This past December, I was dreaming that I was hanging out with my father. I think we were bowling or something, but I know we were happy. I woke up mid dream to my mom calling me to tell me that the paramedics were on the way. My father had died at the same time I was dreaming of him. I've been having such a hard time dealing with his death, as we were very close. Is it possible that he contacted me somehow in my dreams? Is the dream state linked with the afterlife? If so, what is this connection? Thanks!
Elizabeth
Astrea:
When speaking to a dear friend after my Daddy died, I said, Daddy hasn't called yet.
She matter-of-factly answered, Oh, it took my Dad almost a year to call the first time.
What a help it was for me to hear that!
Before my Daddy died, he came to me in a dream and said, I'm dying, you know.
By that time, he was living here in my house, so I ran and woke him up and said, Oh, Daddy, I just had the WORST dream.
He said, I know, I had it too.
We then embarked on a great new adventure: arranging ways we would know we were together
until we could be together again on the same plane. We arranged signs for after he passed away so I would know he was all right. Since then, my son and I have been able to do that too.
For everyone who hasn't done this yet, there's no time like the present. You don't have to dwell on the fact that one of you will pass away before the other, but it is a great relief to see the signs you set up even twenty years before.
Daddy rings a bell. I'm not the only one who hears it, thank goodness, so I don't worry about the men in white coats coming for me. I also find dimes ñ at least one a day ñ and I know he's put them there.
Your Daddy's Spirit absolutely came to you in your dream that night before he died. Your connection to him was deep and strong, and he wanted to be sure he could keep it no matter where he was when he died.
Since no one can tell us for sure where our loved ones are after they leave the Earth Plane, we have to rely on them to show up so we know how they're doing and that they are still looking out for us. A love as strong as the love you and your Daddy shared can't be denied by the Universe, so contact is sure to be made over and over again until at last you are reunited.
Don't be upset if you don't see him in your dreams again soon. Usually it takes us about a year to get into a state where we can see our departed loved ones again. That is true on both your side and your Daddy's: He isn't strong enough in his spiritual form to make contact yet, and you're not strong enough in your heart to see him.
Losing the parent we have been closest to is the worst. When they come to us in dreams or in a trance state, all we have is the comfort of knowing they still care. As time passes, you'll see more and more of one another. Cherish those moments when you have him with you again, and have no fear: he's only a second away, just Beyond the Veil.
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susyn:
The dream state is often linked with the afterlife, as our subconscious minds are fully active during both. This can make it easier to connect with other spirits, whether they are still on the earth plane or have crossed over to the other side. It is also the state in which our spirits can astral project and visit each other or explore different places.
Because our intellect is interwoven with our subconscious, it's not unusual to dream of being involved in an activity we might relate to the people who are attempting to connect with us. When my mother passed away, one of the first dreams I had of her involved her calling me on the phone to share a recipe, which is something she often did when she was alive.
It is understandable that you are having a difficult time with your father's passing. Even though you know he is all right and in a better place, it will take time to process his passing and adjust to the loss of physical contact. Things will get easier as time passes, but there will always be a hole in your life that he used to fill.
The good news is that he is still with you; in fact, he is perhaps closer than ever. The dream he sent you in which the two of you were bowling is just one of the many signs he will send to let you know he is okay. Our departed loved ones miss us too. During the times when we feel the saddest, it's comforting to know that our loved ones on the other side are going through the same grieving process.
Watch for coincidences and unexpected events to trigger memories of him, as these are signs he is thinking about you as well. In his spirit form, your father can send you hints that he is near you through familiar scents, the animal world and nature. In some cases, you may feel an unexpected touch or sensation that will let you know he is near, or a complete stranger may say or do something that makes you think of your father.
You may want to visit a psychic channeler so you can talk with him directly. Channelers act as mediums and are able to go back and forth between the spirit world and the earth plane. If you have questions for your father, want assurance that he is okay, or simply want to interact with him, this is a wonderful way to bridge the gap between this world and the afterlife.
The suggestions above can help you adjust as you go through this time of loss, and can affirm that your father is still near you, that he is fine, and that he loves you as much as ever.
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.