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The Fence and the Slide

onthefenceby Echo Bodine

Death is a fascinating subject that tends to confuse us all. I’ve met clients who were given last rites, only to rally and live for many more years. And I’ve heard many stories of people who went to the doctor because of an annoying pain and were dead within days of diagnosis. So often, we think we know what’s going on and then realize we really don’t.

In my work as a clairvoyant, I get my information in the form of pictures and visions. I’ve come to understand two different visions that I get when I’m working with someone who has been diagnosed with a serious illness. If I get a picture of the person sitting on a fence, I know they are in an exit point trying to decide if they want to stay or go. If I get a picture of them on a slide, I know they are in the dying process, and their whereabouts on the slide tell me how much time they have left. If they are sitting at the top of the slide, I know they still have more time to enjoy their life and get their affairs in order. If they are at the bottom, it is a matter of days before they’ll die.

My dear friend Lee died from lung cancer. When he first called to tell me the diagnosis, I checked on his soul and saw that he was sitting at the top of the slide. This was not what I was hoping to see, but at least he still had time before he would die. Each time he called, I could see his soul slowly inching his way down the slide. I desperately wanted to tell him to stop the chemo and radiation that were making him very sick and use what little energy he had left to enjoy his family, but he was determined to live for as long as possible. He knew what I did for a living and never once asked me if I thought he was going to survive, so I kept my visions and opinions to myself.

When the doctors told Lee the treatments were not working and asked him if he wanted to go through another round of chemo, his sister stepped in and told him, No more. She too was a psychic healer and knew that he was not going to survive the cancer. He accepted what she said and died within a couple of months.

A client emailed me about her seventy-year-old cousin who was in hospice care. He was no longer taking food or water and was in the final stages of death, according to the hospice staff. They were advising her to pull the plug because his quality of life was not very good, and she wanted to know if I could communicate with his soul to find out what he wanted her to do.

From the way she talked, I thought I’d see him at the bottom of the slide, but instead I saw him sitting on a fence, smiling. He told me he was quite content where he was and didn’t want anyone doing anything to his body. He was pleased that his cousin cared enough to check on his wishes instead of just pulling the plug. At her request, I asked him several times if he wanted to stay, and he just smiled. He was sizing up the whole situation, trying to determine how strong his body was and if he could live longer. His soul sat on the fence for over a year while his body gained strength. Eventually, he left hospice and moved into a nursing facility, where he lived for several months. He couldn’t speak and was quite limited in what he could do, but he didn’t care. He loved that he was still alive.

Several months later the woman called me for another check-in with her cousin’s soul because his personality had changed. I was excited to see him and find out how he was, but I was surprised to discover that his soul was no longer all smiles. He had a serious look on his face and was three-quarters down the slide. His soul was getting tired of being in a limited body and told me he was finally ready to surrender his body and go home to heaven. I asked him if anything was preventing him from going now, and he said that he was waiting to finish up some important karmic business with someone and then he’d go. My client told me that a week later, an old friend of his who he hadn’t seen in months stopped by for a chat, and shortly after his friend left, he passed away.


Echo Bodine is the bestselling author of Echoes of the Soul, The Gift, A Still, Small Voice, and most recently, What Happens When We Die. She is a renowned spiritual healer, psychic, and teacher who lectures widely on intuition, spiritual healing, and life after death. She also has a monthly radio show and popular blog. Visit her online at echobodine.com.
Excerpted from the book What Happens When We Die ©2013 by Echo Bodine. Published with permission of New World Library.

Exit Points

hotairballoonby Echo Bodine

When I give lectures on dying and life after death, people often ask if the timing of our death is written in stone. The answer is: sometimes. Our astrological charts include what are called exit points. These are important times when our soul can choose to be done with this lifetime. I would guess that many of you reading this have experienced the signs of being at an exit point:

  • You feel like you’re dying.
  • You have death dreams.
  • You feel an inner nudge to get your affairs in order.
  • You sleep more than usual.
  • You feel a desire to get rid of material belongings.

During exit points, the soul is taking an inventory of what it has accomplished so far and is trying to decide, with the help of the Elders on the other side, if it should continue on until the next exit point or if it wants to be done now. This is kind of like graduating from high school and choosing whether or not to go on to college. Do we want to be done with our learning or go on for more and continue our life?

The process usually lasts anywhere from three days to several months, and it can be a very intense time. A wide range of emotions and memories that need healing come to the surface. Exit points are pivotal because if our soul chooses to be done, circumstances need to be set up by the universe for death to occur.

When I was twenty-nine years old, I had a complete hysterectomy. When I woke up from surgery, my dear friend and astrologer Ginny Miller was sitting at the end of my bed and was relieved that I woke up. She ran out to tell the nurses that I was awake, and several nurses quickly came into my room to check on me. One nurse told me that I’d had them all pretty concerned, and I asked her why. She said that today was Saturday and this was the first time I had woken up since my surgery on Tuesday. I asked her why I hadn’t woken up before this, and she said they weren’t sure and maybe I was given too much anesthesia.

When the nurse left the room Ginny told me that I was at a major exit point in my chart and she had been quite worried that I was going to die. My soul obviously had decided to continue to live, but that must have been quite an interesting session on the other side with the Elders for me to have been gone that long! I had no memory of anything that happened during the five days I was gone. Since that time I’ve been aware of three other exit points in my chart, and obviously my soul continues to choose life.

Not everyone has several exit points. Some people have just one, and in that case the time of their death is written in stone. If an exit point is more about taking an inventory, the soul usually chooses to stay. When one of my closest friends discovered she had breast cancer, I checked in on her soul and saw that she was at an exit point and needed a lot of coaxing to stay here. Her soul was tired and was feeling as if my friend wasn’t doing all that she had hoped to accomplish. She felt stuck in her work and couldn’t see any other options. But the universe was being very wise in shaking her up to help her see that she did want to continue to live. She had few problems with the chemotherapy and recovered very well. Her work has expanded in ways she didn’t think were possible, and she’s grateful for all she learned through the cancer experience.

Exit points can definitely be thought of as wake-up calls for the soul.


Echo Bodine is the bestselling author of Echoes of the Soul, The Gift, A Still, Small Voice, and most recently, What Happens When We Die. She is a renowned spiritual healer, psychic, and teacher who lectures widely on intuition, spiritual healing, and life after death. She also has a monthly radio show and popular blog. Visit her online at echobodine.com.
Excerpted from the book What Happens When We Die ©2013 by Echo Bodine. Published with permission of New World Library.

A Formula for How Destiny and Free Will Work Together

destinyfreewillby David R. Hamilton Ph.D.

If you’re like most people, you’ve probably wondered whether things are meant to be: are you destined to be with that special person, or to have that job, or that friend, that dog, or that really difficult time in your life? Or do we create it all as we go along?

If you’re like me, you’ve wrestled with it for years. There were things that I felt strongly were meant to be in my life, like going to the University I attended and also doing my Ph.D. in the research group I ended up in, to even not getting the job I wanted in the pharmaceutical industry but instead getting one that exposed me to evidence of the placebo effect. This facilitated my route into writing books about the power of the mind, which I believe is my ‘destiny.’

But at the same time, I am 100% certain that I shape my own life too, sometimes through taking action to make things happen and other times when seemingly coincidental things happen shortly after I’ve been thinking about them.

I wrote my book, Is Your Life Mapped Out?: Unravelling the mystery of destiny vs. free will to attempt to set my own mind at rest. This is what I came up with:

R=IEBpFeFiOX

Before you go, Whhooooaaaaa, hey what’s with the math? it’s actually much simpler than you think. Let me explain what the letters mean.

R is the letter I use for ‘the Reality that you experience’ and it’s caused by the letters that come after it. Here’s what they mean:

I is your intention. It’s the force of you Intending for something to happen, which often results in you acting on your intentions, or subconsciously setting in motion a chain of events that move you towards your goal.

E stands for your emotions. Emotion is a powerful force. If you have an intention to achieve something but your overall emotion about it is negative, then emotion usually overrules intention and you don’t go anywhere. Alternatively, when you have a goal and you feel strongly positive when you think about it, you tend to move towards it (or attract it to you).

B stands for your beliefs. Beliefs can propel you to where you want to go or they can sabotage your efforts. Say you had a desire to be financially abundant, but had a belief that it’s wrong to have money because people are starving, or that people with money are selfish or unkind, or that money is the root of all evil, for instance. Then chances are these beliefs will overrule your intention to have money. No matter how hard you try, something will always seem to block your efforts.

You can usually tell what kind of beliefs you have about something by looking at your life. Stuff and experiences in your life that you are happy with, that tend to come easily to you, usually represent positive beliefs. Stuff and experiences you feel frustrated you’re not having usually signal negative beliefs in those areas. It’s best if your beliefs are in line with what you want to achieve.

P stands for momentum of your current experience. Just like a large ship in the ocean can’t make a sudden 90-degree turn, but turns throughout a large arc due to its weight or momentum, so most people, when they decide to make a life change, still experience elements (circumstances, types of people, etc.) of their old life for a while as their life turns in an arc rather than in a sudden straight line off to the right or left. Intention works a lot with momentum because the stronger your intention, the faster you break your momentum and the shorter the turning arc in your life.

Fe stands for external forces. These are forces in your environment that have an impact on your life and the kinds of choices you make. They can be the weather; chronobiological in terms of how the Earth’s rotation, the sun, and the moon can impact biology; they can be effects of food or anything else that represents how we interact with our natural environment. They can even represent the physical or social environment a person lives in, which can be a very strong force for some.

Fi stands for internal forces. These are what I refer to as spiritual forces. I believe that consciousness transcends time and space, and thus ‘you’ existed in some form or other before you were born on Earth. Rather than your life being a random event, then, it is likely that you were born at a particular time (given the entire span of Earth’s history), in a particular place, into a particular set of social and economic conditions, even into a particular family environment, and often with a latent skill set or direction you intended to move towards. These preconditions would set the tone of the early years of your life, which would then have a strong bearing on the kind of adult you become and the direction of your life. When I talk of destiny, this is what I refer to.

O stands for the effect of other people on you. We’re all influenced by other people either directly, by family, friends, colleagues, or even people we meet throughout our day, or indirectly, as world events affect the financial or social environment that we live and move in, or as our choices are influenced by marketing efforts, propaganda, or just information we pick up through watching or reading the media.

X is for any other forces that I haven’t though of. :) I’m sure I’ve not thought of everything.

So the reality that you experience is related to your intentions, your emotions, your beliefs, the momentum of what’s currently happening in your life, external forces, internal (spiritual) forces, and the influence of other people.

So how do these forces interact with one another? Well, I think we are born into a set of conditions and circumstances that set the landscape of our lives and its colour tones. As we travel through our landscape, we are occasionally pulled left and right and even nudged back or sucked forwards from time to time. But amid these winds, we are always choosing, always creating, always shaping our lives. It is impossible not to. Thoughts are creative. What we focus on we move towards. That, to me, is a Law. Some call it the Law of Attraction or ‘the Secret.’

Some people believe in destiny, others don’t. What I’ve written here is just my belief, coloured, perhaps, by the influences I’ve experienced in my life and also by what I’ve always sensed. In some ways, I’ve sought scientific evidence to explain what I’ve always believed.

Whether you take comfort in an overall direction you feel you’re supposed to be going in or whether you’re more motivated in taking the actions that are necessary to get to where you want to get to is up to you. We’re all different. Some are more comfortable with the former, some with the latter.

As long as you’re comfortable with whatever you personally believe, then great. Happiness and contentedness arise when we’re comfortable with our own beliefs regardless of whether there is an ultimate truth or not.

Personally, I think destiny and free will interact constantly, just as nature and nurture interact. Genes do not act out with their environment, but in relationship with it. So, too, do our hopes and dreams play out in relationship to our environment, both physical and spiritual.


David R. Hamilton has a first class honors degree in chemistry and specializes in biological and medicinal chemistry. He is the bestselling author of seven books published by Hay House, and offers talks and workshops designed to fuse science, the mind, and spiritual wisdom. He writes a regular blog at DrDavidHamilton.com as well as one for the Huffington Post. The above article was printed here with his kind permission.