Advice: Connect with Departed Loved Ones in Dreams

throughfogDear Kajama:
In a recent email reply to me, you stated that there are many things that I can do to both remember my dreams and to consciously manifest the dream experiences I desire. (I very much want to connect with a departed loved one via my dreams, but I doubt that I dream at all since I can never remember my dreams.) Can you please elaborate and help me understand how I can work with my dreams so that I can be successful in connecting with my beloved angel Sam? I desperately want to dream of him so that I can be with him one more time. Thanks for all of your help.

Dear Del:

There is a definite correlation between our ability to remember and work with our dreams and our ability to manifest other psychic experiences like connecting with departed loved ones. In fact, a great way to begin to develop psychically is by working with your dreams. Since you also want to visit with a loved one in your dreams, then learning how to work with your dreams in a general way is where we should start.

While many people believe that they don’t dream because they can’t remember dreaming, everyone does dream. What you need to do is build a stronger bridge between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind, for this is at the heart of remembering and working with your dreams and also psychic feats like tuning in to your intuition and learning how to connect with spirits.

I will give you my number one most powerful tip for remembering your dreams in detail first: allow yourself to wake up and fall asleep many times every morning. If you allow yourself to linger in that hazy state of mind somewhere between being asleep and dreaming and being wide awake, you will begin to remember all sorts of dreams. If you can’t sleep in because you must be somewhere at a certain time, then set your alarm for 90 minutes before you have to get up and hit the snooze button over and over. This one practice alone should get things really rolling for you, but here are some other tips for remembering your dreams:

  • Don’t drink alcohol before bed.
  • Record your dreams by writing down everything you can remember of them and their overall feeling as soon as you wake up. If you wake up at 2 a.m. remembering a dream, jot down a couple of key words to help you remember it in the morning. When you wake up in the morning, review those scribbles and write down the rest. If you can’t remember dreaming in the morning, then write down your mood when you awaken and anything else that comes to mind. Try stream of consciousness journaling.
  • Most of us only remember the last dream we had, so to remember more dreams, you can also try programming yourself to wake up periodically throughout the night. As the average sleep cycle is around 90 minutes, you might set an alarm to wake you up every hour and a half or so, at least during the second half of the night when your need for deep sleep has been met and you’ll be spending more time in REM.
  • When you awaken in the morning, don’t open your eyes or change position. Being in the same position you were in when you were dreaming aids dream recall.
  • Read about dreams, especially at night before you’re going to sleep. I highly recommend books by my favorite author on dreams, Robert Moss. He also teaches wonderful workshops around the world.
  • Tell the Universe what you want, and work with the law of attraction to manifest it.

There are of course some very powerful ways to both build that bridge between your subconscious and conscious minds and to foster your aim of connecting with a loved one in Spirit. One is regular meditation, and the other is learning how to astral travel. There are vast and wonderful books written on both of these subjects, so I won’t go into details here. I do, however, want to recommend the books of Bruce Moen, who travels into the dimension of the afterlife to connect with departed loved ones and help lost spirits. You can learn how to astral travel and find the one you’re looking for yourself.

I was pondering this column as I was falling asleep last night, and I realized that I hadn’t been visited in my dreams by my father in some months now. I then awoke around 2 a.m. and realized I had just had a wonderful dream. In the dream, I was invited/allowed to ride this special train with my father. I couldn’t really see him, but I could feel him all around me. There was music playing throughout the train, and it was the music of my beautiful memories of him. I rode this train for a long time, much of that time, crying tears of love and joy as I listened to the music of those beautiful memories. I remember knowing that I was allowed to ride this train for as long as I desired, so I rode and rode that train, listening and crying and reliving those memories. When I awoke, I had this deeply satisfied feeling, like my desire for more time with my Dad had at last been satisfied. I also repeated to myself, Dad, train, music every time I awoke throughout the night so I would be sure to remember this important dream in the morning.

Finally, I’m working on a system to teach people both how to connect with their loved ones in dreams and in a trance state. Given that I’m quite a perfectionist, it’s proving to be quite a challenge. Stay tuned; I will get it done one day!

РKajama hearticontiny

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