– David Bennett
I used to believe that everyone basically wanted the same thing: to get along and be happy, to love and be loved. I now see that some people are so wounded and desperate to prove to themselves that they are lovable that they will endlessly attack and provoke us in hopes that no matter what they do, we will continue to love them. They constantly take their pain and anger out on others simply because it hurts too much for them to keep it in, and they would rather other people suffer with them than to continue to carry their pain alone. While we can care about these people and wish them well, loving them does not mean endlessly putting up with their fits and rages; indeed, we love ourselves and them more when we refuse to be dragged into pointless battles, and we focus on making our own lives shining examples of how wonderful truly loving relationships can be.