– Confucius
We are all wronged – frequently! We are all treated unfairly, unappreciated, misjudged, misunderstood, taken advantage of, ripped off, and neglected. In order to treat ourselves well, we must learn to be okay with that. These experiences are part of life; they will continue to happen. I had an upsetting experience with a software company that is engaging in unethical business practices, and I was absolutely furious for a good two days over it. Eventually, I decided to embrace this experience as a vivid example of how I don’t want to run my own business. Further, when I stepped back, I could see that this company was getting a lot of negative press, and that it was going to go through some very hard times and eventually fail. When I realized how much power I was giving to that company to affect how I felt and I decided to let the experience go, suddenly, it just didn’t matter anymore. We all sometimes let minor incidents turn into endless upsets; like scabs, we mentally pick them open over and over, and in this way, we wound and scar ourselves more than anyone or anything outside of us ever could. If we choose to focus on something else instead, before we know it, the scab is gone and the wound is long forgotten.