I lost my beautiful son, a couple of years ago in an accident. Several people have said to me that he will be coming back soon. One said to look for births in my family. My question is how will I know? What should I look for? I feel the world will never be right without him in it in some way. Blessings and many thanks to you.
Holly
Susyn:
I am so sorry for your loss. While the pain of losing a child never goes away, you can take solace in the fact that he will return to you. Though it may still be a few years away, there are a number of telltale signs that will alert you to his return.
When souls cross over, they are given a choice as to whether they would like to return to the earth plane. The timing of this depends on many factors. Most spend some time in the spirit world, processing their last life on earth and learning more about their higher purpose. Most spirits who plan on coming back insist on being reborn into their family of origin so they can be close to those they love. This can play a big role in the timing of their return, for they must wait for a member of their family or a close friend to become pregnant.
Spirits can choose to reincarnate as either gender, but I feel that your son will return as a male, so this is one sign to watch for when a baby is born within your family in the near future.
When the baby is first born, you will notice physical similarities in his eyes and his smile. Also note his temperament in general, as this can be yet another sign of a soul's identity. As the child grows, it will become more evident that he is your son. The way he learns to walk, crawl and process life will be familiar, for you will see similarities between this child and your son when he was a baby.
Once he begins to talk, watch for expressions or words that remind you of your son. For example, if your son's first word was Mama, this child may also make that his first word. Your son will gravitate to you and do his best to let you know that he has returned, so it won't take long for you to realize that this is him.
If you still have some of your son's favorite toys from infancy, you can also use these to affirm that his spirit dwells within the new baby. When he is old enough to crawl, you can set out some of these toys among others he possesses. He will naturally gravitate to the toys from his previous childhood.
Of course, the relationship with him will be different this time around, for he will have new parents who occupy most of his time. Even so, when you are near him, he will give you an unusual level of love and attention. Though your time together as mother and son was cut short, the love and life experiences you shared will carry over into his next incarnation.
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Oceania:
I'm sorry for your tragic loss.
I like to imagine that those closest to me leave an energy imprint on my soul and become part of my DNA. I'm sure you've seen the double helix DNA molecule: two entwined and spiraling strands, connected by a series of rungs, that looks like a long twisted ladder. That image inspires me to envision the people who have impacted my life as spiraling around me and through me. They have altered and enhanced me; I'm not sure where I end and they begin anymore! Your son is forever a part of you in this way.
You wrote, The world will never be right without him in it in some way.
I would argue that he IS in the world, even now. He remains in every life he touched and his influence carries on.
It feels as if you're putting your life on hold to some degree and looking to the distant future is a way of avoiding the present moment. Instead of scrutinizing the newborns in your family tree, searching for an energy clone of your departed son, I'm hoping you will see those new lives as unique individuals. Just as your son uniquely added to the world, so will any new family members!
Life is in session and you have a lot of living to do right now. Can you enjoy the people you're with today as well as the challenges and invitations right in front of you? Waiting and watching for your son's return may be a way of avoiding the pain of grief. If you need support in your grieving, please seek some counseling or join me here in chat.
Regarding your son's return, you asked, How will I know?
I suspect you'll just KNOW, but I do recommend accepting you may never know, and maybe you're not supposed to. Why not let the issue go, focus on the NOW, and be pleasantly surprised if and when he shows up? I know you miss your son, but there are other family members, friends and fellows who yearn for your full presence today.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.