Double Vision Advice: Manifesting Romance

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The law of attraction (LOA) has changed my life. I was in a very dark period until I read The Secret. I’ve successfully manifested a couple of things, which has given me the courage to use the law on a partner. He is a Pisces born 3/16/70, and I’m a Cancer born 7/6/70. For some time now, we’ve been in contact by text, email and phone calls. We have met only once because we live 90 minutes apart by car and he has a very tight schedule. I felt we hit it off, but one day he told me that because we couldn’t see each other often, he’d lost the spark and couldn’t see a relationship working. He did say he wanted to stay friends and keep in touch. Now we are Facebook friends and can follow each others’ lives that way. I really want him back in my life. I had a good feeling about us – call it an intuition. I give thanks for having him in my life and visualize him as a boyfriend and all the happy moments I’d like to have with him. He has all the qualities I want in a partner. Can the LOA work on a long distance relationship? Am I trying too hard and pushing him away instead? Somewhere deep in my soul, I feel this is the person I’ve waited for all my life and I don’t want to lose him. I think he didn’t have the strengh to find a creative solution because he has so much going on in his life. I’m a beautiful girl who many men are interested in but my heart belongs to J. How can I make him interested in me as more than a friend?
~Ivette

Susyn:

While it’s wise and powerful to work with the law of attraction, when we are too specific in asking for what we want, we tie Spirit’s hands. If you were using the law of attraction to bring true love to you without directing it at a specific person, you would no doubt be getting much better results.

For example, if you were trying to manifest money, you might ask to win the lottery or find a new job, but it would be much more effective to open yourself up to Spirit’s direction on how to attract extra cash. The easiest way for you to get what you want may involve something you haven’t thought of yet.

It’s the same with your longing for this specific man. We can’t make someone love us if they are not willing and open to doing so. Ninety minutes away is not too far to build a wonderful relationship; in this day and age, that’s hardly considered long distance. I suspect that you have indeed been trying too hard which is a surefire way to push someone away.

When we begin to pursue someone based on our feelings alone, we send out a vibe that will cause them to pull back. Unless there is attraction, interest and effort on both sides, the energy dynamic between the two of you will be unbalanced and unhealthy.

I think you would be wise to revise your approach and ask Spirit to bring your ideal mate to you. Even if you feel certain that this Pisces is the man for you, you should keep the following Jello theory in mind.

If you grow up in a household where Jello is served for dessert every night, you come to attach certain feelings to Jello. As the only dessert you have ever experienced, it’s something you look forward to at the end of the day. If you do not get your dessert, you miss it.

Then one day, you have dinner at a friend’s house. When it’s announced that dessert is coming, you prepare yourself for Jello, only to be served chocolate cake. What a surprise! You had no idea that there were other desserts out there, let alone desserts tastier than Jello.

It is the same with relationships. When we experience the loss of a relationship, it’s hard to imagine that there might be someone more wonderful out there for us. We get stuck on the idea that only one person will make us happy. In order to receive something even better, we have to open up to new possibilities.

So instead of focusing on finding a way to make this man want what you want, I encourage you to trust in a higher plan and ask Spirit to bring you what you think you want or someone even better, and expect to be blessed with a new and delicious relationship experience.

Mata:

It sounds like you’re pretty new to the law of attraction and are making a very common beginner’s mistake. While it’s true that you can create whatever you want in your life, that doesn’t mean you can create it in just the way you assume it should happen.

Effectively working with the law of attraction requires wisdom, faith, and a certain metaphysical finesse. The key is to find a way to both have what you want and at the same time know that you can and will be happy whether you get it or not, for this balance between faith and desire allows you to think of what you desire while maintaining a high vibration.

Many people get hung up on details. They start looking for a job that will bless them with greater abundance and fulfillment, hear about a certain position, and decide it must be the answer. Then they become attached to getting that particular job and are fearful that it won’t happen. When it doesn’t come together, they go into a tailspin of doubt and disappointment, which naturally prevents them from effectively continuing to work with the law of attraction. A much better option could be right around the corner, but they’ll never realize it if they metaphysically crash and burn before it comes into view.

Part of the confusion arises from the idea that we can work spells to get who and what we want. The important thing to realize here is that whenever we try to thwart another person’s free will or force things to go our way, we may see some temporary success, but whatever is right and natural will always prevail eventually.

Imagine that you’re in a river, trying to get to a destination called True Love, and all you have to do to get there is stay afloat on top of the water and allow yourself to be carried downstream. As you don’t trust that this will truly work, you keep putting your feet down on the bottom and struggling to move upstream because you think you know that this is where you’ll find what you’re looking for. If you’re fighting the current like this, you’re not really working with the law of attraction, so even if you do get where you’re aiming, it won’t turn out to be all you hoped it would be.

If a relationship is either destined or in harmony with your deepest desires, you can trust that all you have to do is love yourself enough to allow yourself to be happy and things will work out of their own accord. Trust that everything happens for a good reason; pray for what you think you want or something better; and let go of the details with the belief that every step of your journey is carrying you closer to the fulfillment of your dreams.


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