As an intuitive psychiatrist, I worship my high octane intuitions. I owe the blessing of becoming a physician to one. However, at twenty, when an unwavering inner voice told me I was going to medical school, it was the last thing I thought I wanted. This gut-centered voice committed to your happiness, health, and survival, is, with practice, accessible to everyone. When you deviate even a nano-fraction from your inner voice, energy wanes, whether a subtle or radical bottoming out. The more ferociously faithful you are to this truth, the more energized you’ll be.
Intuition offers a direct line to your life force, and also, as I experience it, to a divine intelligence. We can’t afford to remain deaf to intuition’s messages. Its expertise is energy; its job is to know every nuance of what makes you tick. A master at reading vibes, intuition is constantly tallying: what gives positive energy, what dissipates it. Who you meet, where you go, your job, your family, current events, are all evaluated – crucial data that you can learn to interpret and apply.
Here’s a formula from my book, Positive Energy to help you get started. First, listen to your body: there are positive and negative intuitions about relationships which highlight compatible matches. Second, act on this information. This is often the hardest part. Let me walk you through the process.
Recognize Your Body’s Intuitions About Vibes
A people-skill most of our parents didn’t know or teach us is intuitively reading vibes. We’ve learned to draw conclusions from surface data: how nice someone seems, looks, education, or if a situation adds up on paper. But intuition goes deeper. To make it work for you, other ingredients must be considered, such as what positive vibes feel like: a sense of heart, compassion, and nurturance. In contrast, negative people project prickly, draining vibes that put you on guard.
Here is a general guideline of body-based intuitions. Use this checklist at a first meeting to troubleshoot problems if you’re already involved, or to weigh opportunities. Also, feel free to add to it. Being an intuitive, I know that a signature energy always accompanies situations or people. Remember the Lil’ Abner jinxed cartoon character who always had a black cloud hanging over his head? Not a vibe that bodes well for auspicious outcomes. Instead, learn to gravitate towards brightness, a positive intuition your body’s responses will affirm. When tuning into vibes, take a few quiet moments to go into sensing mode, not intellectual analysis. Look for these signs to determine attraction.
Positive Intuitions About Relationships or Situations
- a feeling of comforting familiarity or brightness; you may sense you’ve known the person before, as with the experience of deja vu
- you breathe easier, chest and shoulders are relaxed, gut is calm
- you find yourself leaning forward, not defensively crossing your arms or edging away to keep a distance
- your heart opens; you feel safe, peaceful, energized, expansive, or alive
- you’re at ease with a person’s touch whether a hand shake, hug, or during intimacy
Negative Intuitions About Relationships or Situations
- a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach or increased stomach acid which may prompt an unpalatable deja vu
- your skin starts crawling, you’re jumpy, you instinctively withdraw if touched
- shoulder muscles are in knots, chest area or throat constricts; you notice aggravated aches or pains
- the hair on the back of your neck creepily stands on end
- a sense of malaise, darkness, pressure, agitation, or being drained
Intuition helps you act from instinct, not impulse – a look before you leap wisdom that points you to positive energy. When it comes to who you love, where your work, or any important decision, the last thing you want to be is vague. Tuning in keeps you specific. Practice the next exercise to get this down.
Learn How to Pin Down and Act on Your Vibes
Now you’re going to tune in, trust your body, and make choices based on the vibes you sense.
Tune In: Choose a relationship or situation that needs clarification about whether or not to go forward. Perhaps it’s a friendship, vacation or move. Begin with an easier target before you take on higher stakes. Run it by this section’s criteria for positive and negative intuitions – or others you find reliable. It’s helpful to make a top five list of the most killer indicators of positive attraction. For one of my patients, it includes feeling energized and safe. Another must register an increased aliveness and peaceful sense. Write your top five in a journal so they don’t get hazy. See how they add up here.
Act On Vibes: This is where we must be warriors. I know personally and from patients how much easier it is to tune into than to act on vibes. Insecurity, ego, lust and stubbornness can obscure better judgment. Sometimes it takes succumbing to them all to realize you won’t tolerate such battering again. But you don’t have to take such a bumpy route. If the vibes feel overall positive, go for it and explore the possibilities. If the vibes are mixed or you’re unsure, take a pass or at least wait. If there’s just negative, have the courage to walk away, no matter how tempting the option seems. Then observe how listening to energy in this way leads you to the juiciest opportunities.
Now I want you to start listening – really listening. I guarantee you’ll start making smarter choices. Why? You’ll be operating from a spot inside that’s juicy, core-felt, authentic – not from an impulse to conform or disown your strength. You won’t be seduced by what may look good but betrays your gut. Intuition is a truth detector.
Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s Positive Energy: 10 Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Fatigue, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love. Judith Orloff, MD, is author of The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life (Harmony Books, 2014). Her other books include the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom, Positive Energy, Guide to Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. Visit drjudithorloff.com for more information.