, it isn't as bad as ignoring your heart and feeling like you're missing something.
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Susyn:
It's highly likely that your ex is thinking about you and is sending these trigger thoughts. I can't say what the reasons might be for his sudden renewed interest in you, but there is a good way to find out without ever making any kind of direct contact.
I'm sure you've had the experience of thinking of someone from your past at random only to have the phone ring or an email show up from them a day or two later. These experiences are wonderful evidence of the kinetic and psychic connections we share with those we've been close to in the past.
In this particular instance, he may want to contact you but feel hesitant to do so. If this is the case, the more he thinks of you, the more trigger thoughts you are likely to experience.
I wouldn't recommend contacting him directly. If he is struggling with whether or not to contact you, he must come to his own conclusion and make a move if he is so inclined.
If the trigger thoughts become more annoying, I would recommend you freeze his energy. This is a simple process that won't harm him but will rid you of these nagging, perplexing thoughts. Assuming there was good reason for the break-up and that you have laid to rest all the issues that came up between you, freezing his thoughts from coming your way is the quickest way to restore sanity to your world.
I experienced an incident similar to this with an ex who was constantly astral-protecting to me at night. On the advice of a trusted psychic, I took action by freezing him. The next time he came, he hovered outside my window but couldn't get in. He was pretty angry about that, but he realized after a few minutes that his attempts had been blocked and he never returned.
To freeze your ex's psychic invasions, tear off a piece of unlined brown paper from a grocery sack or a lunch bag and write his name on it. Fold it up and put it in a small plastic bag with a zip lock. Fill the bag with enough water to cover the paper, seal it, and toss it into your freezer.
Within 24 hours, you should notice the thoughts diminishing, and soon after that, they should disappear altogether. If he's determined to get ahold of you, this will force him to pick up the phone or drop you a line - if indeed he wants to make contact with you.
I can't say if he is interested in rebuilding the relationship or not, but the fact that you felt comforted by his presence suggests that he still has positive, caring feelings for you and means you no harm. Once he contacts you in physical life, you can decide whether or not you have any interest in reconnecting.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.