Double Vision: Can We Help Someone Who Seems Cursed?

I have a question that pertains to someone other than myself. Is it possible for an entire family to be cursed? In the two years I have known my boyfriend, I have witnessed such horrible tragedies. His father died of cancer a year before I met him, two of his siblings have been in and out of mental institutions for bipolar disorder and severe depression. As soon as things pick up, something horrible happens. I am sensitive to intense energies and always feel something powerful when I go to their house. Do you have any suggestions for what I might do to help them? I would prefer not to tell them, as the mother is very religious and would object to any remedies or suggestions since she believes non-Catholic practices are evil. (I would have to do it behind her back). I really want to help. They are all very nice, good-natured people, and I hate to stand by and watch them suffer so needlessly. Any advice would be much appreciated, even links to sites or book recommendations. I know you are busy - thank you so much for your time!

Peace, love and empathy!
Liz

Dreamchaser:

Liz, you are SUCH a wonderful friend. It is so very thoughtful of you to want to do something to help. This family is blessed to have you in their lives.

Despite all of that, in a nutshell, the answer is no: there is nothing you can do to help these people. Bad things happen to good people all the time. It is easy to say, "Well he/she deserved it" if something bad happens to someone we consider to be "bad," but when those same things happen to "good" people, we question why.

Life is not a reward challenge. We are not given experiences based on our souls and intentions. If that were the case, Jesus Christ would have died peacefully in his sleep at the age of 170. For better and worse, everyone is experiencing this thing called life. We make it through tough situations with our faith intact, and we live to fight another day. You fight through your life as well.

Where does God promise us trouble-free lives? Why do we think that we have to change every negative circumstance around us? When something is happening, whether positive or negative, we need to FULLY live inside of that experience, eek every ounce of learning out of it, and then move past it.

Please remember that we are also dealing with Karma here, Liz. Everyone has his or her own Karma. When someone dies or when someone is sick, we can rest assured that it is happening just as it is supposed to happen. I DO understand your wish to help, but I think it's best not to second-guess God in other people's situations.

You did not say whether the "powerful source of energy" you felt in their house was something that feels positive or negative to you. I am sure there is MUCH energy swirling through their house. The mother alone brings in MANY powerful spirits with her prayers. The father is there in spirit form, watching over everyone. There are also spirits from the building and from the land itself, which is the case in most dwellings.

I think it is ALWAYS a bad idea to try to do some type of spell or ritual on/ for someone else without their knowledge or consent. I think that crosses the line of Free Will, and that means your Free Will will get crossed by someone else as a result. You CAN pray for them. That is the most powerful tool we have anyway, and one that you can ALWAYS use. Pray for them to have strength and balance while living their tumultuous lives. That is the biggest help you can give them!

I wish you the ability to be peacefully powerless.

*****

Astrea:

Reincarnation gives us the opportunity to correct some of the things we let slide in other lifetimes. We are supposed to LEARN from our mistakes, even those from other Incarnations. Without delving into the entire family's Karma, it's impossible to know how much they brought with them this time, and how much they've created during THIS Incarnation.

I believe that people have choices and that they experience the consequences of those choices. To suffer with something that is controllable with medicine is a choice. Believe it or not, some people CHOOSE suffering over happiness, and it sounds to me like the family's mother has fallen into a Catholic Mother/Martyr pattern that was common when I was growing up. Under her influence, the whole family has fallen into choosing SUFFERING over JOY. That is a difficult mindset to change, because people get STUCK there.

What you feel in that house is all the NEGATIVE FEAR ENERGY that comes through the old Dogma of the Catholic Church. At her age, she would be a prime target for that. Instead of absorbing all the LOVE from Christian Energy, she's chosen to drag around the guilt and fear that was so often preached to my generation in most Christian Churches. Certainly this Fear Energy spills over to other members of the family and the vibration of the house where they live. The rest of them CHOOSE to be victimized by it. If they're not AWARE of it, that's a choice too.

Since he's a Scorpio, your boyfriend is more sensitive to negative vibrations than others in the family. Keep him away from their influence as much as possible. Scorpios are challenged ENOUGH without having negativity and guilt shoved down their throats. These people are afraid to CHANGE and seek happiness, so it's best if he is somewhere where people are living in LOVE and JOY.

Doing something behind their backs is NOT wise. Giving them POSITIVE SOLUTIONS to problems such as prayer, meditation and LOVE will help this family the most. For any kind of "magic" to work, people have to be willing to PARTICIPATE in that magical healing process. Doing something without someone's PERMISSION often makes things MUCH WORSE.

I encourage you to attend that Catholic Church with the Mother, and point out to her at every opportunity that Christ LOVES HER and wants her happiness, not her misery. PARTICIPATE in the LOVE that the Christian religion can offer to that family, and the Love will begin to flow and heal them. If you work within their belief system, it will work like magic! 🙂

Astrea:

Many times in life we hear, "You will always have what you NEED, but not necessarily what you WANT." Your spirit must have needed to experience the feeling of leaving your human body, and the suggestion in the next chapter of Sylvia Brown's book was all it took to get you there.

Even though you hadn't read it yet, your SOUL recognized the title of that chapter as something it had been seeking, and your soul, knowing that you had that reference to read after your experience, got with it and out you went!

While I don't usually recommend her books, Sylvia Brown has a wide reaching and powerful effect on lots of people. A Gemini like you would be able to relate easily to her writing and put it to good use. Synchronicity - you gotta love it!

I like your description of "getting caught." That's exactly what it feels like, isn't it? One minute you're free and hovering above the room, and the next minute, ZAP! back down into your corporeal form you go!

As a little kid, I loved that "feeling of return." With practice, most of the time we can control that event, but sometimes, when our physical ears hear a distracting noise or something else occurs to knock us back into reality, back we go. With practice you will be able to control your return better.

I find it interesting that you were visiting your mother-in-law and not someone in your own genetic family. Evidently, you and your husband got married for reasons that are even deeper than love. His family's interest in "psychic stuff" will nurture your children in such matters and help them to grow into their own abilities.

You'll never have to be concerned that when your daughter visits them, she'll be discouraged from exploring her own psychic life and power. My parents encouraged me to develop my psychic senses in a time when it wasn't nice to even discuss such things in public. Heck, it's STILL not considered a great topic at the dinner table in some families!

Your kids will get to talk about it ALL and ask questions and read and study. This is going to give them such an edge in life! Talk with your husband about how you want to present this to your kiddos, so that you are united in your approach and ready to tell them their experiences are all natural and okay.

A word or two of warning: Geminis often have difficulty staying grounded in REAL LIFE. Don't get so strung out on your ASTRAL life that you neglect what you're doing here on Earth.

You are at the beginning of a long journey to learn where your power really lies. Try to be patient with this process and take your time.