I'm writing because I'm wondering about a very strong connection I have with my husband's brother. This connection has been really bothering me. Though the feelings are joyous and happy, their intensity is confusing to me. I'd like to know if this situation is due to a past life connection. If this is the case, I would also like to know how to go about disconnecting from him. He is a very good person and I admire him greatly, but my spirit is telling me that there is some letting go that needs to happen, and issues that desperately need to be taken care of. Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Jodie
Astrea:
You'd be amazed at how many of us have strong karmic connections with an in-law or distant relative, for even mere acquaintances can have MAJOR past life Karma between them. The Universe does its best to help us coincide: sometimes we see those deep connections and sometimes we wait until next time.
When the person we have strong karma with is someone who is briefly passing through our lives, if we see the karma we have with that individual, we can usually resolve it pretty quickly. Sometimes one small act of kindness can do it.
One of the basic Christian principles is to love one another. Different spiritual paths have their own way of saying the same thing. The important thing is to try to follow this basic teaching, for then we won't miss any chances to improve our Karma for the future.
It's important to remain aware that though we have feelings of love for this other person, it's rarely romantic love. It can seem to be, however, so take that into consideration before you communicate your perception of your feelings to someone else.
In regards to these strong karmic bonds, the closer and more permanent the relationship, the longer it generally takes to get through whatever it is you're supposed to do. In extreme cases such as yours with your brother-in-law, it's a serious matter.
In order to get through the process, you may have to open up about it. Your husband accepts that you have strong intuition, so tell him about this. You might also tell your brother-in-law so you can agree on what's happening.
No one is going to get mad at you for exploring this territory as long as you're careful not to give anyone the wrong idea. Discuss this carefully to prevent misunderstandings. You may need some human support to put this behind you as quickly as possible, and your husband and his family are probably just the folks to help.
Once in a rare while, people end up in relationships to other people simply in order to meet a third party. While this doesn't happen very often, you need to find out if this is the case with the two of you. If it is, why you'd manifest this roadblock to happiness is anyone's guess. In the old days, we might have said there was a curse on your (or your husband's) family, or that you had done something awful in another life.
Now that we know so much more about Karma, it's clear that sometimes things happen on the Random rather than the Purpose. None of us is being punished due to our Karma from another life; we're just getting valuable opportunities to learn lessons we left behind in our Before Times.
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Susyn:
We often feel powerful emotions upon encountering someone with whom we have shared past lives. Given what you've described, we can only assume that this is what is happening.
Perhaps in a past life the two of you were lovers. As oftentimes happens, it could also be that you are repeating an identical karmic situation from the past and being given an opportunity to change the outcome this time around.
Either way, at this point the dilemma is how to detach from him so that this doesn't turn into something bigger. That he is your partnerÃs brother makes things a little tricky since it would be difficult to avoid him altogether.
In this situation, you will first need to create a new set of boundaries. If you feel comfortable discussing this matter with him, you can work together to ensure that nothing undesired comes of your strong feelings. Neither one of you wants to hurt his brother, so you should be able to work out an agreement.
If you are uneasy about the idea of discussing this subject with your partnerÃs brother on your own, you must work on lessening your own feelings by practicing new spiritual boundaries. For example, you should avoid entertaining any fantasies about what might happen, and simply live in the moment.
The less power and attention you give this situation, the more you will be able to direct the flow of this connection. Once you start to back up, he will likely do the same.
The best way to create boundaries is to first identify your feelings. Describing them on paper can lessen their power over you. When you finish, study them carefully. Once you face your feelings, you will be better able to master them in the future.
Be sure to meditate on your feelings and ask Spirit to take away the desire. Sometimes we are unable to alter thoughts or feelings on our own, for the more we focus on something, the stronger it becomes. Do not hesitate to ask for spiritual intervention and higher awareness to minimize your emotions when you are around him.
Even if you were in love in a past life, it's possible that moving forward with your feelings in this lifetime could ruin what you have. Most likely, this is either a karmic lesson you are trying to learn or a karmic pattern you are trying to break, so it's important to think before you act.
You may want to consult a psychic well-versed in past life exploration, for discovering more details about your past connection may make it easier to understand what's happening and let these feelings go. I recommend you schedule an appointment with a reputable reader to receive helpful insights and accurate information.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.