Double Vision: Discerning Desires vs. Intuitions

Is my intuition fooling me regarding getting back with my husband? How will I know? I have this deep feeling that my marriage will survive, but at this moment, we are not even talking and he has found another woman. Am I just fooling myself? How can we separate our intuitions from wishful thinking?



It's so difficult to know if what we're sensing about ourselves and the people closest to us is true or merely what we wish were true. When the question is romantic or something to do with other loved ones, it can be twice as difficult to figure things out.

Since it's so tricky, we often just give up and accept whatever we see on the surface as what's really going on. Right now, you say you and your ex-husband aren't even speaking to each other. I promise this will change over time, whether you both decide you want to be together again or not.

As hurtful as it is that he's found someone else, nine times out of ten, that person is Rebound Girl, and no one to take very seriously. Often people make something like that seem like more than it is to their ex simply because they're angry.

My psychic feeling for you is that this woman is a diversion because he can't face you at the moment to talk about anything real or serious. By having a girlfriend, he can avoid coming back home for a while longer.

I DO see you back together in July, however. According to my cards, you seem to really love one another. This is just a very bad time in your relationship, but it will pass into forgiveness and eventually reunion in a few months.

If you feel iffy about your own intuition, ask a reputable psychic for a second opinion. If you can't find a gifted, responsible reader in your area, there are plenty here at Kajama who can take a truly objective look at what is going on in your life.

If you don't like the diagnosis or if it seems way off from your own thoughts and feelings, you can try for a third opinion, but after that you should stop. That old saying about too many cooks spoiling the broth is true. Oftentimes, people will go from reader to reader until they get the answer they want to hear, and that doesn't help anyone!

Too many readings, even if you're doing them for yourself, will always make you feel more lost and confused. So if you're reading for yourself, beware. If we aren't in a respectful, objective state of mind, the tools we use can tease us and joke around about even the most serious of subjects.

Whenever you're unsure whether something you're sensing is a psychic intuition or wishful thinking, I believe it's time to call in an expert. I never, ever read for myself or anyone in my family. I can't do it; it's too hard. It gives me a killer migraine just to try to sort it all out.

If I have a question, I get someone else who is a reader to take a look. Is that the lazy way out? I don't think so. I think that asking someone outside the situation to look at it objectively is the best way to get some real answers.



You pose an interesting question. It's one that most people struggle with at one time or another. There are ways to distinguish between wishful thinking and intuition metaphysically, though it can take some time for the truth to come clear.

You could actually be slowing down the course of destiny by hanging on to the hope that your husband will return. To deal with this situation most effectively, you will have to take your focus off of him and what he is doing, and return the focus to yourself. Once you do, you'll immediately notice things beginning to change.

I have found that in relationships between men and women, the man usually emulates whatever the woman is focused on. When you first met, your focus was likely on yourself, and his focus was on winning your heart. Over time, especially after marriage, a woman's focus tends to turn her husband and his needs. Once this happens, the man's focus returns to himself and his own needs or desires.

If you will regroup and start living according to your own best interests, and perhaps even consider the idea of dating someone yourself, your husband will notice this shift almost immediately. It needn't involve the exchange of any words or information; he will subconsciously pick up on your energetic shift toward detachment.

As an example, I was divorced from my husband for almost two years before I began dating again. Until then, my ex pretty much left me alone, but the morning after my first date with another man ñ boom! - he was on my doorstep. Even though the marriage was over, his focus was back on me in a veritable instant!

When you let go of this idea of reconciliation and begin doing things for yourself, whether that means taking a dance class, dating someone new, or clearing out his belongings to make more room for your own, you may discover that this separation is actually a blessing. You will find yourself feeling more confident, independent, empowered and attractive.

To find immediate relief from this struggle, start by making a list of things you love to do, and what you can do for yourself now that you have the time. One of the quickest ways to make this shift is by engaging in physical activity. To get the ball rolling, join a gym, plant a garden, or clean out a closet.

Though no one wants to fail in a relationship, this separation could be a blessing in disguise. If this marriage is meant to come back together, it will do so much faster if you are taking good care of yourself and are in a happy, high vibration. If you turn this situation over to the Universe, you won't have to make a decision about the future, for everything will all unfold in your best interests.


Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.