My name is Christine. My husband (a Virgo) and I (a Libra) work together, and I have been feeling like he and one of our coworkers are getting closer than they should. When I ask him about it, he says he loves me and I am the only one. Do you think I could be imagining this? I also think that this coworker has a very negative energy or influence on me, based on her statements and the overall feeling that I get from her. Right before I began noticing this closeness between them, I had a dream about them. In the dream, he admitted to their closeness, but he didn't stay with her. He left her behind and followed me. Do you think that I am subconsciously looking for things since I had this dream, or do you think this dream was a warning to get my relationship back on track?
Christine
Dreamchaser:
Christine, you all work together. He can't pull a fast one with you in the same place. I agree that her energy towards you is negative in many ways, but I think that she is reacting to how you treat her. She did not come in treating you that way. You need to check YOUR actions and energies toward her. The more paranoid you get about her and your husband, the more negative your energy towards her becomes. If you come from a place of love and light, she will as well.
Not every dream we have at night is prophetic. I think the majority of our dreams are ways for us to work through our fears, doubts, issues, etc. You are afraid (and always have been) that you are going to lose your husband. You never did believe that this life you are leading is the life that you are really supposed to be living. You feel in many ways like you are an imposter to the throne, so to speak. That is because of your own issues, not only from your childhood in this lifetime, but from prior lifetimes as well.
As a result, you have in some ways started to manifest a way to make what you think really SHOULD be come to pass. This dream was simply trying to help you work through those fears.
Your husband and this woman ARE friends. They get along with each other very well. There is nothing wrong with your husband having friends, Christine. The reason you are not included in that group is because of the "bad energy" between you and this woman.
You also know that your marriage is not on the best ground right now. You two have some marital issues that need to be looked at and dealt with. Your husband is NOT happy. It doesn't take one of us to tell you that. He doesn't want to separate from you. He doesn't want to leave you. You are the only one for him. Nevertheless, he is not happy, and if a new life came along that looked better, he may just take a chance on it.
I strongly advise you to get marital counseling from someone reputable as soon as possible. I think you can work through your individual issues and then you can work on the relationship. All hope has not been lost - this marriage can absolutely be saved.
Your husband and this woman are not the problem. They really are just friends. She is what it took to shake you into action. Please address the issues in your marriage. You yourself said, "Do you think this dream was a warning to get my relationship back on track?" Christine, a relationship should never be OFF track. Of course I think it is a sign for you to work on things. So get to it, woman!
I wish you a happy love life!
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Astrea:
You are NOT imagining things. That coworker is as negative toward you as she can be. She doesn't like you, and she wants to break up your marriage. Without her birthday, I can't be sure if she is doing it because she really WANTS your husband or not. My psychic feeling is that she is the type of person who gets a kick out of tearing up other people's lives. There ARE some people whose sole purpose is to randomly attack the happiness of others.
Earth Signs, while easily flattered by people who flirt and pay attention to them, rarely cheat on their spouses. I believe that your husband is innocent, and probably doesn't realize how much he's playing into her aims by paying attention to her and harmlessly flirting BACK. I do NOT see him doing anything with that other girl! It would be SO BENEATH a Virgo to cheat on a spouse. It rarely happens, even in the easiest of situations.
Fortunately, you are right there at work with them to keep your eye on both of them. As long as you stay on top of this and point out to him that she would just be using him, he will see this woman for what she is, and steer clear! He doesn't want to mess up your marriage over some little fling. He's serious when he says that you can trust him. He means it.
Virgos DETEST being accused of things they aren't doing. Be careful not to back your husband into a corner where he feels he has to do something to prove you right or wrong. In all the years I've been reading, I've spoken to SO MANY PEOPLE who strayed in their marriages because they were already being accused of doing it, so they figured they might as well do it. Don't let this happen to YOU. Your best defense is to try to ignore this woman. Unless you two play along with her, she'll eventually get bored and quit.
Of course, since that dream upset you so much, you are now consciously looking for things to substantiate your suspicions about your husband and that other woman. I have no doubt that she is "after" your husband, but from his birth date and what he's said to you about this, I know he would NEVER be unfaithful to you. She would go for it, however. She doesn't like you, she feels threatened by you at work (she's probably not very good at her job), and she loves to make trouble for others.
Fortunately, people like her move on when they don't get what they want. She'll find another victim soon and begin to leave your husband alone. In the mean time, don't let your very active and creative Libra imagination get the best of you. This won't last too much longer, so ride it out!
Astrea:
Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.
Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!
While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!
I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!
As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.
I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.
You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!
Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.
A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.
You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.