My name is Angelique, and I'm 23 years old. I'm trying to figure out why I'm only attracted to musicians. I only date guys who are in a band, and as you might imagine, these guys aren't always the best boyfriend material! I've been through so much drama as a result of this strong attraction that it's driving me crazy! I've felt like this since I was 12 years old, and now I'm ready for a higher level of experience, but I can't help the fact that I'm only attracted to musicians. I'm starting to wonder if this is a past life thing. Do you think that could be the case? I'd appreciate your advice on how to break free of this pattern. Love and light!
Angelique
Dreamchaser:
I have dated a musician or two in my time, and I'd like to point out that it is who a person is and not what they do for a living that affects how they act in relationships.
A guy who goes to work in a factory could be just as prone to cheat as a guy in a band. Granted, there are a lot more girls throwing themselves at guys in bands than there are girls throwing themselves at factory workers, but if a musician decides to be faithful, he or she will be.
I think you're attracted to musicians because you like all the drama. You like the hunt, the catch and the kill, and then (to put it succinctly) you bore quickly. You date musicians because it is thrilling to see if you can snare one. Of all the women he had to pick from, he chose you, and that is definitely a big ego rush. You are addicted to that rush as well.
The lifestyle is another thing you find thrilling. In your mind, it is boring to go home from work, throw in a microwave dinner and watch television. You love to be out in the nightlife with the crowds and the music. You like watching the sun come up. You are addicted not just to musicians, but to this lifestyle. So you can see you have quite a few issues going on here.
Over the past few weeks, I have been talking a lot about the law of attraction and a wonderful new movie called The Secret. You can use this universal law to manifest what you want. In other words, you can have a guy who is both a musician and has the qualities you want in a boyfriend. Someone who is exciting, balanced and faithful is very attainable, Angelique.
There are lots and lots of working musicians who live like normal people when they're not on stage. You could have the best of both worlds. However, I am not sure you are ready to compromise your lifestyle for a higher level of experience
, as you put it, so be careful what you wish for, as you will get it!
If you really want to break this musician habit, just do it. When you go on a diet, you just say no to cookies. When you try to quit drinking, you just say no to alcohol. When you are trying to quit musicians, just say no to musicians. It can be that simple.
Figure out what you want and only say YES to that. There is no magick spell or easy way to do it - you just have to do it. Since this has been so difficult for you in the past, however, I must question whether you are truly ready to quit musicians for good, so you might want to try to manifest a musician who makes a great boyfriend instead.
I wish you a deeply fulfilling love life!
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Astrea:
Many young girls are attracted to musicians, actors, and other people in the limelight. A psychologist might say you are attracted to musicians because you don't want to show off yourself, but you do want to be with someone people know and recognize. In a way, when we're with someone famous or well known, some of their notoriety rubs off on us, and it's like we're on stage too.
Some girls only feel special when someone significant like a musician chooses them over all the other girls who hit on him. They may seek the company of bad boys and flakes because they can't get a date with a stock broker, and think that they don't deserve a great boyfriend or authentic love.
They repeat this behavior over and over again until they either learn that they ARE worthy, or they move on to a different form of the same experience. These are just lost girls with low self-esteem who are trying to feel important through others.
In your case, however, this absolutely does stem from past life experiences. It goes all the way back to ancient Greece when the muses (the goddesses of art, dance, poetry and music) were worshiped and revered alongside the other gods and goddesses.
Every art form had its own muse, and musicians got three of the nine. Their names are Polyhymnia (muse of sacred song) Calliope (muse of epic song) and Euterpe (muse of lyric song). Euterpe is the one that is pertinent here.
I see that you were a priestess in the Temple of Euterpe for many years. Most likely, you were dedicated to that goddess because one or both of your parents were musicians, and they made an offering of you to this goddess to boost their own success.
You became the High Priestess of that cult when you were 19, and served as the Lady of the Temple for a long time. This is why you carry the need to inspire musicians now. Of course, in that lifetime, you never married or had any children, but you did learn to read and write, which was almost unheard of during those times.
You've carried a strong attraction to musicians ever since that experience. In fact, you are always going to want to be around music, and there is nothing wrong with that! It's a big part of you even if you don't feel compelled to sing or play an instrument yourself.
Even though it seems like musicians are poor choices for mates, that is not always the case. I have dear friends who are musicians who have nice homes, marriages, kids and educations. At your young age, those guys are few and far between, but they ARE out there.