It is believed that what you don't like in others is a mirror of yourself, and that what goes around, comes around. If this is true, then why is it that some people can be nasty, spiteful and blatantly lie about me when I am not like that to others? I have had several experiences over the past eight years when I have found out that I have apparently said something I never really said, and it usually comes from people I have barely spoken two words to. I have analyzed this to death, and I can't work out why this keeps occurring. Why are some people mean to people who are kind-hearted? How do nice people manifest such experiences?
Lisa, I am glad you asked this question. Why on earth do you think that just because you are kind and honest, people will be the same way towards you? Where did you get that idea? If that were the case, no child would ever be murdered by a psychotic lunatic, and no sweet little old woman would ever be beaten for her social security check. There would be no wars. There would be no famines. There would be no suffering of any kind.
Often, the nicer you are to someone, the meaner they are to you. I think that sometimes people are threatened by Light or kindness, love, peace, joy, etc. I think that some people find it necessary to combat kindness with anger or hatred. I also know that some people have issues with intimacy and kindness, as their own childhoods were bereft of either. If one was not shown how to love unconditionally, how to be kind, generous, respectful, etc., then how will one grow up knowing how to do those things? In some cases, no matter what you do or how nice you are, you will continue to get what you consider the raw deal. That is how life goes.
It is very Virgo of you to expect everyone to be upfront, open, honest, and decent to you if you treat them that way. It is also a hard day when we start to realize that the world is NOT fair. You keep expecting fair treatment in business, friendships, love and life in general. So far, you have not received it in ANY area. I think you are starting to figure out that people will just treat you badly at times, regardless of how you treat them.
On the other hand, there are people who will also be exceedingly kind and generous to you. When you come across those types of people, it makes your journey easier for a while. I think there are more positive people on the planet than negative ones, despite what it looks like when we turn on the evening news.
Do not stop being the kind person you are just because the majority of people around you do not return your kindness. You are planting seeds of decency. Hopefully, one day those seeds will take root and those people will start to grow some manners themselves. Also, please notice that if you take a deep breath or two and clear out the energy, you can readjust a situation's energy sometimes. For example, if you smile at someone and they just scowl at you, instead of scowling back and muttering something mean, take that breath and feel the energy lift. It WILL change some situations around you.
I wish you PEACE.
You can't control what other people say and feel about you, and being hurt is a CHOICE you make. You say that over the past eight years, you've been lied about by people you barely know. If you barely know these people, it shouldn't matter to you what they say, Kiddo. There is always going to be some jealous person who wants to hurt you in some way or another. Those people have to live with what they're doing, not you! The only Karma that is being damaged is THEIRS!
When someone goes out of their way to hurt your feelings, it's very difficult to ignore it. If you examine their motives, however, you can rise above it. Why give that acquaintance power over you by choosing to have hurt feelings about a lie? Why give the mean person REPEATING the lie that power? I find with lots of my Virgo friends that mean people like to bait them because the angry, dramatic performance that is sometimes the result is so much FUN for them to observe! Most of the things that these people tell you "others" say are exaggerations anyway, and don't deserve your time and attention.
"What goes around, comes around" is a SLOGAN, like "the show must go on" or "there is ONE soul mate for every person." "What goes around, comes around" might be a comforting notion at times, but it isn't necessarily true. Often, mean people don't ever get the meanness they put into the Universe back, or at least, not in this Incarnation. Expecting that bad things will happen to the people who say bad things about you is unrealistic, and not something to look forward to, anyway! That just keeps you STEEPED in the DRAMA of the situation, and puts more negativity into your life. Dwelling on people getting what they deserve is perpetuating the bad feelings, and will keep drawing those kinds of people into your Harmony to disrupt your life.
As much as I would like to believe that when we meet people in kindness and love, that's what we'll always get in return, I have lived too long to be that idealistic. There are some VERY MEAN PEOPLE in the World, and they get their kicks from other people's unhappiness. As a Virgo, you're going to be challenged in ALL of your personal and work relationships.
Virgos like to be IN CONTROL of their lives at all times. That's the nature of your Sign. What can you do about it? Try to keep YOURSELF in a positive mindset, no matter what others do. The only person's mouth and feelings you can control are your OWN. Remember what you learned as a child about sticks and stones!
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.