Month: January 2013

Double Vision: Atoning for Past Life Sins

Dear Susyn and Oceania:

During a past life reading, I was told that I was a male in a past life and in that life I killed three people. This is very upsetting for I believe that all life is sacred. How do I atone for this? Usually in past life readings, the person is told that they were the victim of some trauma, but in this case, I’m the perpetrator. What do I do with this information?

– Priya


Susyn’s answer:
We all come into this life with past karma for which we are responsible, and we all tend to focus on those past life events in which we were wronged more than those in which we did wrong to someone else. I want to reassure you that that your ability to rectify this situation is already built into your life path, so it will not be as difficult to atone for this as you might imagine.

When we take another’s life in a previous incarnation, our goal becomes to give them life in some way in the future. There are many ways to do this; giving birth to children is one of many examples. Other instances may involve mentoring young people who have lost their way or giving selflessly to those who are less fortunate than we are.

It is important to remember that all our life experiences – past, present and future – are vital to our destinies. They are finely interwoven in ways we can’t even imagine. Life is sacred, but part of the sanctity of life includes the processes of birth and death. We have all taken actions we regret or faced life-changing events that seemed negative at the time. When we change our ways and begin to do things differently in the future, it’s because we have learned important life lessons.

If the thought of having killed people in your past lives continues to haunt you, I recommend that you do more investigation to learn who these people were. You could do this through additional readings. Revisiting the psychic who revealed this to you should be a good way to attain more information.

You can also ask Spirit to show you exactly who these people were, what happened to provoke their deaths, and if they are familiar to you in this lifetime. In this way, you will gain a clearer picture of the type of past life karma you are dealing with. One way or another, people with whom we have serious past life karma find their way back to us. If they are not in your life now, you are sure to encounter them in the future, if not in this life then a future life.

Meditating on forgiveness will also be essential to your healing process; it will open the door to making amends with anyone you have harmed or who has harmed you. Carrying guilt for something you did in a past life is pointless. Finding an opportunity to make things right is priceless, but it must happen in its own time.

Now that you have been made aware of your actions in a past life, new doors to higher consciousness will rapidly begin to open. You can trust that you will be given a chance to rectify old transgressions soon; you may even discover that you have already done so.

– Susyn


Oceania’s Answer:
Just because someone tells you something in a reading doesn’t make it so. Readers are imperfect human beings who have bad days, so if what you learned doesn’t ring true, you should disregard it. I admire your sense of responsibility, but dwelling on a past life can be a way of avoiding your present one. The same holds true within a given lifetime; while I often advocate looking back to childhood for the purpose of healing and understanding oneself, spending too much time on this can detract from our quality of life today.

Trying to undo or make up for past mistakes can lead to further mistakes because when we’re looking back, we’re not paying attention to what’s in front of us! If a wrong can’t be undone or if rectifying it would cause further harm to ourselves or others, our focus should be on our behavior in the present and ensuring a better track record now and in the future.

Let’s assume for a moment that what the reader told you was true and that you killed three people. Do you know WHY you killed them? Without knowing the context of the events and your motivation, it’s impossible to determine what atonement, if any, would be appropriate.

You called yourself a perpetrator, but you might have been a hero! Perhaps you killed in self-defense or to protect your family. Maybe you killed in the line of duty as a soldier defending his country, or as a law enforcement officer protecting his community. If your motive for killing was honorable, no atonement would be necessary.

In his 2012 book The Righteous Mind, social psychologist Jonathan Haidt describes those moral values that tend to show up in all cultures: respect for authority and tradition, sacredness, loyalty, fairness, and caring for others, especially those who are less fortunate. In Western democratic societies, liberty or personal freedom is also highly valued. Each of us has a moral fingerprint based upon how we rank the importance of those five or six values.

Political conservatives tend to value all six dimensions equally. Libertarians favor liberty above all the rest, and political liberals tend to favor caring for others as their primary value. You might fall into the latter group since you’re very upset that you violated the value of caring for others, but you should consider that you may have been defending another moral value when you did so.

Past mistakes can inspire us to choose more wisely in the future, so if you killed for a less than honorable reason, you can atone by assessing your present-day values and upholding them with conviction in the future.

– Laurie

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Double Vision: Dreaming that Departed Loved Ones are Really Alive

Dear Susyn and Oceania:

My grandmother died of cancer on January 15, 2008. I was extremely attached to her and saw her as my mother. We had a deep bond and when she died I felt as though she took part of me with her and I kept part of her here with me. I dream about her often, and am wondering if she is visiting me in these dreams. I have a reoccurring dream where she shows up at my aunt’s house (which was her house before she passed). She is my bedroom doorway and I am in total shock, saying I have missed you so much I thought you were dead! She does not respond to this, she just smiles and hugs me and acts like nothing ever happened. I also have had dreams where she calls me and tells me that she is still alive. My brother has had dreams where he wakes up in the middle of the night thinking there is an intruder in his home and gets his gun and goes searching through the house and goes into the basement, only to find it is her hiding in our house as if she never passed on. I often get the feeling she is looking over me and protecting me but I am just so unsure so I would like another opinion. What do these dreams mean? Is she visiting me and my brother in our dreams? Is she watching over and protecting me? Thank you for taking the time to read and respond, it means a lot.

Brittany

Susyn’s Answer:

Your grandmother has never left your side and is most assuredly visiting both you and your brother through your dreams. Although she has left the physical plane, her soul continues to remain close to you and all her loved ones.

It must be very comforting when your grandmother pops up at your aunt’s house as if nothing has happened in these dreams. The dream phone calls in which she tells you that she is still alive are indicative of the fact that she still exists and is reaching out to you from a different realm. You can’t see or touch her, but you can sense her spirit and hear her voice clearly. It is her way of letting you know that, despite all evidence to the contrary, she remains close by, watching over and protecting you.

I am certain that she sends you additional signs during your waking hours, so watch for certain aromas, music or flowers that trigger memories of her. You may feel a sudden breeze or hot and cold temperature changes for no apparent reason. When this happens, it is proof that she is around.

Your brother’s dreams are quite telling as well. He and your grandmother may not have been as close to each other as you were. The dreams in which he hears noises and goes in search of an intruder, only to find your grandmother hiding in the basement, suggest that he may not be as open to the idea of her spirit visiting him. Perhaps when he was growing up they used to play hide and seek games, and that is why she does this in his dreams. Perhaps she is wary of unnerving him, so she lets him seek her out.

When our loved ones die, they do not just disappear; many remain close to us to watch over and protect us. Some people refuse to believe in spirit contact, but for those of us who have been exposed to it firsthand, as you and your brother have, the experience is very real. You can trust what your instincts are telling you. In fact, the more you trust them, the more contact your grandmother can make with you.

When you have one of these dreams or sense her spirit around you during the day, this is the perfect time to stop and visit with her. If there are things you would like to share, questions you want to ask, or you simply want to tell her how much you love her, now is the time to do it. Of course, you don’t have to wait for this to happen; you can call her spirit to you through prayer and meditation whenver you desire. I recommend a channeling session with a psychic if you would like even more communication and validation that she is near.

-Susyn

Oceania’s Answer:

I’m sorry for the loss of your grandmother, who was clearly a mother to you. What you wrote about loss is true: A part of us goes with the person who dies, and a part of them stays here with us.

I don’t know if your grandmother is visiting you in your dreams, but I do know your dreams are part of your grieving process. In one dream, you’re able to freely express your truth about how much you have missed her. It’s a refreshing feeling when we can be honest and genuine with someone, as you could be with your grandmother. I recommend that you join a grief group where you can safely process and honor your emotions, and be heard and accepted in return. It’s important that you find other people you can be truthful with.

Your wise unconscious mind comforts you with recurring dreams about your grandmother’s smiles and hugs. Her warm and affectionate nature clearly enriched your life. You need to talk about how much she meant to you, which is another reason a grief group would be beneficial. It’s also important to find other people whose smiles and hugs you can enjoy.

Dreams of the deceased calling to say they’re alive are very common when we’re grieving, for we try to alleviate our emotional pain by imagining that our loved one is still alive. As your brother is experiencing a similar dream, he would probably be a good person for you to grieve with. I recommend the two of you look through old photographs of your grandmother and share memories of her.

Of course you yearn to have her back, but it’s in the natural order of things that grandparents and parents pass before we do. In their wake, we have an opportunity to parent ourselves. It seems that something prevented your biological mother from mothering you. Perhaps she died young or was unavailable to you due to illness, addiction or other circumstances. What a blessing that you had a grandmother who could fill your mother’s shoes! It’s very possible you have some grief work to do about your mother as well.

Your mother’s absence or dysfunction likely prevented you from internalizing and developing your own strong inner mother, which may have left you overly dependent upon your grandmother. You might now turn to a therapist or a reader here to serve as a surrogate mom, and also strengthen your ties with your female friends. I’m certain your grandmother is watching over and protecting you, but your task at hand is to develop your own maternal energy so that you can directly nurture and comfort yourself.

-Laurie

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Double Vision: Dreaming that Departed Loved Ones are Really Alive

Dear Susyn and Oceania:

My grandmother died of cancer on January 15, 2008. I was extremely attached to her and saw her as my mother. We had a deep bond and when she died I felt as though she took part of me with her and I kept part of her here with me. I dream about her often, and am wondering if she is visiting me in these dreams. I have a reoccurring dream where she shows up at my aunt’s house (which was her house before she passed). She is my bedroom doorway and I am in total shock, saying I have missed you so much I thought you were dead! She does not respond to this, she just smiles and hugs me and acts like nothing ever happened. I also have had dreams where she calls me and tells me that she is still alive. My brother has had dreams where he wakes up in the middle of the night thinking there is an intruder in his home and gets his gun and goes searching through the house and goes into the basement, only to find it is her hiding in our house as if she never passed on. I often get the feeling she is looking over me and protecting me but I am just so unsure so I would like another opinion. What do these dreams mean? Is she visiting me and my brother in our dreams? Is she watching over and protecting me? Thank you for taking the time to read and respond, it means a lot.

Brittany

Susyn’s Answer:

Your grandmother has never left your side and is most assuredly visiting both you and your brother through your dreams. Although she has left the physical plane, her soul continues to remain close to you and all her loved ones.

It must be very comforting when your grandmother pops up at your aunt’s house as if nothing has happened in these dreams. The dream phone calls in which she tells you that she is still alive are indicative of the fact that she still exists and is reaching out to you from a different realm. You can’t see or touch her, but you can sense her spirit and hear her voice clearly. It is her way of letting you know that, despite all evidence to the contrary, she remains close by, watching over and protecting you.

I am certain that she sends you additional signs during your waking hours, so watch for certain aromas, music or flowers that trigger memories of her. You may feel a sudden breeze or hot and cold temperature changes for no apparent reason. When this happens, it is proof that she is around.

Your brother’s dreams are quite telling as well. He and your grandmother may not have been as close to each other as you were. The dreams in which he hears noises and goes in search of an intruder, only to find your grandmother hiding in the basement, suggest that he may not be as open to the idea of her spirit visiting him. Perhaps when he was growing up they used to play hide and seek games, and that is why she does this in his dreams. Perhaps she is wary of unnerving him, so she lets him seek her out.

When our loved ones die, they do not just disappear; many remain close to us to watch over and protect us. Some people refuse to believe in spirit contact, but for those of us who have been exposed to it firsthand, as you and your brother have, the experience is very real. You can trust what your instincts are telling you. In fact, the more you trust them, the more contact your grandmother can make with you.

When you have one of these dreams or sense her spirit around you during the day, this is the perfect time to stop and visit with her. If there are things you would like to share, questions you want to ask, or you simply want to tell her how much you love her, now is the time to do it. Of course, you don’t have to wait for this to happen; you can call her spirit to you through prayer and meditation whenver you desire. I recommend a channeling session with a psychic if you would like even more communication and validation that she is near.

-Susyn

Oceania’s Answer:

I’m sorry for the loss of your grandmother, who was clearly a mother to you. What you wrote about loss is true: A part of us goes with the person who dies, and a part of them stays here with us.

I don’t know if your grandmother is visiting you in your dreams, but I do know your dreams are part of your grieving process. In one dream, you’re able to freely express your truth about how much you have missed her. It’s a refreshing feeling when we can be honest and genuine with someone, as you could be with your grandmother. I recommend that you join a grief group where you can safely process and honor your emotions, and be heard and accepted in return. It’s important that you find other people you can be truthful with.

Your wise unconscious mind comforts you with recurring dreams about your grandmother’s smiles and hugs. Her warm and affectionate nature clearly enriched your life. You need to talk about how much she meant to you, which is another reason a grief group would be beneficial. It’s also important to find other people whose smiles and hugs you can enjoy.

Dreams of the deceased calling to say they’re alive are very common when we’re grieving, for we try to alleviate our emotional pain by imagining that our loved one is still alive. As your brother is experiencing a similar dream, he would probably be a good person for you to grieve with. I recommend the two of you look through old photographs of your grandmother and share memories of her.

Of course you yearn to have her back, but it’s in the natural order of things that grandparents and parents pass before we do. In their wake, we have an opportunity to parent ourselves. It seems that something prevented your biological mother from mothering you. Perhaps she died young or was unavailable to you due to illness, addiction or other circumstances. What a blessing that you had a grandmother who could fill your mother’s shoes! It’s very possible you have some grief work to do about your mother as well.

Your mother’s absence or dysfunction likely prevented you from internalizing and developing your own strong inner mother, which may have left you overly dependent upon your grandmother. You might now turn to a therapist or a reader here to serve as a surrogate mom, and also strengthen your ties with your female friends. I’m certain your grandmother is watching over and protecting you, but your task at hand is to develop your own maternal energy so that you can directly nurture and comfort yourself.

-Laurie

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