“Despair says I cannot lift that weight. Happiness says I do not have to.”– James Richardson
Circumstances do not cause unhappiness; resistance to them does. If you lose your job and get sucked into fear about the future and how you’ll support yourself, you’ll sink into despair and wish you had that job back. If you find out that this was a blessing because you’re going to get a new and better position, suddenly you’re overjoyed that you lost your job. You no longer wish things were different, and in letting go of resistance to the way things are, you are happy. Either way the job was lost; resisting this change led to misery, while acceptance led to new happiness. Basically to transform worry into joy, we don’t have to change a thing except our feelings about change.