I'm a practicing psychic and am wondering if I will ever find true love. I am already reluctant to come out of the closet with certain people, for as you know, society in general is critical, fearful and skeptical of anything psychic. While not all of society is like this, a good majority rejects anything dealing with psychic phenomena. I try to always be honest in my dealings with others, but as soon as I reveal what I am and what I do to earn money, I get shunned by men. It can be really painful, and it causes me to doubt myself and my attractiveness. If I can't be up front about who and what I am in an intimate, loving relationship, then who can I be up front with? I would like to marry one day, but I can't be sure if I will ever find a man who will accept me for me. Reading for myself about this is tricky; I'm unable to get clear answers because I can't get out of my own way. I will be 40 next year. Am I destined to be a spinster? I'm a Sagittarius.
Lynx
Astrea:
You're in a situation that many professional psychic readers have experienced. Telling someone you've been dating or that you're beginning to date that you are psychic really does cull out the losers in a hurry, for no one who is going to misbehave wants to be with someone who can read them. Many people also have the big misconception that psychics are mind readers. Oh! If only that were true!
People who read for others for a living are notorious for not being able to get out of their own way. Discernment is sometimes the most difficult of all psychic skills to develop. Forty is the age when most of us achieve discernment these days. Be happy you haven't made a dreadful error before.
I want to take this opportunity to say that waiting until you are 40 does not mean that you'll be a spinster! From one Sagittarius to another, I can tell you that I goofed up plenty before I was your age, and being psychic didn't seem to help me in my own romantic relationships.
Does being psychic exact payment? Of course it does. It can make us more aware of others, but it usually doesn't make us that much more in tune with the people we LOVE. This is why I never read for my family or closest friends. (Sometimes they insist, but they're usually very sorry they did!) There are personal, private things they don't want YiaYia to know, and I respect that and butt out!
It might offend my pals in law enforcement to know that I think having a relationship with a psychic is sort of like having one with a police officer. People who enter relationships with us feel obligated to behave or risk being found out.
Coming out of the closet is a good analogy too. Though some of my gay friends might take issue with this comparison, it is nevertheless what it feels like when you have to admit to the person you're in love with what it is you do for a living. There's no way I know to put someone at ease who has recently discovered that you're reading for a living. Either they can take it or they can't. Most people can get used to it, and the ones who reject us because of it aren't worth being with anyway, for they have things to hide!
Sagittarius, I know you'll find that person you're seeking in the next year. How do I know? I'm psychic! I also know that the 40th year is the most important year of a Sag's life when it comes to relationships.
That person will manifest for you sometime shortly after the first of the year, so you can start looking forward to a loving, lifelong relationship with someone who is honest and upright enough to be with you without fear of what you might discover.
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Susyn:
I agree that it can be challenging to be a psychic, especially when it comes to the dating scene. I carried these same ideas for years myself, and it seemed that any potential relationships ended almost immediately once a man discovered what I did for a living.
It is important that you remain true to yourself and continue to make your living in a profession that feeds your soul. Trust me: the man you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with will not have a problem with your career choice.
For years, I tried different methods to bypass what I thought was the problem. I tried dating men who also worked in the field of metaphysics, but to no avail. I found different names for my career, such as metaphysical consultant
or counselor.
The men I connected with were still put off by my work, even though I had created, literally from scratch, a lucrative and rewarding career.
Over time, I came to discover the truth: that what I did for a living was not the problem. The reason I couldn't find a long-term relationship had less to do with my work and more to do with my approach. This proved to be true when I found my life partner, a nuclear physics engineer, whose own career is based in science, fact and tangible proof. Never in my wildest dreams did I believe that we could form a partnership, but we could not be any closer or happier.
First, let go of the idea that your career is what is preventing you from having a loving partnership. When we truly fall in love, there is nothing about us that can put the other person off. The key is learning to create enough attraction and connection to experience love first, before we reveal too much of ourselves.
Because of your past experiences, you may be sending out defensive energy or setting yourself up to fail before you even get to know the other person. Though I donÃt recommend you hide what you do for a living, you may be going into details too quickly or revealing more than you need to at the start.
If you are serious about finding a life partner, I recommend a book called The Rules by Ellen Fein. Though it is slanted towards finding a husband, this book contains some basic truths and information about men that we women need to know. Once I read this book and started practicing these tenets, never again was anyone I dated uncomfortable with what I did for a living.
Give it a try. It will shift your awareness, affirm that your career is not what is preventing you from having a loving relationship, and give you tools to make the most of your dating experiences instead of limiting them.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.