Double Vision: Lifting Grandma’s Curse?

My grandmother (father's mother) cursed my parents when they married, saying that their marriage would bring them great unhappiness, that they would not prosper together, and that their issue would wither and die. Most of what she said has happened. I am still alive at 49, but I have had to overcome many illnesses (including cancer) and am unable to have children. Since my grandmother died, I have seen her continue to act through my father. I have no relationship directly with my grandmother, as I never met her while she was alive. I understand the need to raise my vibration by forgiving her and have worked on this throughout my life. I now feel only pity for this women who has caused the death of her own line (none of her other children had children either.) I want to resolve this and be released from the effects of her curse, as my parents' misery affects me because I love them. It is very sad, as they loved each other so very much. Here's my question: Is there any way as a "third party" to the curse that I can lift it? If so, how should I go about it? I would really appreciate any advice you may have.

- Robyn


I imagine the answer to your question will vary depending on who answers it. I personally don't feel that anyone can be cursed, so I also don't feel that a third party can lift an apparent curse. I think that the power of a "curse" lies in whether or not someone believes that they can be cursed.

Quantum physics explains that what we think is what we create. As Maharishi Mahesh Yogi said, "All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become."

If a family thinks it is cursed, then when bad things happen, the family will see them as proof that the curse is real and believe in it even more. The problem with your family stems from some DNA issues. For example, you have hereditary problems with procreation. Your family also carries over FEAR and ANGER issues from generation to generation. Your family has always blamed these problems on this curse idea; it's an excuse that makes sense to everyone.

Your parents are, by your own admission, miserable people. They had a miserable marriage, and your father is a mean, cranky, angry old man. He acts much like your grandmother did, but that is NOT a curse Robyn ñ it's a choice. He could choose to be nice to people if he wanted to. His bad behavior is being excused by everyone who blames your grandmother and "the curse" for it.

No outside person can remove an apparent curse. Period. I do not care what this psychic, that gypsy woman, or that holy man says. No one can remove a curse.

Please do not pay any more money to anyone in an attempt to remove this curse, for there was no curse to begin with. Your grandmother just hated the thought of your father and mother marrying, and she knew that they would be miserable. Instead of "making" this happen, maybe she just predicted it.

She wanted your father to stay and take care of her. She did not want to give up your father to your mother, for she did not like your mother. Their unhappiness was not a result of her curse, however - it was a result of them making a bad choice in marrying each other.

Your grandmother said she cursed the marriage because she was a real Drama Queen. She would be THRILLED to know that her words have held so much power. She did not have the ability to put a curse on anyone, anyway. Cursing someone is what people do when they feel powerless to control or manipulate others.

If you want to be "free of this curse," I think you should say the following words out loud three times every morning before your feet even hit the floor:

"Today I create a happy, prosperous, abundant day."

I wish you FREEDOM at last.



Kiddo, your grandmother didn't curse your family. It seems that she didn't need to, because those of you who have believed in that curse have done a bang-up job of cursing YOURSELVES.

Since you're alive, apparently you have overcome most of what she SUGGESTED would happen to your family. Since your parents are still alive, they've broken the supposed curse too. I'm sorry that you've had a series of illnesses in your life, but you survived them - even CANCER. If Grandmother's curse was so powerful, you wouldn't be here! How can you believe she cursed all of you when you're still a loving and giving person?

What she was doing when she "cursed" your parents at their wedding was trying to CONTROL them. She couldn't even do that when she was alive, much less from Spirit, because they got married in spite of her. Her curse had no power then, and it has no power now, except for the POWER YOU GIVE IT.

Illness is not something that is planned or destined, and it's not something that one person can inflict on another. That would go against nature. Bad luck stems from making foolish choices. Instead of taking responsibility for anything that goes wrong in your lives, you lay it all on grandmother's curse!

You have all drawn comfort from this idea, because the alternative is to accept that you might be the own cause of your "bad luck." "I didn't get the job because of grandmother's curse" or "If Granny hadn't cursed me, the Coke machine wouldn't have taken my dollar."

Another extreme idea with the same result is when someone says, "It's God's will that this happened," or "God didn't mean for me to be happy." If you continue to believe something like this, it can ruin your whole life.

When someone has done a wrong to you or your family, forgiveness is essential to truly moving on. Since she only SAID she cursed your family, and nothing ever happened as a direct result of what she said, raising your vibration by forgiving her should be fairly easy, and it certainly would be wise.

I don't know why the rest of her children never had children of their own, but from what you've told me, it would seem that she was the kind of overbearing, controlling individual who could manipulate people into doing almost EVERYTHING she wanted.

Spiritually, she has come a long way since she died, and she feels just awful about what she said to your folks when they got married. She is telling me that she is embarrassed and ashamed of herself for saying anything of the kind, and she wants you all to stop buying into this superstitious garbage so that you can get on with your lives and be HAPPY!


Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.