How can I encourage my two-year-old daughter in her abilities? She has visitations from spirits, both departed family members and others. She can predict the gender of unborn babies, and has told me about one of her past lives. I don't want her to lose her abilities until she is old enough to decide for herself. She recently gave me a message from a relative who had passed away and it caused me to cry, which frightened her. I want to be supportive but it just kind of threw me because it was so unexpected. I'm afraid it might prevent her from talking to me about stuff because she is afraid I'll be sad again. I should mention that my aunt passed on Tuesday evening and she told me the message from her on Wednesday morning, so her death hadn't quite sunk in yet.
Beverly
Susyn:
You are very wise to encourage your daughter's gifts, for your attitude and responses to her when she relays something of a psychic nature will definitely influence her perception of her abilities. As you mentioned, crying when you received the message from your aunt had a big impact on your daughter. Though it is natural to respond in this manner, you will want to practice caution in the future so that she does not feel that her gifts are upsetting to others.
From birth until the age of five or six, most children exhibit psychic abilities. They can speak to spirits, recall past lives and make amazing predictions. As they age, they tend to bury or repress these extraordinary gifts based on the skeptical or fearful reactions of adults.
One thing you can do to help your daughter retain and expand her gifts is to expose her to others with the same abilities. Given your daughter's young age, there may not be an appropriate group in your area, so here are some other ways to encourage her.
There are now many shows on television that feature a variety of psychic phenomena. (Please be sure they are not programs of an upsetting or frightening nature.) Some channels even have shows specifically targeted to the subject of psychic children. A few programs such as Long Island Medium take a light-hearted approach to these topics. If you watch them together, you can answer any questions she might have and point out the similarities between her own experiences and those of these television personalities.
There are also books and online forums on the subject that you may want to share with her; look for ones that are not too advanced and are validating of the abilities she is displaying. You can also find psychic exercises through these venues, which you can use to test and challenge her to develop further. We live in exciting times, for the internet is a source of endless information on this and other subjects.
As her gifts and awareness continue to grow, you may want to take her for a psychic reading. A psychic can affirm what she is doing and may be able to help her decipher past life impressions and the messages she regularly receives from spirits. Having more than one adult validate what she is doing will give her the confidence to continue.
The most important thing you can do is overtly encourage your daughter. So many young children are discouraged from practicing and developing their gifts. She is blessed to have your support and willingness to help her expand her abilities. The more you are open to and appreciative of her gifts, the stronger they will grow.
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Oceania:
It's only natural that you would cry upon hearing a message from your aunt the day after she passed. There's no need to walk on eggshells around your daughter. You can rest assured that your outburst of tears did her no harm. Her abilities aren't going anywhere, and there's no way you're going to get a two-year-old to stop talking!
She's at a good age to start learning more about feelings. I would focus on the four basic categories of happy, mad, scared and sad. Since two-year-olds learn well through imitation, you can be a role model for how to put feelings into words.
Children identify what they feel through physical sensations and cues, so talk about where you notice your feelings in your body. My face is smiling, my voice is laughing, I feel happy!
My tummy hurts, my eyes have tears, I feel sad.
You can help her begin to understand the messages behind feelings. We feel happy when we like something, mad when we don't, scared when something's unknown, and sad when the familiar is gone. When you notice your daughter experiencing an emotion, help her put it into words.
In time, you'll teach her that the intensity of feelings can vary from a little to a lot. You'll add more words to her feeling repertoire to convey this. For example, happy
can range from calm to excited, mad
from annoyed to furious, scared
from worried to terrified, and sad
from disappointed to grief-stricken.
Awareness of one's body and emotions is often the first line of input for a psychic; to fine-tune our abilities to discern subtler energies, we must build upon this foundation. As far as you encouraging her abilities, it sounds like you're doing a great job by listening to what she shares and not invalidating her experiences.
My only words of caution would be to not put too much emphasis on her gifts. For example, don't make a fuss if she correctly predicts the gender of an unborn child; everyone has a 50/50 chance of getting that right!
It's more important for children to feel loved just for being than for being special. A too-celebrated gift can become a burden in that the child may come to feel their worth depends upon it. In some cases, children may feel that the worth of their parents depends upon it.
When children present themselves to other kids as being important, special, talented or gifted, it can create distance between them and their peers. More important than being a stand-out is for a child to feel part of a community where they come to be valued for their strengths and are able to enjoy the strengths of others.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.