My marriage was arranged by my parents some 35 years ago. My husband and I have been separated for the past nine years but are not yet divorced because he won't agree to it. We live continents apart. Initially, my parents were not agreeable to the marriage. Then all of a sudden they agreed, and before I could even blink my eyes, I was married. My husband admitted that he manipulated everything with the help of the occult. My family never believed in that sort of thing, but now my mother believes that some sort of black magic is being used in this. My husband says the reason he pushed for this marriage was family vengeance. Is it possible to bind someone you believe is trying to control you with black magic? No prayers, meditations or other spiritual efforts seem to help me to end this miserable situation. Thank you! I do value and appreciate your help very much.
S.
Astrea:
I've studied the power of magick with a sick fascination for many years, so I wholly recognize the power it can exert over people around the world. It sounds like magick is involved in your story, even if only in your husband's mind. He was probably brought up to believe in that kind of thing.
You know that old phrase, Seeing is believing? I always think more along the lines of Believing is seeing. When a person takes on a victim mentality, they experience being victimized. Your husband has no power over you other than the power you GIVE him.
Going back to your description of what happened when you were first married to this man, I see it's highly likely that your parents were bribed into agreeing to the marriage with a large sum of money. Your mother is now revising history by choosing to blame evil magic instead of coming clean. Perhaps she's even forgotten the bride price they were given for you. It's possible, for people often block painful experiences and shameful choices from their conscious memory.
Your husband only told you that he used the occult AFTER you asked him. He would do anything and say anything to get you to be with him again. If he thinks you'll believe you are under his spell, he will say he has cast a spell! His story about family vengeance is a pretty thin lie, and not very creative. I guess it was the best he could come up with at the time.
This is an unfortunate case of vicious manipulation. While you ARE a victim in this situation, by dropping the victim mentality, you can set yourself free. Your husband manipulated your parents with money, which makes them feel ashamed. This is why they haven't told you about what really happened. Now your husband is manipulating you with the disturbing thought that you could be controlled with black magick.
If you can't get past the idea that you're being controlled, you might as well work with it. Here is a protective bath to take on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays to break this supposed spell.
Mix three drops of magnolia oil, five drops of lemon verbena oil, two teaspoons of sugar, one teaspoon of salt, and three tablespoons of chopped fresh parsley in a pint of beer. Say the Lord's Prayer three times, and ask the Holy Mother to help you bind your husband to do no harm to another. Say a blessing of your own making for your husband's prosperity and enlightenment. Draw a bath and pour the mixture over your head in three parts. Repeat this process for two weeks.
Most important of all, tell your husband that you are working some powerful magick of your own to un-hex yourself. That should do it!
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Susyn:
There are two rituals you can use to alter this situation: one to stop the emotional and physical power he holds over you, and another to bind his ability to continue holding you hostage. These rituals will also work to strengthen your spirit and your own resolve to move forward.
In essence, you are already free from this man, for you've been living apart for nine years now. So on some levels, you are already well on your way to being rid of this whole miserable situation. When a relationship breaks up, there are four aspects that you have to disengage from: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.
Since you believe that his curse still has power over you, you still need to work on freeing yourself from this man emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
To disengage from him emotionally, you will want to perform a freezing ritual. This will eliminate his ability to upset and control you.
Gather together a white candle, a piece of brown paper (a lunch sack or grocery bag will work), a sandwich-size Zip-loc baggie and some salt. Light the candle and say a prayer to be free of his emotional control, then tear off a small piece of the brown paper, two or three inches wide and long, and write his name on it. Fold the paper and place it in the bag. Sprinkle in a few grains of salt, and then fill the bag two-thirds full of water. Seal it and place it in your freezer. By the time it freezes, you should feel more emotionally balanced.
Next you can perform a ritual to clear all the ties he has over you. You will need a blue candle, three five-inch lengths of cord or twine, a pair of scissors, and a small bowl filled halfway with water.
Light the candle and lay the three lengths of cord in front of you. Place the water bowl to your left. Say a prayer to cut the ties with your husband. Pick up the first piece of cord and cut it in half with the scissors as you speak these words, I sever all communication and intellectual ties with this man.
Place the two sections of the cut cord into the water bowl.
Repeat this ritual with the second piece of cord, saying out loud, I sever all emotional ties with this man.
Again, place the cords into the water bowl. With the third and final cord, cut it in half while saying aloud, I sever all spiritual ties with this man, and call my personal power back to me.
Blow out the candle, pour out the water, and wrap the cords in plastic wrap or foil before you dispose of them to bind him and keep him away from you. Once these rituals are completed, Spirit will begin to guide you on how to permanently eliminate this man from your life.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.