I had a boss at my last job that I felt a special spiritual connection to. This was a brotherly type of bond, never romantic. I've since been laid off from that job, which was quite emotional for both of us. Ever since that day, I've had very intense, vivid dreams in which the two of us are very close. In fact, one night I dreamed of him and the next day I received an email from him apologizing for not keeping in touch and asking me to stay in contact. I really want to know why I feel so deeply connected to this very sweet man. Do you think this is past life related or that we have more karma in this life to finish? Your input is very much appreciated. Thank you!
S.
Astrea:
When we feel close to someone we've loved well in past lives, parting can be truly awful whether we're romantically involved or not. When you're used to seeing your brother
every day, NOT seeing him can be very sad and emotionally difficult.
Both of you have the same feelings; he dreams of you often too. People in dreams always do things they wouldn't or couldn't do in real life. That's one of the main purposes of dreams. Often I have dreams of my close friends wherein we never speak but I wake up feeling like we've had long conversations.
Sometimes the people we dream about represent other people, but I think you're truly visiting each other in these dreams. You see each other there because you can no longer see each other every day at work. Your connection is strong because it's been lots of different connections over many incarnations and past lives. He's been your father, brother, lover and friend over and over again. That's one of the reasons you two hit it off so well.
What you're experiencing in your dream life is what Carlos Castaneda called Being in Dreaming,
and most likely, your former boss is experiencing the same thing. This would explain why he sent that email to you the day after you had that intense dream about him. He probably had either the same dream or the same sort of dream about you.
He misses you to pieces, and the two of you still have Karma together, so you should try to see one another more in real life if that's possible. I know people are busy and forever scrambling to stay on top of all they have to do, but it's so important for the two of you to keep your connection going.
If he is the kind of person with whom you can discuss these kinds of spiritual experiences, please do it! He's confused about his feelings for you too, especially with these dreams coming more and more often. The longer you don't talk about this, the more likely it is that you'll drift apart rather than together.
True friendship is difficult enough to find these days, and people we can trust are few and far between. If you bring up these dreams and feelings, he'll be relieved, and you can deepen your relationship to whatever degree you both desire.
To all of you who feel these intense kinds of connections to others, if the other person is at all open to discussing the nature of your bond, initiate that conversation! It's never disappointing to pursue these feelings. Besides, you'll find out a lot, not only about the other person but about your own Karma too.
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Susyn:
Many people develop close connections with their coworkers because they typically spend most of their waking hours with them. Even before you were laid off, there was a deep connection between the two of you.
It can be quite traumatic to experience a sudden change in your life such as the loss of a job in addition to losing regular contact with your friends at work. A change this big can certainly affect your subconscious and hence your dreams.
As you prepare to move into a new phase of your life, there will be a part of you that wants to hold on. If this friendship is strong, you will continue to be a part of each other's lives. This transition may be awkward at first because no matter what happens, you no longer have regular contact with each other.
As when we graduate from grade school, high school or college, it's natural to leave many people behind as our lives evolve. We may stay in contact with some but most fade into the background. If this is a past life connection or there is karma to finish, as you suggest, then the relationship will continue even if it takes a different form.
Because it's rare to find such a strong connection these days, you'll want to nurture this relationship through this transition and continue to keep in regular contact. There is no reason not to continue your friendship unless there are other circumstances you haven't mentioned that could make doing so complicated or difficult.
The fact that you had a dream about him and then heard from him the next day through email affirms that he is also feeling the loss of your relationship. This is natural given your deep bond. The experience of thinking or dreaming of a person only to hear from or run into them a day or two later is remarkably common. These are usually people who are destined to touch our lives in important ways.
It's quite possible that the two of you shared a past life together, as it sounds like you were drawn to each other from the start. We can usually identify past life connections very quickly based on the sense of familiarity or the deep feelings we have for them right from the start.
If you are interested in exploring the past lives you may have shared together or learning more about why you are so strongly connected in this lifetime, you could seek out a psychic versed in the art of past life recall. In the mean time, you can just appreciate the fact that this sweet friend came into your life, filled a very special place in your heart, and wants to stay connected to you.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.