My girlfriend left me about 2 1/2 months ago. I hadn't really learned anything when she broke up with me the first time. I expected us to just get back together, but then she started seeing another guy. (I was so emotional about our break that I pushed her away when we got back together again.) I feel she is my soul mate, and when she told me she was seeing someone else, I started doing some things to change my life, like moving out on my own and getting a new job and seeing friends more, things I should have done a long time ago but didn't. I'm wondering if my spirit guides prompted this experience in order to help me move forward with my own life this way, if certain events take place just to wake us up. I have also not given up hope of winning my love back, because my gut just tells me to hang in there, don't give up. So I am not giving up, though it hurts so much to keep hoping. Do you believe that the emotions I am feeling are because I am meant to get back with Charlotte - that they're being generated by Spirit, and that I just needed to experience the other emotions so that I would learn?
- D.
Dreamchaser:
Thank you for sharing this with us. I really believe that no matter how it comes about, positive change is a good thing. I know that sounds obvious, but you REALLY needed to make some changes. You are finally starting to live the life that you are supposed to be living and taking responsibility for your own actions.
I have no doubt that your Spirit Workers (God, angels, guides, etc.) are working on your behalf and moving things into your path to make you FINALLY step up to the plate and act like a grown-up. Not only did you make physical life changes (like moving, new job, etc.) but you are also making mental and emotional changes. You have stopped blaming other people for your problems or mistakes - or at least you do it much less than you used to. You are making great headway, and it is important that you know that you have LOTS of help from the Otherworld. For the record, "everyone" is very proud of the progress you have made so far.
Breakups are notorious for making us make changes in our lives. Women lose weight, drastically change their hair, buy a new wardrobe and things like that. Men lose weight, buy a sports car, change jobs, move - essentially things just like you did. Sometimes this happens because a part of us saying, "If I was different, maybe she (he) would still love me." In any case, positive change is always a good thing, no matter what the original cause or motivation.
I do not believe that we have just one "soul mate." I think we have at least five in each lifetime. We are human and we have free will. We often make the wrong choices in life and run away from someone who is important to us. If we only had one chance at true love, a large majority of the global population would blow it early in life by making a bad choice. So even if Charlotte decides to not come back, you are not doomed to never love again. You will get another shot at love.
So often people tell us, "Just let her (him) go." That is very easy to say, but very hard to do. If you are not ready to let go of Charlotte or the hope of reconciliation, then you do not have to at this time. I am not going to tell you to ignore your gut instincts; I spend half my life telling my clients to listen to their gut. When it is time, Spirit will bring you what you need, and you will know it.
You had to learn about true, unselfish love. Now you fully realize what it is like to lose someone. You will not treat women the same after this. You will be more tender. So you will be better for this pain you are going through now.
I wish you true solace.
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Astrea:
We all have Guides and Angels with us as we make right and wrong choices in our lives. It sounds to me like there is much singing and dancing going on with your Guides and Angels, not because Spirit caused you to change your life, but because YOU GREW UP and began to make right and positive choices for yourself.
You're not changing your life for CHARLOTTE, you're changing it for YOU, and They are overjoyed. Guides and Angles can do very little unless we cooperate with Right Thinking and Action. Since you and your girlfriend broke up, you have taken the time to look at your life and decide what really is important to you.
You speak honestly and from your heart about what happened to ruin the relationship you had with her. Why she is seeing the other person, and why that's had such an effect on you is pretty obvious, but it was HER FREE CHOICE to get involved with someone else. You have somehow found the PEACE in your own Heart to keep going with Hope. Bravo for you, to be able to put your feelings into words! This is a rare talent that Charlotte will begin to appreciate more and more as your lives together continue.
Some people never do this! Honestly! They drift through life on the SURFACE of things, selfishly never seeing what the OTHER person wants or needs. As soon as you began to see yourself as the person you really want to be, you made the changes that would CREATE THAT PERSON you ARE.
I also believe that you have made the conscious choice to feel as you feel for Charlotte, so that a soul mate situation can develop. We can welcome that soul mate situation, but we are also responsible for CHOOSING who we develop that sort of relationship with. If you and Charlotte can work through this (and I see you doing just that!), things will work out for the two of you.
I'm sure your Guides and Angels appreciate that you're doing what They want you to do to create your own happiness. They can't MAKE us do a THING. As much as They want us to use Them and listen to and heed Them, our Free Will is at work all the time to skunk them!
We create the situations from which we take our lessons. Your Guides and Angels tell me that if you had been listening to them, you and Charlotte would never have broken up in the first place! They DO see you back together, once she realizes how you have grown over the last 90 days as a person. People make mistakes, and they get forgiven. You and Charlotte have LOTS of Guides in Spirit working towards a happy ending for you two. They see it, and I see it too!:) Thanks for sharing your Heart with us!
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.