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How to Intuitively Make Smart Decisions

smartdecisionby Dr. Judith Orloff

As an intuitive psychiatrist, I worship my high octane intuitions. I owe the blessing of becoming a physician to one. However, at twenty, when an unwavering inner voice told me I was going to medical school, it was the last thing I thought I wanted. This gut-centered voice committed to your happiness, health, and survival, is, with practice, accessible to everyone. When you deviate even a nano-fraction from your inner voice, energy wanes, whether a subtle or radical bottoming out. The more ferociously faithful you are to this truth, the more energized you’ll be.

Intuition offers a direct line to your life force, and also, as I experience it, to a divine intelligence. We can’t afford to remain deaf to intuition’s messages. Its expertise is energy; its job is to know every nuance of what makes you tick. A master at reading vibes, intuition is constantly tallying: what gives positive energy, what dissipates it. Who you meet, where you go, your job, your family, current events, are all evaluated – crucial data that you can learn to interpret and apply.

Here’s a formula from my book, Positive Energy to help you get started. First, listen to your body: there are positive and negative intuitions about relationships which highlight compatible matches. Second, act on this information. This is often the hardest part. Let me walk you through the process.

Recognize Your Body’s Intuitions About Vibes

A people-skill most of our parents didn’t know or teach us is intuitively reading vibes. We’ve learned to draw conclusions from surface data: how nice someone seems, looks, education, or if a situation adds up on paper. But intuition goes deeper. To make it work for you, other ingredients must be considered, such as what positive vibes feel like: a sense of heart, compassion, and nurturance. In contrast, negative people project prickly, draining vibes that put you on guard.

Here is a general guideline of body-based intuitions. Use this checklist at a first meeting to troubleshoot problems if you’re already involved, or to weigh opportunities. Also, feel free to add to it. Being an intuitive, I know that a signature energy always accompanies situations or people. Remember the Lil’ Abner jinxed cartoon character who always had a black cloud hanging over his head? Not a vibe that bodes well for auspicious outcomes. Instead, learn to gravitate towards brightness, a positive intuition your body’s responses will affirm. When tuning into vibes, take a few quiet moments to go into sensing mode, not intellectual analysis. Look for these signs to determine attraction.

Positive Intuitions About Relationships or Situations

  • a feeling of comforting familiarity or brightness; you may sense you’ve known the person before, as with the experience of deja vu
  • you breathe easier, chest and shoulders are relaxed, gut is calm
  • you find yourself leaning forward, not defensively crossing your arms or edging away to keep a distance
  • your heart opens; you feel safe, peaceful, energized, expansive, or alive
  • you’re at ease with a person’s touch whether a hand shake, hug, or during intimacy

Negative Intuitions About Relationships or Situations

  • a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach or increased stomach acid which may prompt an unpalatable deja vu
  • your skin starts crawling, you’re jumpy, you instinctively withdraw if touched
  • shoulder muscles are in knots, chest area or throat constricts; you notice aggravated aches or pains
  • the hair on the back of your neck creepily stands on end
  • a sense of malaise, darkness, pressure, agitation, or being drained

Intuition helps you act from instinct, not impulse – a look before you leap wisdom that points you to positive energy. When it comes to who you love, where your work, or any important decision, the last thing you want to be is vague. Tuning in keeps you specific. Practice the next exercise to get this down.

Learn How to Pin Down and Act on Your Vibes

Now you’re going to tune in, trust your body, and make choices based on the vibes you sense.

Tune In: Choose a relationship or situation that needs clarification about whether or not to go forward. Perhaps it’s a friendship, vacation or move. Begin with an easier target before you take on higher stakes. Run it by this section’s criteria for positive and negative intuitions – or others you find reliable. It’s helpful to make a top five list of the most killer indicators of positive attraction. For one of my patients, it includes feeling energized and safe. Another must register an increased aliveness and peaceful sense. Write your top five in a journal so they don’t get hazy. See how they add up here.

Act On Vibes: This is where we must be warriors. I know personally and from patients how much easier it is to tune into than to act on vibes. Insecurity, ego, lust and stubbornness can obscure better judgment. Sometimes it takes succumbing to them all to realize you won’t tolerate such battering again. But you don’t have to take such a bumpy route. If the vibes feel overall positive, go for it and explore the possibilities. If the vibes are mixed or you’re unsure, take a pass or at least wait. If there’s just negative, have the courage to walk away, no matter how tempting the option seems. Then observe how listening to energy in this way leads you to the juiciest opportunities.

Now I want you to start listening – really listening. I guarantee you’ll start making smarter choices. Why? You’ll be operating from a spot inside that’s juicy, core-felt, authentic – not from an impulse to conform or disown your strength. You won’t be seduced by what may look good but betrays your gut. Intuition is a truth detector.

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Judith Orloff, MD, is author of The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life (Harmony Books, 2014). Her other books include the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom, Positive Energy, Guide to Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. Visit drjudithorloff.com for more information.

Advice: Working With Psychometry

psychometryDear Kajama:

I have always been a strong empath with a particular talent for tarot reading. After a deep discussion with a family member about what I should do with my life in terms of a career, I asked my guides bluntly, What do YOU guys think? I awoke the next morning with the answer that I have a gift that will be very useful to others; all I have to do is develop it. I am currently taking a psychic development course, but I am struggling to complete it. I do not seem to have any talent for psychometry, yet I am being told to hand in detailed reports of psychometric tests that I must perform. I am determined to make this course work for me and to gain the knowledge I need from it. What do you advise? Thank you very, very, much for your time!
– Allison

Dear Allison:

I understand your dismay about the emphasis on psychometry here; it’s an unusual approach for your teacher to take in a general psychic development class, and yet I feel that it is very workable. If psychometry is not really your strong suit, you can rely on whatever psychic mode of perception works best for you personally to successfully complete these tests.

For those who are not familiar, psychometry is psychically reading the history of an object by holding it in your hands. A psychometrist may receive information about any of the owners of the object. He or she may even be able to relate the object’s entire history, from raw materials to creation to sale or purchase, and from one owner to another and another.

The underlying principle of psychometry is that everything that ever happens leaves an etheric trail or imprint. Some objects are considered to take a psychic charge and to hold a psychic charge more readily than others. Stones and metals are particularly conducive to charging. This may sound really farfetched until you remember that everything in the universe is simply empty space with patterns of energy moving through it, and that energy definitely and readily affects other energy.

Of course, dramatic events leave stronger imprints, so a murder weapon will carry a very strong charge of its act of violence. Wedding rings, having been consciously charged with a certain spiritual purpose, similarly carry strong imprints. Wedding bands are also very easy to read because they are worn so constantly. The object is charged by the energy of the person who wears it, so the more often it is worn, the clearer and stronger the charge grows.

Set yourself up for success by working with objects that are easy to read. Some good objects to practice with include rings and other jewelry, keys, watches, photographs, wallets, eyeglasses, stones and crystals. Some objects you may want to skip include food, clothing or other objects that are frequently washed or cleansed, items that are communally owned such as furniture and other household objects, and anything alive. The energy of plants, animals and people is dynamic. Instead of simply holding energetic imprints, they radiate their own energy. (Trying to read a plant belonging to a person will bring you more information about the plant than the person.)

You will also want to tune in instead of just holding the item and expecting it to speak to you. Set the object near you and then do whatever you need to do to get into a relaxed, dreamy state. Once you’re good and mellow, take note of how you feel, and THEN pick up the object. Now immediately take stock of your energy again. Do you feel different? How?

Holding the object, close your eyes and look to the inner screen of your mind and simply note anything that appears there. If you’re not very visual, you may instead have words come to mind, or if you’re kinesthetic, you may have feelings such as pain, sorrow, love, happiness, peace, etc. If you do see images, they will either repeat over and over again until you accept them and communicate or record them, or they’ll run like a movie. If you’re reading for someone, just begin to communicate what you’re shown, or what you hear or what you feel. If you’re doing an exercise alone, you might tape record your work and verbally state for the record what you’re perceiving, or jot down notes.

The absolute key is to trust and communicate whatever you get. Many assume that if what they see doesn’t make sense to THEM, it’s just mental garbage or fantasy. Yet if you communicate what you receive to the owner of the object, amazing things can come to light. For example, some objects that you might expect to carry positive vibrations can bring the opposite. If someone hands you a wedding band, instead of love and devotion, you may pick up grief and sorrow if the spouse has recently passed over, or anger and betrayal if he or she took off with a lover and never looked back. Accept whatever comes to you. Don’t analyze it. If it makes no sense to you, that’s often a very good sign that you’re not assuming anything – that you’re not trying to read the object with logic instead of intuition.

I once was handed a simple wooden ruler, such as many of us used in grade school. It was a dingy, blonde wood with a thin metal strip on the side. It looked innocent enough, but when I held it, I got a lot of anger and pain and shame, and when I asked Spirit for more information, I was shown a girl in a uniform being smacked on the hands with it, and smacked on her bare legs. I went out on a limb and communicated what I’d received to the woman before me, and her eyes immediately welled up in tears. She had recently discovered the ruler in a box of possessions from her childhood, and it had brought up a flood of painful memories of being beating physically at Catholic school when she was a child, just as I described. She was actively trying to find forgiveness for a certain teacher who had since passed into Spirit, and working through her complicated feelings about Catholicism, so she’d brought the ruler with her. (She also thought it would be a very tricky thing to read.) This led to a very healing, cathartic conversation with the spirit of the teacher. Trust what you get!

I know that you can work your way through this particular class, but if you find it difficult, don’t let it discourage you. I believe a general psychic development class should accommodate the strengths of each student instead of expecting everyone to adopt the same primary mode of perception, but I also believe you can allow this challenge to lead you to even greater development than you may attain in an easier format. There are infinite ways to develop the foundational psychic abilities of clairvoyance, clairaudience and clairsentience, which is what you’re really aiming for anyway. Have faith in your own strengths to see you through this, know that you’re up for the challenge, and trust that Spirit will help you as you go.

– Kajama

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Advice: Learning to Communicate with Spirits

spiritcontactDear Kajama:

I’ve been following your column for more than a decade now, and have used your advice to begin to develop my own psychic abilities. I’ve learned how to work with a pendulum, how to read tarot, and a bit about astrology. I sincerely believe in an afterlife and that it’s possible to communicate with spirits, but for some reason, this experience eludes me. I’ve had lots of other amazing psychic and spiritual experiences, but I’ve not been able to achieve spirit communication. Do you believe that some people are prevented from communicating with the spirit world for some reason? What should I do to move forward toward my goal?

Dear Lyndsay:

While this is a huge topic worthy of volumes of books and years of training, I’ll do my best to steer you in the right direction. I think the first thing to keep in mind is that what you’re experiencing is very common, for I know many very gifted psychics who can’t communicate with spirits at all. There are various reasons why this tends to be true. For one thing, most people have mixed feelings about the whole idea of interacting with spirits; even if they are keen on making it happen, there is often a part of them that remains uncomfortable or frightened by the whole idea, and this fear can prevent them from moving forward. Fear of failure can also cause blocks: When I was in training to become a Spiritualist minister, most of my classmates were so intimidated by the idea of trying to bring through evidential information that they couldn’t bring themselves to really go for it. It’s a huge responsibility to try to bring through detailed, evidential messages for people who are grieving, for if we fail, we can do more emotional harm than good.

One of the worst things you can do here is feel bad about yourself or to assume that you’re inadequate somehow. Spirit communication is a rare and very special ability. While the great majority of psychics are not mediums, all the mediums I know are psychic. (Think about how rare it is to be extraordinarily psychic; it’s much rarer to be a gifted medium.) Also, most of the mediums I know did not develop their ability to communicate with spirits purposefully; it just sort of happened to them. What they had to work on was how to control it after it spontaneously erupted in their lives. While the ability to perceive spirits tends to happen spontaneously, there are things you can do to cultivate that ability.

I recommend that anyone who wishes to develop their spirit communication abilities find a local Spiritualist church. If you Google “spiritualist” and your hometown or general area, you should find some good options to explore. As the main goal of Spiritualism is to bring through evidence of the afterlife, Spiritualists are the world’s spirit communication experts. Once you connect with a minister at a Spiritualist church, ask if they have a development circle you might be able to join. The church should have an ongoing circle, but if they don’t, the minister should be able to give you some other good options to explore.

There are many benefits of joining a development circle. The most obvious is that you’ll be led through the process of opening to spirit communication by someone who has already walked that path before you and knows it well. This will make the development process safer and easier for you, and also bless you with the support of fellow seekers and resources you can turn to when questions or problems come up. While you’re in the process of developing your abilities, the minister at the church can also help you by bringing through guidance from Spirit for you on what would be most helpful for you at that time.

Just being around other seekers who are working on developing their spirit communication abilities will fuel your own journey with the power of synergy. Basically, you’ll all make faster, greater progress together than you could alone as you all benefit from each other’s energies and experiences. It’s also helpful to have a regular meeting like a development circle or class, for it will keep you on track and continuing to move forward. A Spiritualist church is also a great place to meet kindred spirits and make new spiritual friends.

Development circles are also magnets for spirits who want to communicate with this plane. Spirit has shown me that those who are able to serve as mediums between the living and the so-called dead appear in the spirit world like lights; this is how spirits find them. If a lone medium is like a candle flame, then a group of people united in their efforts to serve as mediums would appear like a bonfire in the spirit world; the more people are gathered together with the shared aim of spirit communication, the more spirits are likely to be drawn in. This is important, for unlike psychic reading work, spirit communication is a cooperative endeavor. While psychics can tune in and retrieve information much like we might search Google for answers, mediumship is a two-way street that requires communication from both sides.

I hope all of this convinces you to at least give the idea of finding a Spiritualist church a try. Expect to attend a development circle weekly, and to spend years mastering this ability.

In order to promote success with spirit communication, you will need to move beyond the tools. Tarot, astrology, and pendulums can be great, but they won’t help you much with spirit communication. For that, you’ll need to be able to directly receive psychic impressions from Spirit: you’ll want to be able see, hear and feel what Spirit is trying to tell you without the need for these tools. There are many resources out there to help you develop your psychic abilities. We have some great tools in the Spiritual Toolbox at Kajama. I’m also currently in the process of developing a sophisticated process for psychic development that will include spirit communication, which I hope to have available in the spring of 2014.

I always recommend developing a strong relationship with a spirit guide before trying to communicate with other spirits. This will protect you from undesirable experiences and empower you to seek and receive guidance as you move forward. Your guide will be able to help you should you find it difficult to communicate with a particular spirit. (Some spirits are much more adept at this communication than others, just as some people are much more adept at communicating their thoughts and feelings than others.) When I am communicating with a spirit and struggling to understand what they’re trying to convey, I know I can always ask my guide for clarification. Establishing a strong relationship with a guide will prove immeasurably helpful whenever you are engaged in spirit communication. You might begin this process with Meet Your Spirit Guide. You should spend at least some time every day in communication with your guide/s, both about your own life and concerns and about your development process.

There are also some good schools throughout the country. The school I attended and recommend is in Lily Dale, which is an enchanting spiritual community in western New York state. It’s called the School of Spiritual Healing and Prophecy, and its curriculum is designed so that folks can attend from all over the country. Here’s a link to the school’s website, Fellowships of the Spirit.

I pray that this guidance will empower you to begin to move forward, and that your journey will be blessed with moving encounters with loving spirits.

– Kajama hearticontiny

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